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Can I EFT My Way To Happiness?

Introduction

Climate change, political unrest, inflation, overpopulation, debts, pandemic and the list goes on and on. In the midst of all of this, it is no surprise that humans are facing a mental health crisis. According to Gallup&rsquo;s latest Global Emotions Report, 40% of adults reported feeling stressed or worried<a href="#accordion">[1]</a>. Approximately 190 million people reported greater stress levels in 2020 than in the previous years<a href="#accordion">[1]</a>. Moreover, the poll labeled 2020 as the most stressful year in recent history.&nbsp;

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The increasing stress levels in the population has compelled people to look for complementary therapies such as yoga, acupuncture, and meditation.&nbsp;

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One such intervention that has recently gained popularity is the practice of the emotional freedom technique (EFT). Similar to acupuncture, massage, and tai chi, EFT relies on a body-mind connection and aims to relieve <a href="merisehat.pk/disease/stress">stress</a> and improve one&rsquo;s mental health.&nbsp; 
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Understanding the Science Behind Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

In 1979, Dr. Roger Callahan was working with a patient named Mary who had an extreme fear of water<a href="#accordion">[2]</a>. Despite trying several different anxiety reduction techniques such as clinical hypnosis, behavioral therapy, progressive relaxation, and systematic desensitization, he was unable to make any progress.&nbsp;

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One day, Mary complained that whenever she thought of water, she felt a strange sensation in the pit of her stomach. Relying on the acupuncture point linked to the stomach meridian, Dr. Callahan asked Mary to tap right below the eye. Much to everyone&rsquo;s surprise, Mary immediately reported having completely recovered from her phobia. So much so that she got up and ran to the swimming pool to splash water on her face. Prior to the tapping, Mary could not even walk near the edge of the pool due to her fear.&nbsp;

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Callahan concluded that tapping at a certain point while thinking of the fear can help reduce or eliminate the fear completely. He called his technique Thought Field Therapy (TFT).&nbsp;

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Later, his student Gary Craig developed his own tapping technique, the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). Also called EFT tapping, it is an alternative therapy that is often used for treating post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) besides many other conditions.&nbsp;

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EFT involves tapping all the meridians in sequence, in no particular order, while repeating a reminder phrase at each tapping point. The reminder phrase addresses the person&rsquo;s fears and thoughts related to the problem. For example, one can say &lsquo;Even though I have (state the problem), I deeply and completely accept myself&rsquo;.&nbsp;

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Based on the Chinese practice of acupuncture, EFT relies on the movement of the body&rsquo;s energy. By tapping certain points, it aims to stimulate the energy pathways and improve the flow of energy.&nbsp;

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There are 9 major tapping points in EFT which are as follows:&nbsp;&nbsp; 1. Karate Chop (KC) – It corresponds to the small intestine meridian and is located on the outside soft part of the hand between the wrist and the pinky finger, the same part that you would use to karate chop something.2. Eyebrow Point (EB) – It corresponds to the bladder meridian and is located at the beginning of the eyebrows, close to the bridge of the nose.3. Side of Eye (SE) – It corresponds to the gallbladder meridian and is located on the bone near the corner of the eyes.4. Under Eye (UE) – It corresponds to the stomach meridian and is located on the bone directly beneath the eyes.5. Under Nose (UN) – It corresponds to the governing vessel meridian and is located between the upper lip and the nose.6. Chin Point (CP) – Also known as Under the Mouth (UM), it corresponds to the central meridian and is located between the chin and the lower lip.7. Collarbone Point (CB) – It corresponds to the kidney meridian and is located where the collarbone, sternum, and first rib meet in the center.&nbsp;8. Under Arm (UA) – It corresponds to the spleen meridian and is located on the side, 4 inches below the armpit.&nbsp;9. Top of Head (TH) – It corresponds to the governing vessel meridian and is located directly on the top of the head. The person or the practitioner can tap on specific points while repeating the chosen phrase. Use 2 or more fingertips and repeat the taps 5 times on each point.

Over the years, EFT tapping has proven effective for various conditions. A study including more than 200 participants assessed 6 clinical EFT workshops and found the tapping technique to improve multiple psychological markers of health<a href="#accordion">[3]</a>. There was a significant decline in anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), pain, and cravings. Moreover, the participants reported an increase in happiness.&nbsp;

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A 2016 systematic review assessed the EFT&rsquo;s effect on anxiety scores across 14 studies<a href="#accordion">[4]</a>. Compared to the control group, the emotional freedom technique demonstrated a significant decrease in anxiety scores.&nbsp;

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Yet another study looked at the EFT&rsquo;s effect on depression and found it to be more effective than other interventions in reducing depressive symptoms<a href="#accordion">[5]</a>. EFT has also been shown to decrease cortisol levels ,thus, contributing to reducing stress in individuals<a href="#accordion">[6]</a>.&nbsp; 
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As more and more people move toward complementary and alternative treatment options, several ancient techniques are becoming popular among people once again.&nbsp;

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Acupuncture is a part of Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM). Where EFT was a tactile, non-penetration technique, acupuncture involves the insertion of very fine needles at certain points in the body. The various acupuncture points in the body correspond to meridians or pathways that allow energy to flow through the body. While it is unclear how the technique brings about success, it is believed that by targeting certain points in the body, acupuncture can restore the body&rsquo;s energy balance.&nbsp;

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According to the National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health, acupuncture can help treat neck pain, back pain, osteoarthritis, knee pain, and headache<a href="#accordion">[7]</a>. Moreover, compared to a sham (placebo) control, the practice has shown success in treating chronic pain<a href="#accordion">[8]</a>. However, the therapy is associated with a few risks such as bruising, bleeding or soreness at the needle insertion site. Therefore, it is mostly contraindicated in people on warfarin therapy.&nbsp;

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Tai chi is another ancient Chinese tradition that relies on the flow of energy through the body through various postures and movements. Although initially developed as a self-defense method, it is effective in regulating mood, and improving symptoms of depression and anxiety<a href="#accordion">[9][10]</a>.&nbsp; 
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Conclusion

Unlike conventional treatments, the emotional freedom technique is inexpensive, less time-consuming, painless, and it can be self-administered. Other alternative therapies such as acupuncture and tai chi have also been shown to improve one&rsquo;s mental health. However, despite the benefits, alternative therapies are often met with criticism.&nbsp;

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It is important to note that complementary medicine does not advocate for complete avoidance of western medicine. Instead, it provides patients, who are resistant to available interventions, with an alternative treatment option.&nbsp;

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While the majority of these methods are not associated with any adverse effects, it is best to first consult an experienced professional before starting any form of therapy.&nbsp;

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Key Points

<ul><li>Emotional Freedom Techniques, also called EFT tapping, is an alternative therapy often used for treating post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and many other conditions.&nbsp;</li><li>It involves tapping all the meridians in sequence, in no particular order, while repeating a reminder phrase at each tapping point. The reminder phrase addresses the person’s fears and thoughts related to the problem. For example, one can say ‘Even though I have (the problem), I deeply and completely accept myself.’&nbsp;</li><li>There are 9 major tapping points in EFT. During the process, the person or the practitioner can tap on specific points while repeating the chosen phrase. Using 2 or more fingertips, the taps should be repeated at least 5 times on each point.</li><li>Other alternative therapies for stress include acupuncture, chi, aromatherapy, yoga, and meditation.&nbsp;</li><li>Although EFT is a relatively safe technique with no reported side effects, it's best to consult an experienced professional before starting the therapy.&nbsp;</li></ul>

[1] GALLUP. Global emotions report.

[2] History of tapping (including EFT). Thriving Now.

[3] Bach D, Groesbeck G, Stapleton P, Sims R, Blickheuser K, Church D. Clinical EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Improves Multiple Physiological Markers of Health. J Evid Based Integr Med. 2019;24:2515690X18823691. doi:10.1177/2515690X18823691

[4] Clond M. Emotional Freedom Techniques for Anxiety: A Systematic Review With Meta-analysis. J Nerv Ment Dis. 2016;204(5):388-395. doi:10.1097/NMD.0000000000000483

[5] Nelms JA, Castel L. A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis of Randomized and Nonrandomized Trials of Clinical Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) for the Treatment of Depression. Explore (NY). 2016;12(6):416-426. doi:10.1016/j.explore.2016.08.001

[6] Stapleton P, Crighton G, Sabot D, O'Neill HM. Reexamining the effect of emotional freedom techniques on stress biochemistry: A randomized controlled trial. Psychol Trauma. 2020;12(8):869-877. doi:10.1037/tra0000563

[7] Acupuncture: In depth. National Center for Complementary and Integrative Health.

[8] Vickers AJ, Vertosick EA, Lewith G, et al. Acupuncture for Chronic Pain: Update of an Individual Patient Data Meta-Analysis. J Pain. 2018;19(5):455-474. doi:10.1016/j.jpain.2017.11.005

[9] Yeung A, Chan JSM, Cheung JC, Zou L. Qigong and Tai-Chi for Mood Regulation. Focus (Am Psychiatr Publ). 2018;16(1):40-47. doi:10.1176/appi.focus.20170042

[10] Saeed SA, Cunningham K, Bloch RM. Depression and Anxiety Disorders: Benefits of Exercise, Yoga, and Meditation. Am Fam Physician. 2019;99(10):620-627.

Nimrah H. Sattar

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The Sa’as Bahu Relationship: Why There’s Friction And How To Overcome It

Overview

We all remember the early 2000s romantic comedy, Monster-in-Law. It was not only funny, tragic, and wholesome, but also quite exaggerated. But there might be some truth to this clich&eacute; after all.&nbsp;

In Pakistani society alone, we can knock on any door and find a scorned mother-in-law (MIL) who has a thousand problems with her daughter-in-law (DIL), imagined and real.&nbsp;

If you belong to a certain age group, you have heard your married friends wax poetic about how unfair and cruel their MILs are. There are a thousand television serials on local channels on this topic as well.&nbsp;

So, why does this happen and why is it so rampant? Shouldn&rsquo;t women be sticking together? Wouldn&rsquo;t you, as a MIL, want your son to be happy with his partner? Are we stuck with the curse of a clich&eacute;d daggers-drawn sa&rsquo;as-bahu relationship or can we work our way around it?&nbsp; 
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First let&rsquo;s look at some reasons why there is such an intense power struggle between the two:&nbsp; 
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	<li>Mothers who are particularly close to their sons, due to having established that dynamic early on or due to having had an unfulfilling marriage, start viewing their sons as surrogate husbands. This means that anytime someone from the outside comes and lays a claim on her son&rsquo;s affections, attention and time, there will be friction with that person. Now, imagine that person is married to your son. This leads to an underlying feeling of jealousy that is awkward to acknowledge let alone talk about. It instead comes out as unnecessary fights and nagging behavior by the MIL.&nbsp;</li>
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	<li>The son also becomes the person she reaches out to for all kinds of emotional support, so if this has been happening since the formative years, these men end up internalising the fact that their mother &ldquo;needs&rdquo; them and can&rsquo;t survive on her own. Observing her husband with this saviour complex is not easy for the DIL either and leads to a natural distaste in their relationship.&nbsp; 
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	<li><a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/how-to-manage-anxiety" target="_blank">Separation anxiety</a> is when a person&rsquo;s daily functioning is affected by the absence of the other and usually occurs due to unhealthy co-dependence. Unhealthy co-dependence between the MIL and the son leads to separation anxiety when the time comes to let the son go. Both of them will experience this anxiety to some extent and can lead to friction in the MIL-DIL relationship. The MIL subconsciously detests her DIL for causing this separation.&nbsp;</li>
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<ul>
	<li>The DIL and MIL also tend to observe the son as their source of survival in the family or society at large and are competing for the same thing: the favour of one man. This is another reason why there might be some inherent dislike between the two.&nbsp; 
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	<li>Some MILs also tend to hate those DILs who have a better financial footing than their son. Since the chances of them leaving their sons are high as they aren&rsquo;t as dependent on their husband for survival. Whether the DIL plans to or not is not relevant here. This is then taken as a personal slight since it&rsquo;s in the MIL&rsquo;s vested interest that their sons continue to have a healthy ongoing partnership. It reflects on her upbringing as well as their son&rsquo;s moral character.&nbsp;&nbsp; 
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	<li>Some MILs continue to view their sons as perpetual children where they aren&rsquo;t allowed to grow and form their own opinions or have their own life. It&rsquo;s especially true for the desi society where men aren&rsquo;t allowed to grow past the role of extremely coddled sons. This also gives rise to a controlling parenting style where the mother gets to decide how the son behaves in society at large and with the DIL as well. This naturally makes the DIL despise the mother as the controlling behaviour can and will extend to her as well.&nbsp;</li>
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	<li>There are natural feelings of envy and jealousy even outside of the relationship these two have through their son and husband. The MIL can envy the youth, beauty and opportunities the DIL has while the DIL might be jealous of the power her MIL wields.&nbsp; 
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How to Navigate it Better

The curse of the MIL and DIL relationship might have a cure and it is entirely possible for the two to have a healthy relationship not bogged down by society’s expectations and pre-set rules. Leading with compassion and empathy can go a long way and has to come from both sides.&nbsp;Some of the things you can do to combat the natural friction are:&nbsp; <ul><li>Form an independent relationship with your MIL or DIL. See each other outside of the relationship you have via your son or husband, respectively. You are both women and can sympathise with the roles you have to play in society and using this as the starting point of your relationship can help you build a healthier bond.&nbsp; </li><li>Realize that your son’s partner is not there to take him away from you. The relationship your DIL has with your son is completely different from the relationship you have with him and neither of you can replace or even emulate the other. </li><li>Every person has different needs that need to be fulfilled by different people. Your spouse is not supposed to replace every other relationship in your life and that stands true for the MIL relationship as well. Your son will always need you in the role of his mother just as he will always need your DIL in the role of his wife. And vice versa.&nbsp; </li><li>Learn to set better boundaries with each other while still being polite. Know how much you should be interfering in the life of your DIL and where it needs to stop so she can be her own person. Similarly, know which topics to not breach and where to compromise and let the other person have their opinion. Recognising each other as independent beings capable of making good decisions is key to this. </li><li>Walk away from fights in order to not escalate any situation.&nbsp; </li></ul>

Bottom Line

When someone from the outside joins a family, they won’t fit into the system starting from day one. There will always be an adjustment period where clashes and little fights are bound to break out and cause friction.&nbsp; Mother-in-laws can empathise with their daughters-in-laws as they have been in a similar role before and know what works and doesn’t. The relationship between you two will not be perfect overnight and will require work and effort each day as all relationships do. It’s important to realise that the benefits you reap for this later on are greater than the initial discomfort you might feel.&nbsp;

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Emotional Manipulation: A Guide To Recognizing Signs And Empowering Yourself

Emotions are intricate threads that weave the fabric of human relationships. They can be powerful sources of connection and understanding, but unfortunately, they can also be exploited for less noble purposes. Emotional manipulation is a subtle yet destructive tactic used by some individuals to control and manipulate others&#39; feelings and actions. In this article, we will delve into the art of recognizing the signs of emotional manipulation and equipping oneself with strategies to combat it. 
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Understanding Emotional Manipulation

Emotional manipulation is a form of psychological control where one person employs various tactics to exploit another&#39;s emotions, often for personal gain. This manipulation may not always be overt; it can manifest in the form of guilt, fear, or confusion, leaving the victim second-guessing their own thoughts and emotions. 
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<h5>Signs Of Emotional Manipulation</h5>

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	<li>Constant Criticism: Manipulators often use constant criticism as a tool to undermine a person&#39;s self-esteem. They may belittle accomplishments or offer backhanded compliments, leaving the victim feeling inadequate and uncertain.</li>
	<li>Gaslighting: This tactic involves making someone doubt their own reality. Manipulators twist facts, deny events, or shift blame, causing the victim to question their memory, perception, and even sanity.</li>
	<li>Isolation: Emotional manipulators may subtly isolate their target from friends and family, making it easier for them to gain control. They discourage healthy relationships to monopolize the victim&#39;s attention.</li>
	<li>Guilt Tripping: Manipulators excel at inducing guilt. They use statements like &quot;If you loved me, you would&hellip;&quot; to manipulate others into complying with their wishes out of guilt, rather than genuine desire.</li>
	<li>Love Bombing: In the beginning, manipulators may shower their victims with excessive attention and affection, making them feel cherished and special. However, this is often a ploy to establish control.</li>
	<li>Emotional Blackmail: This tactic involves threatening to withhold affection, approval, or resources unless the victim complies with the manipulator&#39;s demands. This breeds dependency and subservience.</li>
	<li>Shifting Goalposts: Manipulators often change the rules of engagement without notice. They may set unattainable expectations, ensuring that the victim is always striving to please them, only to be met with dissatisfaction. 
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<h5>Empowerment Through Recognition</h5>

Recognizing emotional manipulation is the first step to protecting yourself and reclaiming your emotional autonomy. Here&#39;s how to unmask these tactics:

<ol>
	<li>Trust Your Intuition: If something feels off or makes you uncomfortable, don&#39;t dismiss it. Your intuition is a valuable tool in recognizing manipulation.</li>
	<li>Stay Objective: Manipulators often use emotions to cloud judgment. Step back and evaluate situations objectively to gain a clearer perspective.</li>
	<li>Document Instances: Keep a journal of interactions that leave you feeling manipulated. This documentation can serve as a tangible reminder of the manipulation tactics being employed.</li>
	<li>Seek Outside Perspectives: Discuss your experiences with trusted friends or family members. An outsider&#39;s perspective can help you see the situation more clearly. 
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<h5>Taking Action: Strategies To Combat Emotional Manipulation</h5>

<ol>
	<li>Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries and communicate them assertively. Manipulators thrive on blurring lines; defining limits prevents them from encroaching upon your emotional space.</li>
	<li>Practice Self-Care: Invest time in activities that bring you joy and boost your self-esteem. Engaging in self-care activities can help counteract the negative effects of manipulation.</li>
	<li>Educate Yourself: Learn about emotional manipulation and manipulation tactics. Understanding how manipulators operate can arm you with the knowledge to recognize and counter their tactics effectively.</li>
	<li>Use &quot;I&quot; Statements: When discussing your feelings with the manipulator, use &quot;I&quot; statements to express your emotions and needs. This can prevent them from turning the conversation against you.</li>
	<li>Seek Professional Help: If the emotional manipulation is taking a toll on your mental well-being, consider seeking the guidance of a therapist. Therapy can provide you with coping strategies and tools to navigate these challenging situations. 
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<h5>Breaking Free And Moving Forward</h5>

Recognizing emotional manipulation is a powerful step toward freeing yourself from its clutches. It&#39;s crucial to remember that you deserve healthy, respectful relationships that empower rather than control you. By setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and seeking support when needed, you can regain control over your emotions and pave the way for healthier connections. 
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Emotional manipulation is a subtle yet potent force that can erode your <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/the-power-of-self-esteem-strategies-for-building-confidence-in-teens-by-rukhsana-rizwan">self-esteem</a> and autonomy. By understanding its signs, you can effectively combat manipulation and protect your emotional well-being. It&#39;s a journey toward empowerment and self-discovery, and with the right tools, you can break free from the cycle of manipulation and forge relationships built on mutual respect and genuine care.

Umna Salah

Unseen Scars: Navigating The Depths Of Emotional Abuse's Impact

Imagine a wound that leaves no visible mark but aches relentlessly, affecting every facet of your life. This is the nature of <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/unmasking-the-unseen-wounds-how-to-recognize-signs-of-emotional-abuse">emotional abuse</a>. Often underestimated, emotional abuse leaves a profound mark on victims, impacting both their short-term well-being and long-term mental health. In this article, we&#39;ll embark on a journey to uncover the hidden repercussions of emotional abuse, shedding light on its short- and long-term effects with a friendly and engaging tone. 
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Emotional Abuse's Impact

Emotional abuse doesn&#39;t leave bruises, but it leaves an indelible mark on a person&#39;s emotional landscape. The short-term effects are like ripples on a pond, with each one impacting a different area of life.

<ol>
	<li>Low Self-Esteem And Self-Worth: Constant criticism, belittling, and derogatory comments chip away at a person&#39;s self-esteem. Victims often start believing they are unworthy and incompetent, leading to feelings of inadequacy.</li>
	<li>Anxiety And Fear: Living in a state of uncertainty, victims of emotional abuse often become anxious, fearing the next outburst or negative encounter. This constant unease can manifest physically as well, with headaches, nausea, and even panic attacks.</li>
	<li>Isolation And Loneliness: Emotional abusers often isolate their victims from friends and family, leaving them feeling alone and without a support system. This isolation can lead to a deep sense of loneliness and helplessness.</li>
	<li>Depression: The barrage of negative emotions and manipulation can plunge victims into depression. Feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and a loss of interest in things once enjoyed are common.</li>
	<li>Difficulty Trusting: When someone you trust has betrayed that trust, it becomes challenging to believe in the intentions of others. Victims may become overly cautious and skeptical, making it difficult to form new relationships. 
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</ol>

While the immediate aftermath of emotional abuse is painful, its echoes can be even more distressing. The long-term effects seep into the core of a person&#39;s identity, influencing their choices, relationships, and mental health.

<ol>
	<li>Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD): Prolonged emotional abuse can lead to C-PTSD, a more intense version of PTSD. Flashbacks, nightmares, and emotional dysregulation are some of its symptoms.</li>
	<li>Poor Self-Image And Self-Sabotage: Long-term emotional abuse can result in a distorted self-image. Victims may engage in self-sabotaging behaviors, often avoiding opportunities due to a lack of belief in their abilities.</li>
	<li>Difficulty Forming Healthy Relationships: Emotional abuse skews the perception of what constitutes a healthy relationship. Victims might struggle to set boundaries, fear vulnerability, and have a skewed sense of love and respect.</li>
	<li>Impact On Parenting: Those who grew up in emotionally abusive households may find it challenging to break the cycle when they become parents themselves. The learned behaviors can affect their parenting style and the way they nurture their own children.</li>
	<li>Negative Coping Mechanisms: Victims might resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms such as substance abuse, self-harm, or excessive eating to numb the emotional pain they carry.</li>
	<li>Impaired Emotional Regulation: Emotional abuse can hinder the development of healthy emotional regulation skills, leading to difficulty managing and expressing emotions in a balanced manner. 
	&nbsp;</li>
</ol>

While the effects of emotional abuse are profound, they don&#39;t have to be permanent. The journey to healing requires patience, self-compassion, and often the support of professionals.

<ol>
	<li>Therapy And Counseling: Engaging in therapy, particularly cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or trauma-focused therapy, can provide tools to address the negative beliefs and emotions stemming from emotional abuse.</li>
	<li>Building A&nbsp;Support System: Surrounding yourself with people who uplift and support you is essential. Building healthy relationships can help reshape your understanding of trust and love.</li>
	<li>Learning Healthy Boundaries: Establishing and maintaining boundaries is crucial. Learning to say no, communicate effectively, and assert your needs can aid in breaking free from the cycle of abuse.</li>
	<li>Self-Care And Self-Compassion: Practicing self-care and showing self-compassion helps in nurturing your emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy and remind you of your inherent worth.</li>
	<li>Educating Yourself: Educate yourself about healthy relationships, emotional manipulation, and the effects of emotional abuse. Knowledge empowers you to recognize unhealthy dynamics and make informed choices. 
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</ol>

Emotional abuse is like a stealthy thief that robs you of your emotional well-being and self-worth. Its short-term and long-term effects can cast a shadow over your life. However, you possess the resilience to overcome its impact. By seeking help, fostering supportive relationships, and practicing self-care, you can heal and rebuild a life that&#39;s defined by your own strength, value, and happiness. Remember, the scars may be unseen, but your strength shines through as you embark on the journey to reclaim your emotional freedom.

Unmasking The Unseen Wounds: How To Recognize Signs Of Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is a subtle but devastating form of mistreatment that can leave deep psychological scars. Unlike physical abuse, its wounds are not visible, but its impact can be just as severe. Recognizing signs of emotional abuse is crucial in order to protect oneself or others from its detrimental effects. This article sheds light on the intricacies of emotional abuse, its manifestations, and offers guidance on how to recognize its hidden signs. 
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Understanding Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is a pattern of behaviour designed to undermine an individual&#39;s self-esteem, confidence, and sense of self-worth. This type of abuse doesn&#39;t involve physical harm, but it can be just as damaging, if not more so, because its effects are internal and insidious. Perpetrators of emotional abuse often manipulate, belittle, and control their victims, leaving them feeling powerless and trapped. 
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Signs Of Emotional Abuse

<ol>
	<li>Constant Criticism: A hallmark of emotional abuse is relentless criticism. An abuser might criticize every aspect of their victim&#39;s life, from appearance to choices, in an effort to erode self-confidence.</li>
	<li>Isolation: Emotional abusers often isolate their victims from friends and family, making them solely dependent on the abuser for emotional support. This isolation creates an environment where the victim feels trapped and unable to seek help.</li>
	<li>Gaslighting: <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/how-to-recognise-gaslighting-and-get-help">Gaslighting</a> involves distorting reality to make the victim doubt their perception of events. Abusers may deny their actions, manipulate situations, or even question the victim&#39;s sanity, causing confusion and self-doubt.</li>
	<li>Undermining Achievements: An emotional abuser may belittle their victim&#39;s achievements or downplay their successes. This tactic is used to make the victim feel inadequate and unworthy of recognition.</li>
	<li>Control And Manipulation: Abusers exercise control over their victims by making decisions for them, monitoring their activities, and even dictating their thoughts and emotions. Manipulation is employed to maintain dominance and subjugate the victim&#39;s autonomy.</li>
	<li>Humiliation And Insults: Public humiliation, name-calling, and insults are tactics used to demean the victim and lower their self-esteem. This behaviour reinforces the abuser&#39;s power dynamic.</li>
	<li>Emotional Withdrawal: Abusers may intentionally withhold affection, attention, or emotional support, causing the victim to constantly seek validation and approval.</li>
	<li>Threats And Intimidation: Emotional abusers may use threats, intimidation, or even violence to maintain control. This creates an atmosphere of fear and submission. 
	&nbsp;</li>
</ol>

Recognizing emotional abuse can be challenging due to its subtle nature. Victims may initially dismiss or downplay the signs, attributing them to stress or misunderstandings. However, paying attention to one&#39;s emotional state and seeking external perspective is vital.

<ol>
	<li>Trust Your Instincts: If something doesn&#39;t feel right in a relationship, it&#39;s important to trust your gut feelings. If you find yourself constantly anxious, fearful, or emotionally drained, it might be a sign of emotional abuse.</li>
	<li>Observe Patterns: Look for consistent patterns of behaviour, rather than isolated incidents. Emotional abuse is characterized by repetitive tactics aimed at maintaining control.</li>
	<li>Seek Support: Share your experiences with a trusted friend, family member, therapist, or counsellor. Their outside perspective can help you better understand if you&#39;re in an emotionally abusive situation.</li>
	<li>Document Instances: Maintain a record of instances where you&#39;ve felt belittled, controlled, or manipulated. This documentation can serve as evidence if you decide to seek help or take legal action. 
	&nbsp;</li>
</ol>

Emotional abuse can be incredibly damaging, leaving long-lasting scars on an individual&#39;s self-esteem and mental well-being. Recognizing the signs of emotional abuse is the first step toward breaking free from its cycle and seeking help. Trust your instincts, seek support, and prioritize your emotional well-being. No one deserves to be subjected to emotional abuse, and everyone has the right to live a life free from manipulation, control, and mistreatment.

How To Rekindle Love In Long-Term Relationships

We have all fallen in love madly, irrevocably and ardently. We have also seen these same overwhelming and all-consuming feelings take a back seat once the honeymoon phase is over. With time every long-term relationship stands the risk of turning stale. The feelings that ensured that your partner was all you thought about in the beginning aren&rsquo;t as intense anymore. It either turns into warm and cozy affection or you might be one of those people who have completely gone cold over your partner. Human beings have a strong predisposition to get bored of things, and even people, but this is just an inevitable consequence of familiarity. You have just had so much of your lover that you now take them for granted.&nbsp;

If you think you might have ended up at this very boring stage in your relationship then here are some ways you can rekindle the flame: 
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ways to  rekindle love

<h5>Be Mindful</h5>

Listen to your partner attentively, know what they like or don&rsquo;t like, get them flowers occasionally, drop in a flirty text in the middle of the day and make sure you are mindful of their needs. This can also include helping them with household chores or helping them run errands. These small acts of kindness go a long way in keeping love afloat.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Go On Dates</h5>

It might seem like a daunting task to schedule dates amongst work and kids and that book you had to finish but it&rsquo;s definitely worth it to bring back those initial jitters of love. You can dress up and separately reach the restaurant where you first met and be courted by your partner and forget for a moment that they are the ones you get to go home and take care of bills with the next day. 
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<h5>Cultivate Healthy Space</h5>

Quite paradoxically, one very important aspect of a healthy long-term relationship is independence. Learning to take care of your emotional needs on your own, recognising your triggers and seeking help for them if and when needed can ensure these don&rsquo;t bug your partner or you don&rsquo;t end up projecting your own pain and preoccupations on them. We have all seen or heard of people struggling at work come home and take that anger out on their partner. This is exactly what we don&rsquo;t want to do to someone we claim to love so much. Have your own hobbies and interests and let your partner have the same. Coming back to your partner after the tiniest of breaks can be extremely refreshing.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Learn How To Argue</h5>

Every relationship is at risk of moments of frustration. When our sentiments are hurt our first instinct is to argue. It&rsquo;s better to communicate your hurt instead of arguing. Learn the art of lovingly repairing the relationship, the art of forgiveness and understanding and seeing your partner&rsquo;s point of view. Understand that your partner isn&rsquo;t necessarily bad or evil but might also be reaching out to you from a place of hurt. Take little squabbles as a sign that your partner still cares enough about you to bug you over little things instead of being completely checked out. Playfully pointing this out can also make you both realise what&rsquo;s at stake in the moment.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Honest Conversations</h5>

Ask them what they would like to be appreciated for more often and what you might have been taking for granted so far. Consequently, you can let them know the same things about you. In the beginning we tend to give each other compliments about the tiniest of things, but very often, this doesn&rsquo;t continue or happen as frequently in long-term relationships. Brining this one little practice back can help reignite that lost spark and make your partner feel more appreciated.&nbsp;

Similarly, it could help to ask them what they like to be forgiven for and letting them know the same. We all carry guilt about some of our behaviours and can start resenting our partners for making us feel that way about hurting them. Brining these wounds to light and practicing <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/what-does-true-forgiveness-look-like-and-how-to-move-on-22347">mutual forgiveness</a> can help ward of these negative feelings.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Try New Things</h5>

According to research, partners who share more new experiences together experienced more intimacy than those who only shared familiar experiences. The anxiety of that new task ahead of you, holding each other&rsquo;s hand through it and successfully executing it can bring you both closer and build deeper levels of trust as well.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Document Your Love</h5>

When you try that new thing together or go to that one very interesting date, make sure to take pictures! We all make fun of people who take selfies but these are exactly the kind of things you can look back on and reminisce about the good times. It can also help remind you of all the good and happy feelings your partner brought out in you when you are particularly annoyed at them.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Touch Your Partner</h5>

This is not necessarily sexual, although that definitely helps, but small daily acts of physical intimacy and affection can help revitalise a relationship. 
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Contrary to popular belief, love is an action and not just a fleeting intense feeling that can make everything work out on its own. Every long-term relationship will require routine maintenance this is usually worth it. To find that initial spark with someone you have gotten so familiar and comfortable with can be a really interesting feeling and many older couples have reported that they found it to be a very pleasant surprise.

Warning Signs You’re In An Abusive Relationship

Humans have an inherent need to connect with each other and form strong relationships based on mental, emotional and physical bonding. This is also important for a person&rsquo;s overall wellbeing and survival in society. Sometimes, however, these relationships are the very thing that can be detrimental to our peace and happiness. In such cases we label it as an <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/shame-the-most-toxic-emotion">abusive or a toxic relationship</a>.&nbsp;

Anyone of us can end up in these harmful dynamics without realizing it. No one ever actively chooses to step into an abusive relationship. What usually happens is that they will start off as incredible adventures and turn sour our time. It&rsquo;s not easy to gauge whether a relationship might become toxic or abusive over time but there are always some warning signs you can look out for. It&rsquo;s also important to acknowledge that an abusive relationship isn&rsquo;t always a romantic relationship. Your relationships with a friend, a family member or even your boss and coworkers might also be prone to some toxicity.&nbsp; 
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Four basic principles

Abusive relationships operate on the four basic principles of verbal aggression, intimidation, manipulation and humiliation. There is an insidious erosion of your boundaries and self-respect.

Warning Signs

So here are some signs to help you identify why a certain relationship is making you feel sick and when you might need to step back.

<ul>
	<li>It&rsquo;s All Happening So Fast: We have all been raised on stories where a girl meets a guy and its love at first sight. They always go on to live happily ever after within a span of five days or even less. This, however, doesn&rsquo;t really work out in real life. If someone is moving really fast, making all kinds of magnificent claims, wants to spend time with you seven days a week and makes you feel like you have known each other forever, chances are that they aren&rsquo;t being honest about their intentions.&nbsp;</li>
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These excessive displays of affection too early on in a relationship are called &lsquo;love bombing&rsquo;. It is exactly what it sounds like. Being bombarded with too much love soon makes one feel as if they&rsquo;re being swept off their feet. This eventually leads to the individual not making any of their decisions with a clear head.&nbsp;

<ul>
	<li>They Simply Know Better: This is one of the most common way abusers start controlling you. They will lead with statements such as &ldquo;this doesn&rsquo;t really suit who you are as a person&rdquo; which entails that they know who you are better than you do. This is how control and manipulation are slowly introduced into the relationship and you lose sight of who you were before you stepped into the dynamic.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>They Were &lsquo;Just&rsquo; Joking: Your relationship might be abusive if your partner subtly puts you down, especially in front of others and then plays it off as a joke. This is a humiliation tactic and will lead to a diminishing self-esteem. This is usually done to ensure the partner never leaves or realises that they deserve better.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Hypersensitivity: Interestingly enough, even though your partner gets to joke around and make you feel bad about yourself, you can&rsquo;t do that to them. Even the tiniest of snubs can lead to an over-reaction and most often than not it is based on perceived slights rather than anything rooted in reality. Abusive partners are extremely sensitive about how their partner perceives them, behaves around them and are prone to jealousy.</li>
	<li>Jealousy: If your partner gets jealous any time your attention and efforts are engaged elsewhere then that is a huge red flag. Interestingly enough it doesn&rsquo;t even have to be another potential partner, it can be anything from a family member to a pet and sometimes even kids.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Can&rsquo;t Take No For An Answer: Abusive partners don&rsquo;t allow you to change your mind and will hold it against you when a boundary is drawn.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Inconsistency: Now, even though you aren&rsquo;t allowed to change your mind, they get to have the complete freedom to do so. It&rsquo;s very often noted in abusive relationships that there are cycles of hot and cold. One moment they can&rsquo;t live without you and the next moment they can&rsquo;t live with you. The hot and cold dynamic also keeps the abused partner coming for more in hopes that this time it will be better.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Emotional Isolation: Abusers emotionally isolate their victims in order to exercise complete control over them. This way the person being abused has no one to talk to and get an outside opinion on the relationship. This allows the abuse to continue indefinitely or until the victim realizes what&rsquo;s been happening.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>They Aren&rsquo;t Nice To Others: This is usually one of the earliest warning signs. If your partner treats you well but can&rsquo;t be nice to the waiting staff or is backbiting their friends or coworkers, then chances are that soon enough you will also suffer the same fate. There initial respect and accommodation will fade away once they are secure in the knowledge that they have you.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>They Are Perpetual Victims: Have you ever met someone who claims that all of their past relationships failed because the other person was at fault? In their life, nothing ever works out despite their best efforts. This is a very clear warning sign that once things go even slightly wrong in your relationship, you will have to accept the blame. Abusers don&rsquo;t accept blame or portray even the slightest accountability. Everything is someone else&rsquo;s fault.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>They Don&rsquo;t Communicate Openly: A very commonly noted theme in abusive relationships is that the abusive partner expects the other to read their mind and anticipate their needs. There is a lack of open and honest communication and the partner is punished for not being intuitive.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Gas Lighting: This is perhaps what wreaks the most havoc on an individual&rsquo;s self-esteem. The abusive partner tells you that everything you think or know is wrong and you are made to question your reality. If it goes on for long enough, you might start questioning everything your own brain tells you and rely solely on your partner to help you navigate through life.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>They Act Differently In Social Settings: Does your partner treat you differently when you are around others? Chances are that you are stuck in an abusive relationship. This can go two ways; they are extremely nice to you in front of others while abusive behind closed doors or vice versa.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Financial Control: This is common in relationships where the abusive partner is the sole earner. However, many people have also been scammed out of their money by their significant others. The partner controls all your expenses and you are usually not given enough to be financially secure. 
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In the end it&rsquo;s important to note that that if you have suffered from an abusive relationship or are currently in one, it&rsquo;s not your fault. One can&rsquo;t always see it coming and it&rsquo;s quite common that the heady mixture of meeting a handsome stranger and the promise of new love takes hold of us.&nbsp;

However, arming yourself with appropriate knowledge allows you to identify when something might be off about a person or a relationship. Find a healthy balance between being curious and approachable and being suspicious and careful when meeting new people.&nbsp;

Step gradually into a relationship and carefully gauge your compatibility with the new person/s you&rsquo;re introducing into your life. Relational abuse can have lasting impact on one&rsquo;s life and it&rsquo;s critical to be aware of it.&nbsp;

How Sensual Touch Can Benefit You?

Sensual touch can be a powerful tool for enhancing overall physical and emotional well-being. Whether you are in a committed relationship or exploring your own body, incorporating regular sensual touch into your daily routine can bring a range of benefits.&nbsp; 
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Benefits of Sensual Touch

We have listed some below:&nbsp;

<ul>
	<li>The Rush Of Feel-Good Hormones: One of the major benefits of sensual touch is the release of feel-good hormones such as dopamine and oxytocin. These hormones can promote feelings of relaxation, reduce stress and improve mood. This can lead to an overall increase in feelings of well-being and happiness. Interestingly enough, all this can also lead to better sleep quality and a more restful night while also boosting your immune system by increasing endorphins and decreasing cortisol. It helps release tension in the body and can enhance the overall quality of your sex life. 
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	<li>Improve Intimacy: In addition to the physical benefits, sensual touch can also improve intimate relationships. When partners tend to regularly engage in sensual touch, it can bring them closer by deepening their emotional connection and cultivate a sense of intimacy and trust. This can lead to better and increased communication, better problem-solving skills and a more satisfying sex life as you both tend to improve your understanding of each other&rsquo;s sensual preferences. It&rsquo;s not just good for your relationship but also the individual well-being of partners. When you&rsquo;re always communicating with your partner that you continue to desire them, it helps them feel good about themselves too. Regularly engaging in sensual touch can also improve sexual health by increasing blood flow to the genitals and promoting overall sexual function. 
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	<li>Consent And Communication Is Key: However, it is important to note that sensual touch should always be consensual and respectful and yes, this applies to intimate as well as long-term relationships too. Communication is key when it comes to sensual touch and both partners should always discuss boundaries and preferences beforehand. If either partner wants to disengage at any moment, their boundaries should be respected by the other. It is also important to remember that sensual touch doesn&#39;t always have to lead to an orgasm since a major misconception about sensual touch is that it involves having sex or has to lead to having sex with your partner. Simply engaging in sensual touch or cuddling with a partner can still bring many of the same benefits. 
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</ul>

sensual touch into your daily routine

There are many different ways to incorporate sensual touch into your daily routine. One way to go about it is to set aside time for sensual massages or intimate touch with your partner. This can be a great way to slow down and connect with each other on a deeper level. If you&rsquo;re single, exploring your own body through self-touch can also be a powerful tool for improving <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/the-role-of-therapy-in-improving-sexual-wellness">sexual wellness</a>. This can help you become more comfortable with your own body and preferences, which can in turn lead to better sexual experiences with future partners. 
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At the end of the day, who doesn&rsquo;t like being on the receiving end of gentle hugs and kisses? One can easily imagine how the simple act of incorporating sensual touch into your daily routine can bring a range of physical, emotional and relational benefits. Whether you are in a committed relationship or exploring your own body, taking the time to engage in sensual touch can help improve your quality of life. 
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16 Codependent Traits That Go Beyond Being A People Pleaser

Codependency is a complex and often misunderstood psychological condition that extends far beyond the common perception of being a people pleaser. While it does involve a strong desire to meet the needs of others, codependent individuals often exhibit a range of traits and behaviors that can significantly impact their own well-being. In this article, we will delve into 16 codependent traits that go beyond mere people-pleasing, shedding light on the deeper aspects of this condition. 
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profound the Traits

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	<li>Excessive People Pleasing: While people-pleasing is a component of codependency, it is not limited to it. Codependent individuals often go to great lengths to make others happy, even at the expense of their own needs and boundaries. 
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	<li>Low Self-Esteem: Codependent individuals tend to have low self-esteem and seek validation from others, often feeling unworthy of love or respect. 
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	<li>Difficulty Setting Boundaries: They struggle with setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, allowing others to overstep and infringe upon their personal space. 
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	<li>Fear Of Rejection: A deep-seated fear of rejection drives codependents to prioritize others&#39; needs and desires, often suppressing their own. 
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	<li>Control Issues: Codependents may exhibit controlling behavior, believing they can &quot;fix&quot; or &quot;rescue&quot; others from their problems. 
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	<li>Difficulty Expressing Emotions: They often struggle to express their true feelings and may avoid conflict at all costs. 
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	<li>Denial And Avoidance: Codependent individuals may deny or ignore their own needs and emotions, focusing solely on others to avoid facing their own issues. 
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	<li>Lack Of Self-Identity: Many codependents have a poorly developed sense of self, as they define themselves through their relationships with others. 
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	<li>Martyr Complex: They may adopt a martyr-like role, willingly sacrificing their own happiness for the sake of others. 
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	<li>Fixation On Dysfunctional Relationships: Codependents are often drawn to relationships with individuals who have addiction or other issues, believing they can &quot;save&quot; or &quot;change&quot; their partner. 
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	<li>Difficulty Making Decisions: They struggle with making decisions independently, relying on others to guide them. 
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	<li>Difficulty Accepting Compliments: Codependents may have a hard time accepting compliments or positive feedback, dismissing them as unwarranted. 
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	<li>Need For External Validation: They constantly seek external validation and approval, feeling empty without it. 
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	<li>Neglect Of Self-Care: Codependents often neglect self-care practices, such as exercise, healthy eating, and relaxation, in favor of caring for others. 
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	<li>Chronic Guilt And Shame: Feelings of guilt and <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/shame-the-most-toxic-emotion">shame</a> are common among codependent individuals, even when they are not at fault. 
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	<li>Enabling Behavior: Codependents often enable destructive behaviors in others, such as addiction, by shielding them from the consequences of their actions. 
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</ol>

Recognizing codependency and its various traits is the first step towards healing and personal growth. It&#39;s essential to understand that codependency goes beyond simple people-pleasing; it&#39;s a complex pattern of behavior deeply rooted in one&#39;s sense of self, relationships, and emotional well-being. If you or someone you know identifies with these traits, seeking therapy or counseling can be a valuable step toward breaking free from the cycle of codependency and developing healthier, more fulfilling relationships with others and, most importantly, with oneself.

Understanding Rumination: How To Break Free From Repetitive Thoughts

Have you ever found yourself trapped in a relentless cycle of repetitive thoughts, unable to break free? If so, you&#39;re not alone. This common mental phenomenon is known as rumination, and it can significantly impact your emotional well-being and overall quality of life. In this in-depth article, we&#39;ll explore what rumination is, why it happens, and most importantly, how you can stop these repeated thoughts to regain control over your mind. 
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key characteristics of Rumination

Rumination refers to the act of constantly thinking about the same thoughts or concerns, often with a negative or self-critical focus. It&#39;s like having a mental hamster wheel that you can&#39;t turn off, and these persistent thoughts can revolve around various topics, such as past mistakes, worries about the future, or interpersonal conflicts.

The key characteristics of rumination include: 
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<ol>
	<li>Repetitiveness: Rumination involves the same thoughts replaying in your mind, creating a loop that seems never-ending.</li>
	<li>Intrusiveness: These thoughts can intrude upon your consciousness, making it challenging to focus on other tasks or enjoy the present moment.</li>
	<li>Negativity: Ruminative thoughts often have a negative tone, amplifying your stress, anxiety, or sadness.</li>
	<li>Lack Of Problem-Solving: Unlike productive problem-solving, rumination doesn&#39;t lead to solutions or actions. It&#39;s a futile mental exercise. 
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Understanding the underlying causes of rumination is crucial for tackling this repetitive thought pattern. Several factors contribute to rumination, including: 
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<ol>
	<li>Stress And Anxiety: High-stress levels or persistent<a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/anxiety"> anxiety </a>can trigger rumination as your mind fixates on the source of stress or worry.</li>
	<li>Perfectionism: Perfectionists tend to ruminate excessively because they are preoccupied with their fear of making mistakes or falling short of their own high standards.</li>
	<li>Depression: Rumination is a hallmark symptom of depression. Depressed individuals often dwell on their feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and self-blame.</li>
	<li>Trauma: People who have experienced trauma may ruminate as a way to process and make sense of their distressing memories.</li>
	<li>Personality Traits: Certain personality traits, such as neuroticism, can make individuals more prone to rumination. 
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Now that we have a clear understanding of rumination and its causes, let&#39;s explore effective strategies to break free from this mental cycle: 
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<ol>
	<li>Mindfulness Meditation: Mindfulness practices teach you to observe your thoughts without judgment, helping you gain distance from rumination. Regular meditation can enhance your awareness and reduce the grip of repetitive thoughts.</li>
	<li>Identify Triggers: Pay attention to what triggers your rumination. Is it a specific situation, a person, or a thought pattern? Identifying triggers can help you avoid or address them proactively.</li>
	<li>Challenge Negative Thoughts: When you notice negative and repetitive thoughts, challenge them with evidence-based reasoning. Are these thoughts based on facts, or are they distorted perceptions? Replace irrational thoughts with more balanced ones.</li>
	<li>Set Time Limits: Allocate a specific time each day for &quot;rumination time.&quot; During this period, you can allow yourself to think about your concerns. When the time is up, consciously redirect your focus to more positive or productive activities.</li>
	<li>Engage In Physical Activity: Regular exercise releases endorphins, which can improve your mood and reduce rumination. Physical activity also provides an opportunity to divert your thoughts and focus on your body&#39;s sensations.</li>
	<li>Seek Professional Help: If rumination is severely affecting your life and mental health, consider consulting a therapist or counselor. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and other therapeutic approaches can provide effective tools for managing rumination.</li>
	<li>Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Recognize that everyone experiences negative thoughts from time to time. Instead of harsh self-criticism, practice self-compassion and self-care. 
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</ol>

Rumination is a common mental pattern that can hinder your happiness and well-being. By understanding its causes and implementing the strategies mentioned above, you can regain control over your mind and break free from the cycle of repetitive thoughts. Remember that overcoming rumination is a gradual process, and with patience and persistence, you can learn to live a more mindful and fulfilling life, free from the burdens of excessive rumination.

Emotional <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/how-sexual-intimacy-with-their-partner-keeps-women-young">intimacy </a>isn&rsquo;t just crucial for a long lasting and fulfilling relationship, it affects your sex life as well &mdash; does that perk up your ears yet?

Well, here&rsquo;s more: Physical intimacy can directly impact how close you feel to your partner. But how can that be true? Aren&rsquo;t sex and emotion two different things? Science begs to differ. When it comes to how our brain processes either of these things, it&rsquo;s been observed that sex and emotion affect the same pathways in the brain. 
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Emotional Relationship And  Sex Life

According to a neuroscience blog at Tufts University, sexual arousal doesn&rsquo;t happen on its own. It&rsquo;s not an isolated process and is highly impacted by our overall emotional state. Emotions, which are an evolutionary process that act as a sort of compass to tell us what our needs are in any given situation, guide us to make or unmake certain decisions.

Have you ever been in the mood for love which was ruined by unnecessary nagging by your partner? Or perhaps you were the one who said something rude and untoward and ruined a perfectly good date night? This is because we see that a deluge of negative emotions usually leads to the individual being drawn away from their partner whereas positive emotions have exactly the opposite impact.

With marriage or long-term partnerships, it seems that sex often turns into an obligation or another task to mark off your list. On top of bills, groceries and kids, who has time to actually get sexually intimate? Especially when you spend half your time arguing over these things.

We look for ways to &ldquo;spice&rdquo; up our sex lives, there are ebbs and flows to how strongly we connect with our partners depending on our moods and petty fights can lead to distance in the bedroom. But before we look for out of the box methods to achieve closeness with our <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/why-do-some-people-prefer-porn-over-sex-with-their-partners">partners</a>, here&rsquo;s a simple solution: emotional intimacy. 
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When you and your partner are emotionally attuned to each other&rsquo;s needs, this can ultimately lead to a better sex life. Emotional intimacy means being able to be transparent and open with one another, safely, which means letting each other know about feelings of appreciation, insecurities, dreams, failures, fears and embarrassments.

It also means taking care of each other&rsquo;s emotional well-being. 
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This requires one to be extremely vulnerable and forthcoming with their partner. We all know that good sex involves the ability to openly communicate with one another. One doesn&rsquo;t need to work too hard to imagine how communication in the bedroom can be improved if both partners have a healthy emotional relationship.

&ldquo;When we feel physically and emotionally safe, we may be freer to try new things, more open to new experiences, and more willing to share some vulnerable parts of ourselves. This can include exploring pleasure, gender identity, and sexual orientation,&rdquo; says Dr Sara C. Flower, VP of Education &amp; Training at Planned Parenthood, United States. 
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Ultimately, your sexual satisfaction hinges on your emotional satisfaction. It&rsquo;s all in your hands so to speak. At the end of the day, active listening, helping with house chores, regular date nights, words of affirmation and love, regularly checking in with each other, being considerate of each other&rsquo;s needs and just a hint of forgiveness and compassion can help you get laid more often.