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The Sa’as Bahu Relationship: Why There’s Friction And How To Overcome It

Overview

We all remember the early 2000s romantic comedy, Monster-in-Law. It was not only funny, tragic, and wholesome, but also quite exaggerated. But there might be some truth to this clich&eacute; after all.&nbsp;

In Pakistani society alone, we can knock on any door and find a scorned mother-in-law (MIL) who has a thousand problems with her daughter-in-law (DIL), imagined and real.&nbsp;

If you belong to a certain age group, you have heard your married friends wax poetic about how unfair and cruel their MILs are. There are a thousand television serials on local channels on this topic as well.&nbsp;

So, why does this happen and why is it so rampant? Shouldn&rsquo;t women be sticking together? Wouldn&rsquo;t you, as a MIL, want your son to be happy with his partner? Are we stuck with the curse of a clich&eacute;d daggers-drawn sa&rsquo;as-bahu relationship or can we work our way around it?&nbsp; 
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First let&rsquo;s look at some reasons why there is such an intense power struggle between the two:&nbsp; 
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<ul>
	<li>Mothers who are particularly close to their sons, due to having established that dynamic early on or due to having had an unfulfilling marriage, start viewing their sons as surrogate husbands. This means that anytime someone from the outside comes and lays a claim on her son&rsquo;s affections, attention and time, there will be friction with that person. Now, imagine that person is married to your son. This leads to an underlying feeling of jealousy that is awkward to acknowledge let alone talk about. It instead comes out as unnecessary fights and nagging behavior by the MIL.&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

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<ul>
	<li>The son also becomes the person she reaches out to for all kinds of emotional support, so if this has been happening since the formative years, these men end up internalising the fact that their mother &ldquo;needs&rdquo; them and can&rsquo;t survive on her own. Observing her husband with this saviour complex is not easy for the DIL either and leads to a natural distaste in their relationship.&nbsp; 
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	<li><a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/how-to-manage-anxiety" target="_blank">Separation anxiety</a> is when a person&rsquo;s daily functioning is affected by the absence of the other and usually occurs due to unhealthy co-dependence. Unhealthy co-dependence between the MIL and the son leads to separation anxiety when the time comes to let the son go. Both of them will experience this anxiety to some extent and can lead to friction in the MIL-DIL relationship. The MIL subconsciously detests her DIL for causing this separation.&nbsp;</li>
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<ul>
	<li>The DIL and MIL also tend to observe the son as their source of survival in the family or society at large and are competing for the same thing: the favour of one man. This is another reason why there might be some inherent dislike between the two.&nbsp; 
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	<li>Some MILs also tend to hate those DILs who have a better financial footing than their son. Since the chances of them leaving their sons are high as they aren&rsquo;t as dependent on their husband for survival. Whether the DIL plans to or not is not relevant here. This is then taken as a personal slight since it&rsquo;s in the MIL&rsquo;s vested interest that their sons continue to have a healthy ongoing partnership. It reflects on her upbringing as well as their son&rsquo;s moral character.&nbsp;&nbsp; 
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	<li>Some MILs continue to view their sons as perpetual children where they aren&rsquo;t allowed to grow and form their own opinions or have their own life. It&rsquo;s especially true for the desi society where men aren&rsquo;t allowed to grow past the role of extremely coddled sons. This also gives rise to a controlling parenting style where the mother gets to decide how the son behaves in society at large and with the DIL as well. This naturally makes the DIL despise the mother as the controlling behaviour can and will extend to her as well.&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

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<ul>
	<li>There are natural feelings of envy and jealousy even outside of the relationship these two have through their son and husband. The MIL can envy the youth, beauty and opportunities the DIL has while the DIL might be jealous of the power her MIL wields.&nbsp; 
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How to Navigate it Better

The curse of the MIL and DIL relationship might have a cure and it is entirely possible for the two to have a healthy relationship not bogged down by society’s expectations and pre-set rules. Leading with compassion and empathy can go a long way and has to come from both sides.&nbsp;Some of the things you can do to combat the natural friction are:&nbsp; <ul><li>Form an independent relationship with your MIL or DIL. See each other outside of the relationship you have via your son or husband, respectively. You are both women and can sympathise with the roles you have to play in society and using this as the starting point of your relationship can help you build a healthier bond.&nbsp; </li><li>Realize that your son’s partner is not there to take him away from you. The relationship your DIL has with your son is completely different from the relationship you have with him and neither of you can replace or even emulate the other. </li><li>Every person has different needs that need to be fulfilled by different people. Your spouse is not supposed to replace every other relationship in your life and that stands true for the MIL relationship as well. Your son will always need you in the role of his mother just as he will always need your DIL in the role of his wife. And vice versa.&nbsp; </li><li>Learn to set better boundaries with each other while still being polite. Know how much you should be interfering in the life of your DIL and where it needs to stop so she can be her own person. Similarly, know which topics to not breach and where to compromise and let the other person have their opinion. Recognising each other as independent beings capable of making good decisions is key to this. </li><li>Walk away from fights in order to not escalate any situation.&nbsp; </li></ul>

Bottom Line

When someone from the outside joins a family, they won’t fit into the system starting from day one. There will always be an adjustment period where clashes and little fights are bound to break out and cause friction.&nbsp; Mother-in-laws can empathise with their daughters-in-laws as they have been in a similar role before and know what works and doesn’t. The relationship between you two will not be perfect overnight and will require work and effort each day as all relationships do. It’s important to realise that the benefits you reap for this later on are greater than the initial discomfort you might feel.&nbsp;

Dr. Safia Mehmood

How To Rekindle Love In Long-Term Relationships

We have all fallen in love madly, irrevocably and ardently. We have also seen these same overwhelming and all-consuming feelings take a back seat once the honeymoon phase is over. With time every long-term relationship stands the risk of turning stale. The feelings that ensured that your partner was all you thought about in the beginning aren&rsquo;t as intense anymore. It either turns into warm and cozy affection or you might be one of those people who have completely gone cold over your partner. Human beings have a strong predisposition to get bored of things, and even people, but this is just an inevitable consequence of familiarity. You have just had so much of your lover that you now take them for granted.&nbsp;

If you think you might have ended up at this very boring stage in your relationship then here are some ways you can rekindle the flame: 
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ways to  rekindle love

<h5>Be Mindful</h5>

Listen to your partner attentively, know what they like or don&rsquo;t like, get them flowers occasionally, drop in a flirty text in the middle of the day and make sure you are mindful of their needs. This can also include helping them with household chores or helping them run errands. These small acts of kindness go a long way in keeping love afloat.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Go On Dates</h5>

It might seem like a daunting task to schedule dates amongst work and kids and that book you had to finish but it&rsquo;s definitely worth it to bring back those initial jitters of love. You can dress up and separately reach the restaurant where you first met and be courted by your partner and forget for a moment that they are the ones you get to go home and take care of bills with the next day. 
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<h5>Cultivate Healthy Space</h5>

Quite paradoxically, one very important aspect of a healthy long-term relationship is independence. Learning to take care of your emotional needs on your own, recognising your triggers and seeking help for them if and when needed can ensure these don&rsquo;t bug your partner or you don&rsquo;t end up projecting your own pain and preoccupations on them. We have all seen or heard of people struggling at work come home and take that anger out on their partner. This is exactly what we don&rsquo;t want to do to someone we claim to love so much. Have your own hobbies and interests and let your partner have the same. Coming back to your partner after the tiniest of breaks can be extremely refreshing.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Learn How To Argue</h5>

Every relationship is at risk of moments of frustration. When our sentiments are hurt our first instinct is to argue. It&rsquo;s better to communicate your hurt instead of arguing. Learn the art of lovingly repairing the relationship, the art of forgiveness and understanding and seeing your partner&rsquo;s point of view. Understand that your partner isn&rsquo;t necessarily bad or evil but might also be reaching out to you from a place of hurt. Take little squabbles as a sign that your partner still cares enough about you to bug you over little things instead of being completely checked out. Playfully pointing this out can also make you both realise what&rsquo;s at stake in the moment.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Honest Conversations</h5>

Ask them what they would like to be appreciated for more often and what you might have been taking for granted so far. Consequently, you can let them know the same things about you. In the beginning we tend to give each other compliments about the tiniest of things, but very often, this doesn&rsquo;t continue or happen as frequently in long-term relationships. Brining this one little practice back can help reignite that lost spark and make your partner feel more appreciated.&nbsp;

Similarly, it could help to ask them what they like to be forgiven for and letting them know the same. We all carry guilt about some of our behaviours and can start resenting our partners for making us feel that way about hurting them. Brining these wounds to light and practicing <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/what-does-true-forgiveness-look-like-and-how-to-move-on-22347">mutual forgiveness</a> can help ward of these negative feelings.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Try New Things</h5>

According to research, partners who share more new experiences together experienced more intimacy than those who only shared familiar experiences. The anxiety of that new task ahead of you, holding each other&rsquo;s hand through it and successfully executing it can bring you both closer and build deeper levels of trust as well.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Document Your Love</h5>

When you try that new thing together or go to that one very interesting date, make sure to take pictures! We all make fun of people who take selfies but these are exactly the kind of things you can look back on and reminisce about the good times. It can also help remind you of all the good and happy feelings your partner brought out in you when you are particularly annoyed at them.&nbsp; 
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<h5>Touch Your Partner</h5>

This is not necessarily sexual, although that definitely helps, but small daily acts of physical intimacy and affection can help revitalise a relationship. 
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Contrary to popular belief, love is an action and not just a fleeting intense feeling that can make everything work out on its own. Every long-term relationship will require routine maintenance this is usually worth it. To find that initial spark with someone you have gotten so familiar and comfortable with can be a really interesting feeling and many older couples have reported that they found it to be a very pleasant surprise.

Warning Signs You’re In An Abusive Relationship

Humans have an inherent need to connect with each other and form strong relationships based on mental, emotional and physical bonding. This is also important for a person&rsquo;s overall wellbeing and survival in society. Sometimes, however, these relationships are the very thing that can be detrimental to our peace and happiness. In such cases we label it as an <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/shame-the-most-toxic-emotion">abusive or a toxic relationship</a>.&nbsp;

Anyone of us can end up in these harmful dynamics without realizing it. No one ever actively chooses to step into an abusive relationship. What usually happens is that they will start off as incredible adventures and turn sour our time. It&rsquo;s not easy to gauge whether a relationship might become toxic or abusive over time but there are always some warning signs you can look out for. It&rsquo;s also important to acknowledge that an abusive relationship isn&rsquo;t always a romantic relationship. Your relationships with a friend, a family member or even your boss and coworkers might also be prone to some toxicity.&nbsp; 
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Four basic principles

Abusive relationships operate on the four basic principles of verbal aggression, intimidation, manipulation and humiliation. There is an insidious erosion of your boundaries and self-respect.

Warning Signs

So here are some signs to help you identify why a certain relationship is making you feel sick and when you might need to step back.

<ul>
	<li>It&rsquo;s All Happening So Fast: We have all been raised on stories where a girl meets a guy and its love at first sight. They always go on to live happily ever after within a span of five days or even less. This, however, doesn&rsquo;t really work out in real life. If someone is moving really fast, making all kinds of magnificent claims, wants to spend time with you seven days a week and makes you feel like you have known each other forever, chances are that they aren&rsquo;t being honest about their intentions.&nbsp;</li>
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These excessive displays of affection too early on in a relationship are called &lsquo;love bombing&rsquo;. It is exactly what it sounds like. Being bombarded with too much love soon makes one feel as if they&rsquo;re being swept off their feet. This eventually leads to the individual not making any of their decisions with a clear head.&nbsp;

<ul>
	<li>They Simply Know Better: This is one of the most common way abusers start controlling you. They will lead with statements such as &ldquo;this doesn&rsquo;t really suit who you are as a person&rdquo; which entails that they know who you are better than you do. This is how control and manipulation are slowly introduced into the relationship and you lose sight of who you were before you stepped into the dynamic.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>They Were &lsquo;Just&rsquo; Joking: Your relationship might be abusive if your partner subtly puts you down, especially in front of others and then plays it off as a joke. This is a humiliation tactic and will lead to a diminishing self-esteem. This is usually done to ensure the partner never leaves or realises that they deserve better.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Hypersensitivity: Interestingly enough, even though your partner gets to joke around and make you feel bad about yourself, you can&rsquo;t do that to them. Even the tiniest of snubs can lead to an over-reaction and most often than not it is based on perceived slights rather than anything rooted in reality. Abusive partners are extremely sensitive about how their partner perceives them, behaves around them and are prone to jealousy.</li>
	<li>Jealousy: If your partner gets jealous any time your attention and efforts are engaged elsewhere then that is a huge red flag. Interestingly enough it doesn&rsquo;t even have to be another potential partner, it can be anything from a family member to a pet and sometimes even kids.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Can&rsquo;t Take No For An Answer: Abusive partners don&rsquo;t allow you to change your mind and will hold it against you when a boundary is drawn.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Inconsistency: Now, even though you aren&rsquo;t allowed to change your mind, they get to have the complete freedom to do so. It&rsquo;s very often noted in abusive relationships that there are cycles of hot and cold. One moment they can&rsquo;t live without you and the next moment they can&rsquo;t live with you. The hot and cold dynamic also keeps the abused partner coming for more in hopes that this time it will be better.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Emotional Isolation: Abusers emotionally isolate their victims in order to exercise complete control over them. This way the person being abused has no one to talk to and get an outside opinion on the relationship. This allows the abuse to continue indefinitely or until the victim realizes what&rsquo;s been happening.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>They Aren&rsquo;t Nice To Others: This is usually one of the earliest warning signs. If your partner treats you well but can&rsquo;t be nice to the waiting staff or is backbiting their friends or coworkers, then chances are that soon enough you will also suffer the same fate. There initial respect and accommodation will fade away once they are secure in the knowledge that they have you.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>They Are Perpetual Victims: Have you ever met someone who claims that all of their past relationships failed because the other person was at fault? In their life, nothing ever works out despite their best efforts. This is a very clear warning sign that once things go even slightly wrong in your relationship, you will have to accept the blame. Abusers don&rsquo;t accept blame or portray even the slightest accountability. Everything is someone else&rsquo;s fault.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>They Don&rsquo;t Communicate Openly: A very commonly noted theme in abusive relationships is that the abusive partner expects the other to read their mind and anticipate their needs. There is a lack of open and honest communication and the partner is punished for not being intuitive.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Gas Lighting: This is perhaps what wreaks the most havoc on an individual&rsquo;s self-esteem. The abusive partner tells you that everything you think or know is wrong and you are made to question your reality. If it goes on for long enough, you might start questioning everything your own brain tells you and rely solely on your partner to help you navigate through life.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>They Act Differently In Social Settings: Does your partner treat you differently when you are around others? Chances are that you are stuck in an abusive relationship. This can go two ways; they are extremely nice to you in front of others while abusive behind closed doors or vice versa.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Financial Control: This is common in relationships where the abusive partner is the sole earner. However, many people have also been scammed out of their money by their significant others. The partner controls all your expenses and you are usually not given enough to be financially secure. 
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</ul>

In the end it&rsquo;s important to note that that if you have suffered from an abusive relationship or are currently in one, it&rsquo;s not your fault. One can&rsquo;t always see it coming and it&rsquo;s quite common that the heady mixture of meeting a handsome stranger and the promise of new love takes hold of us.&nbsp;

However, arming yourself with appropriate knowledge allows you to identify when something might be off about a person or a relationship. Find a healthy balance between being curious and approachable and being suspicious and careful when meeting new people.&nbsp;

Step gradually into a relationship and carefully gauge your compatibility with the new person/s you&rsquo;re introducing into your life. Relational abuse can have lasting impact on one&rsquo;s life and it&rsquo;s critical to be aware of it.&nbsp;

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How Your Emotional Relationship With Your Partner Affects Your Sex Life

Emotional <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/how-sexual-intimacy-with-their-partner-keeps-women-young">intimacy </a>isn&rsquo;t just crucial for a long lasting and fulfilling relationship, it affects your sex life as well &mdash; does that perk up your ears yet?

Well, here&rsquo;s more: Physical intimacy can directly impact how close you feel to your partner. But how can that be true? Aren&rsquo;t sex and emotion two different things? Science begs to differ. When it comes to how our brain processes either of these things, it&rsquo;s been observed that sex and emotion affect the same pathways in the brain. 
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Emotional Relationship And  Sex Life

According to a neuroscience blog at Tufts University, sexual arousal doesn&rsquo;t happen on its own. It&rsquo;s not an isolated process and is highly impacted by our overall emotional state. Emotions, which are an evolutionary process that act as a sort of compass to tell us what our needs are in any given situation, guide us to make or unmake certain decisions.

Have you ever been in the mood for love which was ruined by unnecessary nagging by your partner? Or perhaps you were the one who said something rude and untoward and ruined a perfectly good date night? This is because we see that a deluge of negative emotions usually leads to the individual being drawn away from their partner whereas positive emotions have exactly the opposite impact.

With marriage or long-term partnerships, it seems that sex often turns into an obligation or another task to mark off your list. On top of bills, groceries and kids, who has time to actually get sexually intimate? Especially when you spend half your time arguing over these things.

We look for ways to &ldquo;spice&rdquo; up our sex lives, there are ebbs and flows to how strongly we connect with our partners depending on our moods and petty fights can lead to distance in the bedroom. But before we look for out of the box methods to achieve closeness with our <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/why-do-some-people-prefer-porn-over-sex-with-their-partners">partners</a>, here&rsquo;s a simple solution: emotional intimacy. 
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When you and your partner are emotionally attuned to each other&rsquo;s needs, this can ultimately lead to a better sex life. Emotional intimacy means being able to be transparent and open with one another, safely, which means letting each other know about feelings of appreciation, insecurities, dreams, failures, fears and embarrassments.

It also means taking care of each other&rsquo;s emotional well-being. 
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This requires one to be extremely vulnerable and forthcoming with their partner. We all know that good sex involves the ability to openly communicate with one another. One doesn&rsquo;t need to work too hard to imagine how communication in the bedroom can be improved if both partners have a healthy emotional relationship.

&ldquo;When we feel physically and emotionally safe, we may be freer to try new things, more open to new experiences, and more willing to share some vulnerable parts of ourselves. This can include exploring pleasure, gender identity, and sexual orientation,&rdquo; says Dr Sara C. Flower, VP of Education &amp; Training at Planned Parenthood, United States. 
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Ultimately, your sexual satisfaction hinges on your emotional satisfaction. It&rsquo;s all in your hands so to speak. At the end of the day, active listening, helping with house chores, regular date nights, words of affirmation and love, regularly checking in with each other, being considerate of each other&rsquo;s needs and just a hint of forgiveness and compassion can help you get laid more often.

Slowly Fading Away: What is ‘Quiet Quitting’ a Relationship?

Quiet quitting a relationship refers to ending a romantic relationship without clearly communicating to your partner that you wish to break up. Instead, you gradually withdraw from the relationship, stop communicating as much, and make yourself less available. While this approach may seem less confrontational, it can have significant negative effects on both partners. 
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Quiet quitting a relationship

One reason people choose to quietly quit a relationship is that they may not want to hurt their partner&#39;s feelings. They may feel guilty or anxious about ending the relationship, and so they try to avoid the difficult conversation altogether. However, this approach can actually be more hurtful in the long run. When one partner starts to withdraw and become less responsive, the other partner may feel confused, rejected, and insecure. They may wonder what they did wrong or why their partner is suddenly distant. This can lead to feelings of <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/anxiety">anxiety</a>, <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/depression">depression</a>, and low self-esteem.

Another reason people choose to quietly quit a relationship is that they may not want to deal with the emotional fallout of a breakup. They may fear that their partner will become angry or upset, and so they try to avoid the conflict by withdrawing slowly. However, this approach can actually make the breakup more painful and drawn-out. When one partner starts to pull away, it can create a sense of uncertainty and tension in the relationship. The other partner may feel like something is wrong but not know how to address it. This can lead to arguments, resentment, and even more hurt feelings. 
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One of the most significant negative effects of quiet quitting a relationship is that it can damage trust and communication between partners. When one partner starts to withdraw, it can create a sense of distance and distrust. The other partner may feel like they can&#39;t rely on their partner to be honest and upfront with them. This can lead to a breakdown in communication and make it harder for both partners to express their feelings and needs. Over time, this can erode the foundation of the relationship and make it harder for either partner to feel connected or invested.

If you are considering quiet quitting a relationship, it&#39;s important to take a step back and consider the long-term consequences. While it may seem like the easier route in the short term, it can cause significant harm to both partners in the long run. Instead, try to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and concerns. It may be uncomfortable or difficult, but it can lead to a healthier and more fulfilling relationship in the future. 
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If you are on the receiving end of a quiet quitting, it&#39;s important to be proactive about addressing the situation. Don&#39;t assume that your partner&#39;s distance is a sign of disinterest or apathy. Instead, try to have an open and honest conversation with them about how you are feeling and what you need from the relationship. This can help to clarify any misunderstandings and create a stronger sense of trust and communication between partners.

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Conclusion

In conclusion, while quiet quitting a relationship may seem like an easier or less confrontational approach to ending a relationship, it can have significant negative effects on both partners. It can damage trust and communication between partners, create feelings of insecurity and rejection, and make the breakup more painful and drawn-out. If you are considering quietly quitting a relationship, it&#39;s important to take a step back and consider the long-term consequences. Instead, try to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and concerns. This can lead to a healthier and more fulfilling relationship in the future. 
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Rukhsana Rizwan

Love In A Long-Term Relationship

Everyone in a long-term relationship will tell you one thing, consistently across the board: It is hard work. Those of us who are young and uninitiated often wonder, why would you have to work in a relationship?&nbsp;

It turns out that relationships are not as linear as pop culture tells you they are. There are ups and downs, there are some very high highs and some very low lows and, in between, there is happiness, love, <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/how-sexual-intimacy-with-their-partner-keeps-women-young">intimacy </a>and all that wonderful stuff.&nbsp;

All of this has been neatly divided into five stages that all long-term relationships go through. This isn&rsquo;t a linear process but rather what happens as a cycle that you both will go through together. They are also not as clear cut or happen in neat succession, however, it&rsquo;s helpful to be deliberately reductive when trying to understand the anatomy of a long-term relationship.&nbsp;

Let&rsquo;s see what these stages are:&nbsp; 
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anatomy of a long-term relationship

This can last anywhere from two weeks to two years and is usually where you feel the initial attraction, the heady mixture of falling and soaring in love and find your partner to have absolutely no flaws. Both partners view each other through rose-coloured glasses and focus primarily on their similarities and shared interests. Red flags are ignored, incompatibilities are brushed under the carpet.&nbsp;

Our bodies also help the situation along with feel-good hormones like oxytocin and dopamine. Many people choose to end the relationship once the honeymoon phase is over and look for the next person who can provide them this very specific cocktail. They never get to experience the reward of a comfortable long-term relationship.

It&rsquo;s important to not jump into any big, serious commitments such as marriage or having a kid during this phase since both parties are currently on their best behaviour. It&rsquo;s also essential to have a support system that can identify whether you are doing the right thing and point out any red flags. Many a times you will not listen to this but just knowing these things can go a long way. This is often the shortest stage too.&nbsp; 
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This is marked primarily by doubt and denial since this is where the reality of the person you are with starts dawning on you. It might happen slowly or all at once. All that stuff you brushed under the carpet now starts bugging you, you start identifying things about them that you can&rsquo;t stand, the incompatibilities between you two start glaring at you.&nbsp;

This can trigger a fight-or-flight response. But remember that flight isn&rsquo;t always a cowardly stance and sometimes fighting for the wrong relationship can mean letting something good pass you by. Be honest with yourself about your intention behind fighting for this relationship, is it a need to be right about your earlier assessment of them? Is it denial? Is it a fear that no one else will ever put up with you again?&nbsp; 
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Either way, we end up having the face the fact that this person isn&rsquo;t the perfect soulmate we were imaging them to be and one has to come to terms with the real person in front of them. All this finally puts a stop to the honeymoon phase and wakes you up from the dream. But this is also where the real relationship begins. Once you are done grieving the loss of your personal idea of who your partner was, you can work with them to create an environment where both of you come together to celebrate your similarities and work through your differences.&nbsp; 
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Now, if those wake-up calls are about small things that can be remedied, such as your partner not putting the laundry in the right place, then that can be worked through. Fundamental differences in principles and values however are very hard to compromise on and can later lead to resentment. This is when the power struggle starts and both partners are ready to fight to death on their personal stance.

It&rsquo;s also important to know that arguments and a little bit of healthy friction is a normal part of every relationship and it&rsquo;s important to communicate with your partner to work through these rough bits together. Openness, honesty and mutual respect can take you a long way in any relationship.&nbsp; 
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This is when the distance comes in and many marriages in the previous generation were stuck at this stage. Not talking to each other or being honest about your needs, your discomforts with your partner, holding resentment and a refusal to actually address any issue is what marks this stage. Both partners tend to emotionally and physically withdraw from each other and seriously start evaluating whether it&rsquo;s worth it to continue the relationship or not. There might be a numbness on both ends since the initial intense feelings of disappointment and anger fizzle away.&nbsp;&nbsp;

So, how do we make it through this? Choosing to stick by your initial commitment, honour the promises you made and fighting for each other while providing enough space to heal the relationship works wonders.&nbsp; 
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This is signified by a complete acceptance that no relationship is perfect and you both respect each other enough to work through any and every bit of trouble together.&nbsp;And this time your love is based on reality, so it is more likely to stand the test of time!&nbsp;

Couples who make it through all previous stages know that they are well-equipped to deal with their issues together with open and honest communication, they are more at peace with their differences and maintain healthy space and independence.&nbsp;

The commitment to the relationship is recognised at both ends and there is no more attacking or defending when things go awry. This is where people also claim to have fallen in love all over again with their partner.&nbsp; 
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There&rsquo;s a very real chance to get stuck at one of these stages in your relationship forever and being unable to find a way out of it. Educating yourself on these stages helps you not only recognise but work through these stages effectively. It will not be a walk in the park but it will also not be the worst thing you will ever do. You may find yourself back in some stages after having worked through them previously and that is also completely normal and expected. As long as you are your partner are committed to working it out, you can manage (almost) anything together.&nbsp;

How Shame Prevents Men And Women From Experiencing Pleasure With Their Partners

Sex and morality have long been linked together whether it comes to men or women. We are encouraged to find companionship yet this major aspect of being partnered up is kept hushed at best. 
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Women are especially encouraged to hide that aspect of their love life. All of this has led to a deep sense of shame associated with the topic of sex. Women find it improper to be forthcoming about their active sex drives, their needs in the bedroom and wanting to mix things up. They feel a deep sense of shame when talking about it even with their husbands. 

Men, on the other hand avoid bringing up certain subjects as well as they feel it&rsquo;s inappropriate.

Walk Of Shame

The way shame manifests in men vs women is also different. Women choose to become isolated and aloof and men choose to become irritable and prone to outbursts. Neither of these things are conducive for a healthy connection let alone <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/how-sexual-intimacy-with-their-partner-keeps-women-young">physical intimacy</a>. 

Even if you have grown out of the ideas of propriety that were drilled into you since childhood, it&rsquo;s hard to let go of the visceral shame and discomfort that surrounds the idea of sex.

Dr Sara C. Flower, VP of Education &amp; Training at Planned Parenthood (United States) rightly observes that &ldquo;Sexual stigma can show up in many places in our lives &mdash; like feeling shame about having a period, our body shape or size, being diagnosed with a sexually-transmitted infection (STI), or our gender identity or sexual orientation. It can also stem from many sources, including our culture or religious beliefs, our upbringing, our past experiences, and even the stories we&rsquo;ve heard from others.&rdquo; 
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And then there are preset ideas of how a human body should look and feel like. Popular culture and media demand that we hide every flaw, tuck away every extra layer of fat, pluck out every last strand of hair and look a certain way in order to be considered desirable. 

The worst part about this is that your fellow human beings uphold these ideas and rigidly stick by the practice of shaming each other for perceived &lsquo;deficiencies&rsquo;. This negatively impacts the mental health of individuals that are put through this process of scrutiny. Worsening mental health means a sharp decline in sexual activity as well as demonstrated by a recent study. 
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Researchers have found that over the last 18 years, fewer adults have been partaking in sexual activity. The researchers cited several hypotheses, including the overall increase of <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/eight-lifestyle-interventions-for-major-depression">depression </a>and anxiety as potential links to this drop.

Helen B. Lewis, an American psychiatrist and psychoanalyst whose work pioneered the study of shame, argued that shame represents an entire family of emotions and doesn&rsquo;t occur as an isolated phenomenon. This can include humiliation, embarrassment, feelings of low self-esteem, belittlement, and stigmatisation. She believed that shame is often experienced as a critical inner voice that quite convincingly tells us that we are inadequate, inferior or worthless. 
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Few Suggestions

So how do we ensure that these feelings of shame are kept out of the bedroom? Here are a few things Bren&eacute; Brown, the American author who dedicated much of her career to studying shame has a few suggestions:

<ul>
	<li>Journal Your Thoughts: This helps one process and connect their feelings to a larger narrative. Getting all your thoughts on paper can help you trace it back to the source and finally deal with it. 
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	<li>Get To Know Yourself: Yes, masturbate and get comfortable with your own body. Discover what you like and how you like it and then let your partner know about it. 
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	<li>Have Open Conversations With Your Partner: Open and transparent discussion about your needs has been shown to translate to a better bedroom experience. We have observed that partners who report higher levels of emotional intimacy usually have a much more happening sex life. 
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	<li>Build A&nbsp;Circle Of Empowerment: Surround yourself with those who accept you for who you are no matter your body shape or size or preferences. Although this may seem irrelevant but a fully accepting and safe environment can help you deal with shame quite effectively. 
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	<li>Talk To A&nbsp;Professional: Sometimes sexual shame and guilt can stem from deep-rooted issues and a professional&rsquo;s neutral outlook is the only thing that can help one manage it. 
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Shame is an insidious phenomenon and it slowly takes over your entire life until you can&rsquo;t even enjoy your alone time with your partner. The way we try to deal with it is mostly through denial and brushing it off as if that can make it magically disappear, but that is never the case. However, if you do choose to undertake the behemoth task of eradicating shame from your life you can achieve higher levels of intimacy with your partner and improve your overall happiness.

Tips For Staying Connected With Loved Ones And Maintaining Social Relationships In Retirement

Retirement can be an exciting and fulfilling time, offering a chance to enjoy life, pursue hobbies and interests, and spend time with loved ones. However, as we age, it can be challenging to maintain social <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/warning-signs-youre-in-an-abusive-relationship">relationships </a>and stay connected with friends and family members. In this article, we&#39;ll explore some tips for staying connected with loved ones and maintaining social relationships in retirement, while also respecting other people&#39;s time and boundaries. 
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Stay Connected

<ul>
	<li>Embrace Technology</li>
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Technology can be an excellent tool for staying connected with loved ones, even if they live far away. Video chat platforms like Zoom, Skype, or FaceTime can allow you to see and talk to loved ones face-to-face, while social media platforms like Facebook can keep you up-to-date on their lives. You can also send emails, text messages, or even handwritten notes to show that you&#39;re thinking of them.

However, it&#39;s important to remember that not everyone may be comfortable with technology, or may not have access to it. In those cases, it&#39;s important to find alternative ways to stay in touch. 
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<ul>
	<li>Plan Regular Get-togethers</li>
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Regular get-togethers with loved ones can be a great way to stay connected and maintain relationships. You might plan regular dinners, game nights, movie nights, or other social events to get together and catch up. If loved ones live far away, consider planning a vacation or trip to visit them or vice versa.

However, it&#39;s important to remember that everyone has busy lives, and it may not always be possible to schedule regular get-togethers. Be understanding and respectful of others&#39; schedules and availability. 
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<ul>
	<li>Volunteer Together</li>
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Volunteering together can be a great way to stay connected while also giving back to the community. You might consider volunteering at a local charity, school, or hospital together. This can provide a shared experience and create new memories, while also contributing to a worthwhile cause. 
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<ul>
	<li>Respect Boundaries</li>
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While it&#39;s important to stay connected with loved ones, it&#39;s also important to respect their boundaries and personal time. Don&#39;t be clingy or overbearing, and be mindful of their schedules and availability. If someone doesn&#39;t respond to a call or message right away, don&#39;t take it personally. They may be busy or dealing with something else.

It&#39;s also important to respect other people&#39;s boundaries around physical contact. As we age, we may become more vulnerable to illness, so it&#39;s important to be mindful of others&#39; health and comfort levels. 
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<ul>
	<li>Join Clubs And Organizations</li>
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Joining clubs and organizations can be a great way to meet new people and stay connected with others who share your interests. Consider joining a book club, a gardening club, or a social group in your area. This can provide a sense of community and belonging, while also giving you opportunities to make new friends. 
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<ul>
	<li>Stay Active</li>
</ul>

Staying active and healthy can also be a great way to stay connected with loved ones. Consider joining a fitness class, taking up a new sport, or going for regular walks or hikes with friends and family members. This can provide opportunities to socialize while also maintaining good physical health. 
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<ul>
	<li>Be Open To New Experiences</li>
</ul>

Finally, be open to new experiences and opportunities. As we age, it can be easy to fall into routines and habits, but trying new things can be a great way to stay engaged and connected with others. Consider trying a new hobby, taking a class, or traveling to a new place. This can provide new opportunities for socialization and growth. 
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In conclusion, staying connected with loved ones and maintaining social relationships in retirement can be challenging, but it&#39;s also incredibly important for overall well-being and happiness. Embrace technology, plan regular get-togethers, volunteer together, respect boundaries, join clubs and organizations, stay active.

Umna Salah

How Sensual Touch Can Benefit You?

Sensual touch can be a powerful tool for enhancing overall physical and emotional well-being. Whether you are in a committed relationship or exploring your own body, incorporating regular sensual touch into your daily routine can bring a range of benefits.&nbsp; 
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Benefits of Sensual Touch

We have listed some below:&nbsp;

<ul>
	<li>The Rush Of Feel-Good Hormones: One of the major benefits of sensual touch is the release of feel-good hormones such as dopamine and oxytocin. These hormones can promote feelings of relaxation, reduce stress and improve mood. This can lead to an overall increase in feelings of well-being and happiness. Interestingly enough, all this can also lead to better sleep quality and a more restful night while also boosting your immune system by increasing endorphins and decreasing cortisol. It helps release tension in the body and can enhance the overall quality of your sex life. 
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	<li>Improve Intimacy: In addition to the physical benefits, sensual touch can also improve intimate relationships. When partners tend to regularly engage in sensual touch, it can bring them closer by deepening their emotional connection and cultivate a sense of intimacy and trust. This can lead to better and increased communication, better problem-solving skills and a more satisfying sex life as you both tend to improve your understanding of each other&rsquo;s sensual preferences. It&rsquo;s not just good for your relationship but also the individual well-being of partners. When you&rsquo;re always communicating with your partner that you continue to desire them, it helps them feel good about themselves too. Regularly engaging in sensual touch can also improve sexual health by increasing blood flow to the genitals and promoting overall sexual function. 
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	<li>Consent And Communication Is Key: However, it is important to note that sensual touch should always be consensual and respectful and yes, this applies to intimate as well as long-term relationships too. Communication is key when it comes to sensual touch and both partners should always discuss boundaries and preferences beforehand. If either partner wants to disengage at any moment, their boundaries should be respected by the other. It is also important to remember that sensual touch doesn&#39;t always have to lead to an orgasm since a major misconception about sensual touch is that it involves having sex or has to lead to having sex with your partner. Simply engaging in sensual touch or cuddling with a partner can still bring many of the same benefits. 
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</ul>

sensual touch into your daily routine

There are many different ways to incorporate sensual touch into your daily routine. One way to go about it is to set aside time for sensual massages or intimate touch with your partner. This can be a great way to slow down and connect with each other on a deeper level. If you&rsquo;re single, exploring your own body through self-touch can also be a powerful tool for improving <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/the-role-of-therapy-in-improving-sexual-wellness">sexual wellness</a>. This can help you become more comfortable with your own body and preferences, which can in turn lead to better sexual experiences with future partners. 
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At the end of the day, who doesn&rsquo;t like being on the receiving end of gentle hugs and kisses? One can easily imagine how the simple act of incorporating sensual touch into your daily routine can bring a range of physical, emotional and relational benefits. Whether you are in a committed relationship or exploring your own body, taking the time to engage in sensual touch can help improve your quality of life. 
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How Fairy Tales Set Us Up For Romantic Failure

Growing up, every story that we heard or every kids&rsquo; movie that we watched, all had one thing in common. It was that the princess got a loving, ready-to-give-it-all-away prince. Also, despite not bring very blatant about it, often these stories have glorified that mere title of the prince and how it indicates that the ending is a happy one because the significant other is rich.&nbsp;

There is are a plethora of things that are morally wrong with our go-to favorite fairytales that we normalized so much as kids that it never raised a red flag in our heads until now. A great example of this is of Sleeping Beauty and Snow White and the 7 dwarves. Both of these fairytales normalized getting kissed by a stranger while you are asleep. 
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Fairy tales have been a staple of children&#39;s literature for centuries. They are often filled with magical characters, enchanting settings, and tales of love and <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/more-than-just-romance" target="_blank">romance</a>. While they are beloved by many, fairy tales can also be incredibly damaging. From a young age, children are exposed to the idea that love is easy, and that their lives should be filled with romance and passion. However, this is not always the case, and fairy tales can set us up for romantic failure in many ways. 
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False Hopes

Fairy tales often portray love as an all-encompassing, all-consuming emotion that is easy to find. Characters fall in love at first sight, and live happily ever after without any problems. However, this portrayal of love is unrealistic and sets up false hopes for children. When they grow up, they may feel that love should be easy, and that their relationships should always be filled with passion and romance. However, this is not the case. Relationships take work, and it is unrealistic to expect that they will always be perfect. 
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Fairy tales often portray rigid gender roles, with men as the strong, heroic figures and women as the passive, helpless victims. This perpetuates harmful stereotypes and reinforces gender inequality. It also sets up unrealistic expectations for relationships, with men expected to be the strong protectors and women expected to be the submissive partners. This can lead to toxic relationships where one partner feels they have to be dominant over the other, rather than working together as equals. 
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Fairy tales often portray physical beauty as the most important attribute of a person. Characters are often described as stunningly beautiful, and this is often what attracts the hero to the heroine. This can lead to unrealistic beauty standards for young people, especially young girls. They may feel that they have to be physically perfect to find love, and this can lead to negative body image and self-esteem issues. 
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Fairy tales often portray the idea of the one true love, the idea that there is only one person in the world for each of us. This is a harmful idea, as it can lead people to hold out for an idealized version of love that may not exist. People are complex, and it is unrealistic to expect that there is only one person in the world who can make us happy. This can lead to a pattern of chasing after an idealized version of love, rather than focusing on building real relationships with real people. 
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Move Beyond Fairy Tales

Moving beyond the damaging effects of fairy tales is a process, and it takes time and effort. Here are some steps you can take to move beyond fairy tales and create healthier relationships: 
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<ul>
	<li>Recognize the Unrealistic Expectations - The first step is to recognize that the expectations set up by fairy tales are unrealistic. Love is not always easy, and relationships take work. It is important to be realistic about the challenges that come with relationships.</li>
	<li>Challenge Gender Roles - Challenge gender roles and stereotypes in your own life. Be aware of the messages you receive from media and society about what it means to be a man or a woman. Work towards creating a relationship where both partners are equal and share responsibilities.</li>
	<li>Focus on Inner Beauty - Instead of focusing on physical beauty, focus on inner beauty. Look for qualities like kindness, compassion, and empathy in a partner. These are the qualities that will make a relationship last.</li>
	<li>Let Go of the One True Love Myth - Let go of the idea of the one true love. Instead, focus on building real relationships with real people. Love is not always easy, but it is possible to find happiness with someone who loves and respects you. 
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</ul>

In conclusion, fairy tales can be damaging to our understanding of love and relationships. They perpetuate harmful stereotypes, unrealistic expectations. 
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Communication is a critical aspect of any relationship, especially when it comes to sexual relationships. Effective communication can lead to better sexual experiences, improved intimacy, and increased satisfaction. On the other hand, a lack of communication can lead to misunderstandings, unfulfilled expectations, and even relationship problems.&nbsp;

In this article, we will explore the importance of communication in sexual relationships and provide tips on how to improve communication with your partner. 
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Benefits Of Communication

Communication is the key to any successful relationship, and sexual relationships are no exception. Effective communication can help partners understand each other&#39;s desires, preferences, and boundaries. It can also help build trust and intimacy, leading to more satisfying sexual experiences.

Moreover, communication can help partners address sexual problems and concerns. Sexual dysfunction, such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, or low <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/how-porn-addiction-affects-your-social-interactions-relationships-and-libido">libido</a>, can be a source of stress and <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/anxiety">anxiety </a>in relationships. However, discussing these issues with your partner and seeking professional help can lead to solutions and improved sexual function. 
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Tips for Improving Communication

Here are some tips for improving communication with your partner in sexual relationships: 
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<ol>
	<li style="list-style-type:decimal">Create A&nbsp;Safe Space: It is essential to create a safe space where you and your partner can discuss sexual matters without fear of judgment or criticism. Avoid attacking or blaming each other, and instead, focus on sharing your thoughts and feelings in a respectful and non-threatening way.</li>
</ol>

<ol start="2">
	<li style="list-style-type:decimal">Start The Conversation: Many people find it challenging to initiate sexual conversations, but starting the conversation is crucial. You can begin by asking your partner how they feel about a particular sexual topic or sharing something that you would like to try in bed. Open-ended questions can also help you understand your partner&#39;s desires and preferences.</li>
</ol>

<ol start="3">
	<li style="list-style-type:decimal">Be Specific: When discussing sexual matters, it is crucial to be specific about what you want or don&#39;t want. Vague statements such as &quot;I don&#39;t like that&quot; or &quot;I want more of this&quot; can lead to misunderstandings and unfulfilled expectations. Instead, try to be specific about what you like or dislike and what you want to try or avoid.</li>
</ol>

<ol start="4">
	<li style="list-style-type:decimal">Listen To Your Partner: Effective communication is a two-way street, and it is crucial to listen to your partner&#39;s thoughts and feelings. Try to understand their perspective and respect their boundaries. Listening to your partner can help build trust and intimacy and lead to more satisfying sexual experiences.</li>
</ol>

<ol start="5">
	<li style="list-style-type:decimal">Be Honest: Honesty is key to any successful relationship, and sexual relationships are no exception. Being honest about your desires, preferences, and concerns can help your partner understand your needs better and build a more fulfilling sexual relationship.</li>
</ol>

<ol start="6">
	<li style="list-style-type:decimal">Seek Professional Help: Sometimes, sexual problems or concerns can be challenging to discuss, and seeking professional help may be necessary. A qualified therapist or sex counselor can provide a safe space for discussing sexual issues and offer solutions to improve sexual function and satisfaction. 
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</ol>

The Risks of Poor Communication

Poor communication in sexual relationships can have many negative consequences. Here are some risks of poor communication in sexual relationships: 
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<ol>
	<li style="list-style-type:decimal">Misunderstandings: Misunderstandings can occur when partners fail to communicate effectively about their desires, preferences, and boundaries. This can lead to unfulfilled expectations, disappointment, and even relationship problems.</li>
	<li style="list-style-type:decimal">Lack Of Intimacy: Effective communication can help build intimacy and trust, leading to more satisfying sexual experiences. On the other hand, a lack of communication can lead to a lack of intimacy, which can negatively affect the relationship.</li>
	<li style="list-style-type:decimal">Sexual Dysfunction: Sexual dysfunction can be a source of stress and anxiety in relationships. A lack of communication about sexual concerns and problems can lead to unaddressed issues, leading to further problems and potentially causing harm to the relationship.</li>
	<li style="list-style-type:decimal">Infidelity: A lack of communication can lead to misunderstandings, unfulfilled expectations, and can ultimately lead to infidelity. If partners are not communicating effectively about their desires and needs, they may seek fulfillment outside of the relationship, which can be detrimental to the relationship&#39;s trust and integrity.</li>
	<li style="list-style-type:decimal">Relationship Problems: Poor communication in sexual relationships can lead to relationship problems, including resentment, dissatisfaction, and even breakups. Effective communication is crucial to maintaining a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship. 
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</ol>

Communication is a critical aspect of maintaining a healthy and satisfying sexual relationship. Effective communication can lead to better sexual experiences, improved intimacy, and increased satisfaction. On the other hand, a lack of communication can lead to misunderstandings, unfulfilled expectations, and even relationship problems.&nbsp;

By creating a safe space, starting the conversation, being specific, listening to your partner, being honest, and seeking professional help when necessary, partners can improve communication and build a more fulfilling sexual relationship. It is essential to prioritize communication in sexual relationships to ensure that both partners feel heard, respected, and fulfilled. 
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