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Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby: How To Talk To Your Partner About Sex

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How To Practice Safe Sex

Overview

We all think about it, talk about it, partake in it, see it everywhere but not always in the right ways. What makes sex pleasurable is not the next wildly creative idea but perhaps the most basic aspect of being made to feel safe. 
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Practice Safe Sex

Originally, the term was coined to indicate using contraceptive methods or devices in order to reduce the risk of transmitting diseases. It has now been expanded to include practices that prevent pregnancy as well. We call it safer sex or protected sex to highlight the fact that practicing these methods also doesn&rsquo;t completely eradicate the risks that come with this act.&nbsp; 
 
This term first came to light during the <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/hiv-61">HIV/AIDs</a> epidemic and is now a crucial part of sex education where the very real risk of sexually transmitted diseases (STD or STI) is a major topic of discussion. Strategies for preventing STIs such as gonorrhea or syphilis had existed long before this too. Locally we don&rsquo;t have much formal education or discussion available on these topics. 
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Abstinence, monogamy, polyfidelity, low-risk sexual behavior, limiting the number of sexual partners, avoiding substances that lead to high-risk behavior, being aware of your partner&rsquo;s sexual history, phone sex/cyber-sex, non-penetrative sex are all valid and useful practices that lead to a reduction of risks associated with sex.&nbsp; 
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Other methods

Some other, more commonly used methods are:

STDs can be passed by exchanging sexual fluids and from skin-to-skin contact as well. This is why barrier methods are so effective. These include condoms, internal condoms (female condoms), dental dams for orals sex and latex or nitrile gloves.&nbsp;

<ul>
	<li>Condoms: This is the most accessible and easy to use option. These are made out of latex. For those with latex allergies there are synthetic non-latex condoms available as well, although they are more prone to breakage. There are female condoms (internal condoms) as well which can be inserted into the vagina or anus to practice safe sex. These come in different styles (ribbed, ultra-thin etc) and flavors as well.&nbsp; 
	 
	It&rsquo;s important to remember that oil-based lubricants degrade the latex material and lead to breakage. This also happens with double gloving which causes friction and tears. Water based or silicone-based lubricants work much better with latex condoms. Remember using lube also makes sex safer as there are fewer chances of getting tears due to too much friction, for example, with anal sex. The effectivity of condoms is no more than 95 percent in preventing STI transmission.&nbsp; 
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<ul>
	<li>Birth Control Pills: Thee are of two types 
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1. Combined Oral Contraceptive (COCP): This has two hormones in it &mdash; oestrogen and progestin. These come in different formulations hence different doses can be prescribed according to personal needs and preferences. For instance, there are pills that give you your period every month as well as pills that can stop your period for 3 months on end. 
 
These work by suppressing ovulation, making the endometrium unsuitable for implantation and thickening cervical mucous which hinders sperm mobility. With typical use, COCPs can be 93-95 percent effective, while with perfect use they are up to 99 percent effective. By perfect use we mean taking it every single day at the exact same time. There is a margin of human error in this hence the lower numbers of effectivity as compared to other methods. 
 
Nausea, breast tenderness, mood swings, bloating, headaches, irregular bleeding are just some of the side effects one experiences on combined hormonal pill. If you still have severe side effects for three months in a row, it means that you need a dose adjustment, but feeling a little nauseous in the first couple months is completely normal. Some non-contraceptive benefits of this are reduced risk of uterine and ovarian cancer, helps manage PCOS, helps with acne and treats endometriosis-related pain, painful periods, menstrual migraines and PMS. 
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&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;2. Progestin-only pill (POP): There are two kinds of progestin-only pills. One is Norethindrone, in which you take a pill pack that is continuous&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;(28 days). And the other is Drospirenone, in which you get hormone free intervals (24 active tablets and 4 inactive tablets) 
&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;This works by two methods; it thickens cervical mucous which makes it harder for sperm to travel and stops ovulation. It&rsquo;s 92-95 percent&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; effective with perfect use and you have to take it at the same time every single day. You get some protective effects such as decreased risk of&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; uterine cancer. Some adverse effects include irregular bleeding, acne, moodiness, weight gain, and increase in follicular ovarian cysts. 
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<ul>
	<li>Depo Provera Shot: This is another form of Progestin-only birth control in which you get injected every three months. Its effectiveness profile is 93-95 percent. You can get unscheduled bleeding with this that might last for more than seven days and is usually the reason why most people don&rsquo;t prefer it. It has a similar side effect profile as the progestin-only pill.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Nexplanon: This is a tiny (4cm) plastic rod that gets placed between your bicep and triceps muscles. It can stay in for three years and is another progestin-only form of birth control. The biggest reason people don&rsquo;t like it is unscheduled bleeding, along with all of the side effects normally associated with hormonal contraception.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Hormonal IUD: This also contains progestin and is an intra-uterine device which means it sits inside your uterus. The foreign body effect causes inflammation that is toxic to the sperm while the progestin performs its usual functions. These can be inserted from three to five and up to seven years and come in different doses as well. Its 99 percent effective, rapidly reversible, helps manage heavy painful periods, anaemia and endometriosis-related pain. With this form of IUD, you can either experience prolonged bleeding or your period may stop completely. There is some risk of spotting or unscheduled bleeding as well along with the usual hormonal effects. Device expulsion and IUD perforation (very rare, around 1 in 1,000) may happen.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Non-Hormonal IUD: Paragard IUD is another intra-uterine contraceptive method which can stay in for up to 10 years and contains no hormones. This may make your periods heavier and longer with worsened cramps but it has a 99 percent effectivity rate. The best part about this option is that you can pull it out anytime if it doesn&rsquo;t suit you.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Birth Control Ring: This can be inserted into the vagina and kept there for three weeks, once it is removed on week four you can get your period. It has the same benefits as the birth control pill except you don&rsquo;t have to remember taking it every single day. It&rsquo;s 93-96 percent effective and with perfect use, this goes up to 99 percent. Since it contains oestrogen and progestin, it works by similar mechanism as the COCP and has the same benefits and side effects. You might notice an increase in discharge or vaginal infections with this option but it&rsquo;s not very common.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Birth Control Patch: This falls in the same category as the pill and the ring and contains oestrogen and progestin. It works by similar method as the COCP and is 93-96 percent effective with typical use. Perfect use can raise this number up to 98 percent. It can help with painful periods as well as endometriosis related pain while also decreasing risk of endometrial cancer.</li>
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It&rsquo;s important to note that it can&rsquo;t be given to patients with a BMI of 30 or more and people with increased risk of blood clots since the amount of oestrogen your body is exposed to by this method is fairly high. Common side effects include irregular bleeding, nausea, moodiness, breast tenderness and skin irritation at the site of application.&nbsp; 
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Ensure safety

Some other ways you can ensure safety of both you and your partners:

Immunization

Making sure you are vaccinated against STIs such as HPV and Hepatitis B is of prime importance. These are more effective when done before the onset of sexual activity. The CDC recommends getting the HPV vaccine for all pre-teens (ages 11 or 12) and people below 26 years of age. It’s not recommended after 26 as most people have been exposed to the virus by then, however, for people 27-45 years of age you can consult your doctor and proceed according to their instructions.&nbsp;

Get tested

If you are someone who regularly engages in sexual activity, make sure you’re also getting regularly tested for STDs. This applies even if you are 100 percent safe every single time.

Dr. Safia Mehmood

Embracing Sex Positivity: What It Truly Means

Sex positivity is a powerful and transformative concept that has gained momentum in recent years. It encourages individuals to celebrate their sexual identities, desires, and experiences without shame or judgment. In this article, we&#39;ll delve into the meaning of sex positivity, its relevance in today&#39;s society, and how it can contribute to a more liberated and fulfilling sexual life. 
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Embracing Sex Positivity

<ul>
	<li>Breaking Free From Taboos: Sex positivity is about challenging societal taboos and stigmas surrounding sexuality. It emphasizes that there is no inherently &quot;right&quot; or &quot;wrong&quot; way to express one&#39;s sexuality, as long as it is consensual and respectful. 
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	<li>Embracing Diversity: It celebrates the diversity of sexual orientations, genders, and preferences. Sex positivity recognizes that every individual&#39;s experience is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to sexuality. 
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	<li>Consent And Respect: A core tenet of sex positivity is enthusiastic and informed consent. It emphasizes that all sexual activities should be consensual, free from coercion, and based on mutual respect and communication. 
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<ul>
	<li>Empowerment And Self-Acceptance: Embracing sex positivity can empower individuals to accept and love themselves for who they are, including their sexual desires and preferences. It encourages a positive self-image and fosters self-confidence. 
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	<li>Fostering Healthy Relationships: Sex-positive attitudes can improve communication and intimacy in relationships. It promotes open and honest discussions about desires and boundaries, leading to more fulfilling and satisfying connections. 
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	<li>Reducing Shame And Guilt: Many people carry<a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/the-shame-that-men-carry"> shame </a>and guilt surrounding their sexual experiences. Sex positivity aims to eradicate these negative feelings, allowing individuals to explore their desires free from emotional baggage. 
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<ul>
	<li>Not About Promiscuity: Contrary to some misconceptions, sex positivity is not an endorsement of promiscuity. It&#39;s about making informed choices, respecting boundaries, and embracing consensual sexual experiences. 
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	<li>Not Anti-Abstinence: Sex positivity doesn&#39;t negate the choice of abstinence or celibacy. It acknowledges that different individuals have different needs and desires, and all choices should be respected. 
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<ul>
	<li>Education And Awareness: Educate yourself about sexuality, consent, and communication. Knowledge is a powerful tool in fostering a healthy and positive relationship with your own sexuality. 
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	<li>Open Communication: Practice open and honest communication with your partners about desires, boundaries, and expectations. This can lead to more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experiences. 
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	<li>Challenge Stereotypes: Be mindful of societal stereotypes and stigmas about sex. Challenge them when you encounter them, and promote a more inclusive and accepting attitude towards sexuality. 
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Bottom Line

Sex positivity is not just a trendy concept; it&#39;s a philosophy that can empower individuals to embrace their authentic selves and create healthier, more fulfilling sexual lives. By breaking free from taboos, celebrating diversity, and promoting consent and respect, we can create a more open and accepting society where everyone feels free to explore their own unique sexual journey without fear or shame. Embrace sex positivity, and discover the liberation it can bring to your life.

Rukhsana Rizwan

Unveiling The Impact: How Growing Up With 'Shame' Affects Your Sex Life

The emotional landscape of our early years has a profound impact on our adult lives, particularly when it comes to our sexuality. Growing up with a sense of shame can cast a long shadow over one&#39;s sexual experiences and relationships. In this article, we delve into the intricate ways in which childhood shame affects your sex life. 
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Shame Affects On Sex Life

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	<li>Understanding Childhood Shame: Childhood <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/shame-the-most-toxic-emotion">shame</a> often arises from various sources, such as strict upbringing, cultural norms, or traumatic experiences. It can manifest as feelings of unworthiness, guilt, or embarrassment. 
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	<li>Impact Of Caregiver Attitudes: The attitudes and behaviors of caregivers can significantly influence a child&#39;s sense of shame. Parents who exhibit judgment, criticism, or withholding of affection may inadvertently contribute to the development of shame. 
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Lack Of Education: In many cultures, open and comprehensive sexual education is still lacking. The absence of age-appropriate information can lead to confusion, misinformation, and a sense of shame about one&#39;s body and desires. 
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Religious And Cultural Beliefs: Religious or cultural teachings that label certain sexual behaviors as sinful or immoral can foster feelings of shame around one&#39;s natural desires. 
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Negative Body Image: Childhood shame can lead to negative body image issues, making individuals feel self-conscious about their appearance, particularly in intimate settings. 
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Sexual Dysfunctions: Shame-related body image issues can contribute to sexual dysfunctions, such as erectile dysfunction or difficulty achieving orgasm, due to heightened anxiety and self-criticism. 
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<ul>
	<li>Fear Of Vulnerability: Shame can instill a fear of vulnerability in intimate relationships, making individuals hesitant to open up emotionally or express their desires and needs. 
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	<li>Inhibition And Avoidance: Those burdened by shame may avoid sexual encounters altogether or engage in sexual activities with a sense of detachment or emotional distance. 
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<ul>
	<li>Substance Abuse And Risky Sexual Behavior: Some individuals may resort to substance abuse or engage in risky sexual behaviors as a way to cope with their shame and numb their emotions. 
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	<li>Promiscuity Or Avoidance: Shame can lead to polarized behaviors, with some individuals becoming promiscuous to seek validation and others avoiding sexual encounters altogether. 
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<ul>
	<li>Therapy And Counseling: Seeking therapy or counseling can be a powerful step towards healing from childhood shame. Professional guidance can help individuals identify and address the root causes of their shame. 
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	<li>Self-Acceptance And Self-Compassion: Cultivating self-acceptance and self-compassion is essential. Learning to embrace one&#39;s sexuality without judgment or shame is a transformative journey. 
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<ul>
	<li>Open Communication: Healthy relationships are built on open and honest communication. Learning to express desires, boundaries, and concerns with a partner can create a safe and supportive environment. 
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	<li>Mindful Intimacy: Practicing mindful intimacy, where partners focus on the present moment and emotional connection, can help individuals overcome the barriers created by childhood shame. 
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Childhood shame can cast a long shadow over one&#39;s sex life, but it&#39;s important to remember that healing and transformation are possible. By addressing the root causes of shame, seeking professional help when needed, and cultivating self-acceptance, individuals can unshackle themselves from the chains of shame and build healthier, more fulfilling sexual lives and relationships.

Demystifying Sex Addiction: Understanding The Compulsion

Sex addiction, also known as compulsive sexual behavior disorder, is a condition that has gained recognition in recent years. Yet, it remains shrouded in misconceptions. In this article, we will delve into what sex addiction truly entails, exploring its definition, characteristics, and the avenues for seeking help and support. 
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Demystifying Sex Addiction

<ul>
	<li>A Pattern Of Compulsive Behavior: Sex addiction is characterized by a persistent pattern of engaging in sexual activities despite negative consequences. Individuals with this condition often find it challenging to control their sexual impulses, leading to a sense of powerlessness. 
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	<li>Escalation And Preoccupation: Those with sex addiction may experience an escalation in their sexual behaviors and preoccupation with sexual thoughts. This can disrupt daily life and lead to distress. 
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	<li>Impact On Relationships: Sex addiction often takes a toll on personal relationships, as individuals may prioritize their sexual behaviors over their loved ones&#39; well-being, causing conflict and emotional turmoil. 
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<ul>
	<li>Excessive Pornography Consumption: Frequent and compulsive consumption of <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/how-pornography-impacts-sexual-wellness">pornography</a> can be a sign of sex addiction. Individuals may spend significant time viewing explicit material, even to the detriment of their work or personal life. 
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	<li>Multiple Sexual Partners: Engaging in sexual activities with multiple partners, often without regard for their own safety or the safety of others, is a common manifestation of sex addiction. 
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	<li>Unsafe Sexual Practices: Sex addicts may engage in unsafe sexual practices, such as unprotected sex or risky sexual encounters, increasing the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). 
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	<li>Loss Of Control: An inability to control sexual behaviors despite a sincere desire to stop or cut back is a hallmark of sex addiction. This lack of control can lead to feelings of shame and guilt. 
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<ul>
	<li>Biological Factors: Some research suggests that brain chemistry and genetics may play a role in the development of sex addiction. Differences in neurotransmitter levels and reward pathways could contribute to compulsive behavior. 
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	<li>Psychological Factors: Underlying psychological issues, such as trauma, depression, anxiety, or low self-esteem, can contribute to the development of sex addiction as individuals use sex as a coping mechanism. 
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	<li>Environmental Factors: Early exposure to explicit material or experiencing a permissive attitude toward sexual behavior within the family or peer group can influence the development of sex addiction. 
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<ul>
	<li>Therapy And Counseling: Individual and group therapy, as well as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can be effective in helping individuals understand and manage their compulsive sexual behavior. 
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	<li>Support Groups: Joining support groups like Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) or seeking the help of a sponsor can provide valuable peer support and accountability. 
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	<li>Medication: In some cases, medication may be prescribed to address underlying issues such as depression or anxiety that contribute to sex addiction. 
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	<li>Lifestyle Changes: Learning healthy coping mechanisms, managing stress, and adopting a balanced lifestyle can also aid in recovery from sex addiction. 
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Sex addiction is a complex condition that can have a profound impact on an individual&#39;s life and relationships. Understanding its signs and causes is the first step toward seeking help and embarking on a journey of healing and recovery. With the right support and treatment, individuals can regain control over their lives and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Why You Should Go To A Sex Therapist

They say you should never judge a book by its cover. But can we judge a profession by its title? Maybe, but we also need to understand that there is more than what meets the eye and aspects that go beyond the what the title indicates.

Sex therapy is one of the most misunderstood professions out there. There is a stigma with it that it is only for those people or couples who have psychological trouble related to intercourse. If you think about it, that seems too simple and basic to be turned into a complete profession. 

So, what is it that sex therapists really do? Read on to find out. 
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Sex Therapist

A sex therapist is a mental health professional who specialises in the treatment of sexual issues and concerns. These professionals typically have advanced training and education in human sexuality and may hold a degree in <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/a-guide-to-couples-counselling-what-is-it-and-when-should-you-seek-help">counselling</a>, psychology, social work, or a related field. They may also be certified or licensed by a professional organisation. 
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Sex therapists use a variety of therapeutic techniques, such as talk therapy, behavioural therapy, and education about human sexuality, to help clients overcome sexual difficulties and improve their sexual well-being. They may also provide clients with tools and techniques to improve their sexual function, underlying behaviour that is subconsciously related to sex and may even improve your relationship with your partner.

It&rsquo;s important to note that sex therapists are different from sexologists, who are researchers and academics who study human sexuality and from sex workers, who provide sexual services to clients. 
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Sex therapy is very similar to couples&rsquo; therapy except for it offers a lot more value than that. Much like couples&rsquo; counselling, sex therapy addresses the underlying issues in your relationship and allows you to develop healthier behavioural outcomes based on that. 
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In simple words, sex therapy is an amalgam of your usual therapy, couples&rsquo; therapy with an added bonus of sex-related counselling to. The target is to find the underlying psychological connections between your behaviour and its impact on your partner and how it translates into your daily life functioning as well as into your sex life and love life. 
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To become a sex therapist, you typically need to have a master&rsquo;s or doctoral degree in counselling, psychology, social work or a related field. Some sex therapists also hold a degree in nursing, medicine or other healthcare-related fields. 
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In addition to formal education, most sex therapists complete supervised clinical training. This includes working with clients under the supervision of a licensed therapist or counsellor. They also need to complete a certain amount of continuing education hours to maintain their license.

To become a licensed sex therapist, you typically must pass a certification exam from a professional organisation, such as the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors and Therapists (AASECT) or the International Society for the Study of Women&rsquo;s Sexual Health (ISSWSH). 
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Conclusion

It is also important for sex therapists to have good communication skills, empathy, and an understanding of human sexuality. They should also be comfortable discussing sensitive topics and have a non-judgmental attitude.

It&rsquo;s worth noting that requirements for licensure and certification vary by state and country, so it&#39;s important to check with your local regulatory boards for specific requirements. 
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Umna Salah

Myth Buster: Women Have Higher Sex Drives Than Men

You&rsquo;ve probably heard things like this: Men get turned on at the slightest provocation and are ready to have sex anytime, anywhere, while women tend to want sex less often and have to be &ldquo;in the mood.&rdquo; For years, that&rsquo;s been the widespread belief: Men just have higher sex drives than women.

Research has often been cited to back up the idea that, perhaps because of their higher <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/navigating-testosterones-impact-on-heart-health-and-manopause">testosterone</a> levels, men think more about sex, seek it more actively, and get turned on more easily. Men&rsquo;s sexuality is like an on-off switch, while women&rsquo;s sexuality is a complicated network of connections. Right?

Actually, no! 
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Other research &ndash; along with an evolving understanding of sexuality, gender, and desire &ndash; are telling us that sex drive doesn&rsquo;t fit neatly into columns labeled &ldquo;male&rdquo; and &quot;female.&rdquo;

&ldquo;Not only is the idea that men have higher sex drives an oversimplified notion, but it&rsquo;s really just not true,&rdquo; says Sarah Hunter Murray, PhD, a marriage and family therapist and the author of Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex, and Relationships. 
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Many Influences

&ldquo;Our social norms and the ways we&rsquo;re raised to either lean into our sexuality or repress it have a huge impact on how we experience our sexuality and how we report it in studies,&rdquo; Hunter Murray says. &ldquo;People raised as men in our society have been typically given more permission to speak openly about wanting sex, while young women have often been told not to express their sexuality.&rdquo;

Justin Garcia, PhD, executive director of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, agrees.

&ldquo;Our sexual interest is driven by many factors, including not only biology, age, and use of medications, but also by situation &ndash; for both men and women,&rdquo; he says. &ldquo;Sexual attitudes are affected significantly by societal and religious attitudes. If you&rsquo;ve been told that expressing your sexuality is bad, over time that will impact your sense of whether you should be doing it or not.&rdquo;

And those messages may have influenced the research that has been telling us men want sex more than women. 
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Desire Disparities

It&rsquo;s hard to gauge whether men really want sex more than women when you&rsquo;re interviewing either men or women in isolation for research. If a man says he wants sex more than his female partner does, how do you know she&rsquo;d see things the same way?

The few studies that have looked at sexual desire in a &ldquo;dyadic&rdquo; relationship &ndash; that is, they interviewed opposite-sex couples in a relationship with each other &ndash; have pretty consistently found that men are no more or less likely to be the partner who wants more sex, more often.

One of the first studies to find this pattern was done more than 20 years ago. Among a group of 72 college-age, heterosexual couples, about half reported that they had similar levels of sexual desire. Among the couples who differed in their desire, about half of those said it was the male partner who wanted sex less often. 
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More recently, Hunter Murray published a similar study of college-age couples that had much the same results. About half of the couples had similar levels of desire. And among those who did not, men were just as likely as women to be the partner with lower sex drive.

&ldquo;Multiple studies show that men&rsquo;s and women&rsquo;s sexual desire levels are more similar than different,&rdquo; Hunter Murray says. There has not been much research on levels of desire in transgender and nonbinary people.

&ldquo;Gender norms about sex drive are outdated in a lot of ways,&rdquo; she says. &ldquo;If there&rsquo;s something about the way you experience desire that falls in line with a stereotype, that&rsquo;s fine, but so many of us fall outside of these limited boxes. There are men whose interest in sex ranges from low to none, to very high, and it&rsquo;s the same for women. As humans, we vary, and as long as your sexual expression is in a healthy way that feels good and right for you [and your partner(s)], chances are your experience is normal.&rdquo;

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How Sexual Intimacy With Their Partner Keeps Women Young

Staying intimate with your partner even later in life has many health benefits. Scientists have long-observed that married women have a much later age of natural <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/menopause">menopause</a> than single or divorced women, but there was no known reason why. 

One of the hypotheses was that sexual frequency behaved as a bio-behavioural mediator between delayed menopause and marital status. Studies have shown that married people engage in intercourse more frequently than those who are not. 
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menopause and marital status

Regular Sex Delays Menopause: According to a study published in the Royal Society Open Science, researchers tracked the sex lives nearly 3,000 American women for a decade, starting when they were, at average, around 45 years of age. What they found was that those women who engaged in less sex were more likely to reach menopause at an earlier age. 

More specifically, those who engaged in sexual activity on a weekly basis were 28 percent less likely to experience menopause compared with those who engaged in sexual activity less than on a monthly basis. Those that engaged in sexual activity on a monthly basis were 19 percent less likely to experience menopause than those who engaged in sexual activity less than on a monthly basis. 

Please note that researchers defined sexual activity as intercourse, touching, oral sex and self-stimulation. 
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Use It Or Lose It: This is because women&rsquo;s bodies may be reacting to less sexual activity on a &ldquo;use it or lose it&rdquo; basis. If you&rsquo;re not having sex, the chances of pregnancy are dramatically lowered, and so your body decides to&hellip; &lsquo;retire&rsquo;. 

&ldquo;The findings of our study suggest that if a woman is not having sex, and there is no chance of pregnancy, then the body &lsquo;chooses&rsquo; not to invest in ovulation, as it would be pointless,&rdquo;&nbsp;Megan Arnot, the first author of the study and a PhD candidate at University College London said in a statement released with the study. She added that, &ldquo;Ovulation is a costly process both in terms of energy and due to the fact, it worsens immune function.&rdquo; 

&ldquo;When approaching midlife, there may be a trade-off between continued ovulation and the likelihood of becoming pregnant, with sexual frequency serving as the cue of possible pregnancy,&rdquo; stated Megan Arnot. &ldquo;Mechanistically, it is likely something to do with oestrogen, but we don&rsquo;t know the exact pathway.&rdquo;

She contended that there may be a biological trade-off between investing energy into ovulation and elsewhere, such as the body using that same energy to keep the woman active so she may look after her grandchildren. This is also known as the grandmother hypothesis. 
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The &lsquo;Grandmother Hypothesis&rsquo;: The body&rsquo;s natural choice to discontinue fertility to invest more time in family is known as the &ldquo;grandmother hypothesis.&rdquo; Scientists hypothesise that women evolved to have their bodies go through menopause to reduce reproductive conflict between different generations of women in one family. This was to allow for the older generation to instead focus on investing their energy into taking care of their grandchildren instead of having more of their own. 
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Sexual Frequently Is Just One Possible Link: Women who are generally in poorer health also tend to be less sexually active. There is evidence to show that healthy sexual activity is important for overall health and quality of life. And while increased sexual activity may be linked to delayed menopause, more research is needed to uncover a causal pathway. 

Researchers do not want women who women who struggle with premature menopause or other reproductive issues to think that having more sex could have preserved their fertility. There are other factors that affect fertility, such as smoking, bad health etc. 
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The study simply shows that there is an association between frequency of sexual activity and delayed menopause. Having a healthy sex life is good for our health and making changes to improve it may benefit our quality of life and overall health. But will it guarantee later menopause? No, it will not. 
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Tips To Restore Sexual Intimacy

In any long-term relationship, it is common for sexual intimacy to ebb and flow. External factors, stress, and the routine of daily life can impact sexual closeness, leading to a need for restoring intimacy and reviving the sexual spark. In this article, we will explore effective tips and strategies to rebuild intimacy and reconnect sexually with your partner, fostering a deeper and more fulfilling connection. 
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sexual intimacy

<h5>1. Understanding The Importance Of Restoring Intimacy</h5>

<a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/how-sexual-intimacy-with-their-partner-keeps-women-young">Intimacy </a>is a vital component of a healthy and thriving relationship. It goes beyond physicality, encompassing emotional and psychological closeness as well. Restoring intimacy is essential for rekindling the sexual spark and building a strong foundation for lasting happiness and satisfaction. 
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<h5>2. Communicate Openly And Honestly</h5>

Effective communication is the cornerstone of restoring intimacy. Be open and honest about your feelings and desires. Share your concerns and listen actively to your partner&#39;s needs. Avoid blaming or criticizing, focusing instead on understanding and empathy. 
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<h5>3. Rediscover Each Other Emotionally</h5>

Reconnecting emotionally is key to rebuilding intimacy. Spend quality time together, engage in meaningful conversations, and show genuine interest in each other&#39;s lives. Express appreciation and affection regularly to strengthen your emotional bond. 
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<h5>4. Prioritize Quality Time Together</h5>

Amidst busy schedules, it&#39;s crucial to carve out quality time for each other. Plan date nights, weekend getaways, or simple activities that allow you to focus solely on each other without distractions. 
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<h5>5. Revive The Sexual Spark 
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	<li>Share Fantasies And Desires</li>
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Discussing fantasies and desires can add excitement and anticipation to your sexual relationship. Being open to exploring new experiences together can reignite the sexual spark. 
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	<li>Be Playful And Flirtatious</li>
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Infuse playfulness and flirtation into your interactions. Send loving messages or surprise each other with small gestures of affection. Laughter and fun can create a more intimate atmosphere. 
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	<li>Try New Things Together</li>
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Exploring new activities together outside the bedroom can also lead to greater intimacy in the bedroom. Shared experiences foster emotional connection and make you feel closer to one another. 
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<h5>6. Building Intimacy Through Physical Touch</h5>

Physical touch is a powerful way to build intimacy. Small gestures like holding hands, cuddling, or hugging can foster a deeper emotional connection and pave the way for sexual closeness. 
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<h5>7. Address Any Underlying Issues</h5>

Sometimes, restoring intimacy may require addressing underlying issues. Stress, unresolved conflicts, or medical conditions can affect sexual desire. Seeking professional help, such as couples therapy or medical advice, can be beneficial. 
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<h5>8. Be Patient And Understanding</h5>

Restoring intimacy takes time and patience. Understand that every relationship goes through ups and downs. Be compassionate with each other, knowing that it&#39;s normal to face challenges. 
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<h5>9. Focus On Self-Care</h5>

Taking care of your individual well-being is essential for restoring intimacy. Engage in activities that promote self-confidence and reduce stress. Feeling good about yourself positively impacts your intimate relationship. 
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<h5>10. Express Appreciation And Affection</h5>

Never underestimate the power of expressing love and appreciation for your partner. Small acts of kindness, words of affirmation, and affectionate gestures can go a long way in rebuilding intimacy. 
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Restoring intimacy is an ongoing process that requires effort, understanding, and communication. By prioritizing emotional connection, being open to exploring new experiences, and focusing on physical touch and affection, you can revive the sexual spark and reconnect sexually with your partner. Building intimacy is an enriching journey that strengthens your bond and creates a more profound and fulfilling connection. Remember, it&#39;s about rediscovering each other emotionally, embracing vulnerability, and nurturing your love to create a more intimate and loving relationship.

Why Are An Increasing Number Of Men Around The World Single And Sexless?

In recent years, there has been a growing concern about the number of young men who are single and sexless. While some argue that this trend is simply a reflection of changing social norms, research suggests that there may be deeper psychological and social factors at play.&nbsp; 
In this article, we will explore some of the reasons why so many men are single nowadays. 
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Reasons

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	<li>The Rise Of Hookup Culture: One of the primary factors contributing to the rise of single, sexless men is the emergence of hookup culture. Hookup culture is characterized by casual sexual encounters that are not emotionally committed or long-term. While hookup culture has been a part of college campuses for decades, it has recently spread to other social spheres, including online dating apps. 
	Research has shown that hookup culture can be particularly challenging for men. Men are often expected to take the lead in initiating sexual encounters, and are judged more harshly for expressing emotions or vulnerability. Additionally, men are more likely to be criticized for not conforming to traditional gender norms around sexual behavior. 
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	<li>The Impact Of Technology: Another factor that has contributed to the rise of single, sexless men is the impact of technology on social interactions. With the rise of social media and online dating apps, many men report feeling overwhelmed and disconnected from the dating scene. The increased emphasis on physical appearance and superficial qualities can be particularly challenging for men who may not fit the traditional standards of masculinity. 
	Research has also shown that social media can contribute to feelings of <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/the-signs-that-your-relationship-is-based-on-loneliness-not-love">social isolation and loneliness</a>. Men who spend excessive amounts of time on social media may feel disconnected from their peers and struggle to form meaningful relationships. 
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	<li>The Changing Role Of Men In Society: The changing role of men in society is another factor that has contributed to the rise of single, sexless men. Historically, men have been socialized to prioritize career success and financial stability over emotional intimacy and social connection. However, this traditional model of masculinity is increasingly being challenged, as more men seek fulfilling personal relationships and meaningful connections. 
	Research has shown that men who prioritize their careers over their personal lives are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, and loneliness. Men who struggle to form meaningful relationships may also be more likely to engage in risky behaviors, such as substance abuse and high-risk sexual behavior. 
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	<li>The Impact Of Porn Addiction: Finally, porn addiction is another factor that may contribute to the rise of single, sexless men. Pornography has become more accessible and accepted in mainstream culture, and many men report struggling with compulsive use of pornographic material. Porn addiction can be particularly challenging for men who may feel shame or embarrassment around their use of pornography. 
	Research has shown that porn addiction can lead to a number of negative consequences, including decreased sexual satisfaction, relationship problems, and mental health issues. Men who struggle with porn addiction may be more likely to withdraw from social interactions and experience feelings of shame or guilt.</li>
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Adressing the Issue

The rise of single, sexless men is a complex issue that requires a multifaceted approach. Here are a few strategies that can help address the issue: 
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	<li>Encourage Healthy Relationship Behaviors: One strategy for addressing the issue is to encourage healthy relationship behaviors, such as open communication, emotional vulnerability, and mutual respect. Men who struggle with traditional gender norms around sexual behavior may benefit from education around healthy sexual practices and communication. 
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	<li>Address Porn Addiction: Addressing porn addiction is another strategy for helping men overcome the negative consequences of compulsive porn use. Men who struggle with porn addiction may benefit from therapy or support groups that address the underlying psychological and social factors contributing to their addiction. 
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	<li>Promote Social Connection: Promoting social connection and meaningful relationships is another strategy for helping men overcome feelings of loneliness and disconnection. This can involve community-based programs, such as mentoring and volunteering, that provide opportunities for men to form meaningful relationships with others.&nbsp;</li>
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While the increasing use of technology and changing social structures may be leading more and more men to become isolated, they can adopt strategies that help them develop better relationships with others.&nbsp; 
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How Can Depression Affect Your Sex Life?

<a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/depression">Depression</a>, a common mental health condition, can have far-reaching effects on various aspects of an individual&#39;s life, including their sex life. It is important to recognize that depression affects men and women differently, both physiologically and psychologically. In this article, we will explore how depression can influence sexual health and intimacy in both genders, highlighting the unique impacts on men and women. 
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Depression And Sexual Health In Men

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	<li>Loss Of Interest: Depression can lead to a decreased interest in sex, causing a decline in libido or sexual desire in men. The persistent feelings of sadness and hopelessness can overshadow sexual desires and dampen the drive for intimacy.</li>
	<li>Erectile Dysfunction: Men with depression may experience difficulties with erectile function. Depression can affect the physiological processes involved in achieving and maintaining an erection, leading to erectile dysfunction. Psychological factors such as performance anxiety can also contribute to this issue.</li>
	<li>Premature Ejaculation: Depression may contribute to premature ejaculation, where men experience uncontrollable or early ejaculation during sexual activity. The negative impact of depression on mental well-being can disrupt the timing and control of ejaculation.</li>
	<li>Fatigue And Energy Levels: The constant feelings of fatigue and lack of energy associated with depression can reduce sexual stamina and willingness to engage in sexual activities. The physical and mental exhaustion caused by depression can make it challenging for men to actively participate in sexual experiences. 
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Depression And Sexual Health In Women

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	<li>Loss Of Desire: Women with depression often experience a decrease in sexual desire. The emotional and psychological impact of depression can lead to a loss of interest in sexual activities and a decreased motivation for intimacy.</li>
	<li>Changes In Arousal: Depression can affect the physiological responses involved in sexual arousal in women. It may cause reduced lubrication, making intercourse uncomfortable or painful. Women may also find it challenging to reach a state of arousal due to the negative emotions associated with depression.</li>
	<li>Difficulty Achieving Orgasm: Depression can make it harder for women to achieve orgasm. The diminished sexual desire and the interference of negative thoughts and emotions can create barriers to reaching orgasm and experiencing sexual satisfaction.</li>
	<li>Body Image Concerns: Depression often negatively impacts self-esteem and body image. Women with depression may struggle with body dissatisfaction, feeling unattractive, or having negative thoughts about their physical appearance. These concerns can contribute to a decrease in sexual confidence and hinder sexual pleasure. 
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	<li>Communication And Support: Open and honest communication between partners is vital. Discussing the impact of depression on sexual health can foster understanding, support, and the exploration of alternative ways to maintain intimacy.</li>
	<li>Seek Professional Help: Consulting mental health professionals, such as therapists or counselors, can provide guidance and support for managing depression and its effects on sexual health. They can offer strategies to improve communication, coping mechanisms, and treatment options.</li>
	<li>Medication Adjustments: If sexual side effects from antidepressant medication become problematic, it is important to discuss these concerns with a healthcare provider. Adjustments to medication type or dosage may help alleviate some of these side effects while effectively managing depression.</li>
	<li>Couple&#39;s Therapy: Engaging in couple&#39;s therapy can be beneficial for addressing the impact of depression on the relationship and sex life. Therapy sessions can provide a safe space for open dialogue, emotional support, and the development of coping strategies.</li>
	<li>Self-Care And Lifestyle Changes: Engaging in self-care practices, such as regular exercise, healthy eating, stress management, and quality sleep, can help alleviate symptoms of depression and enhance overall well-being, including sexual health. 
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Depression can significantly affect an individual&#39;s sex life, impacting both men and women differently. Understanding the unique challenges each gender faces when it comes to sexual health and depression is essential for seeking appropriate help and finding strategies to maintain intimacy and overall well-being. Communication, professional support, and self-care are key components in addressing and managing the impact of depression on sexual health. Remember, reaching out to mental health professionals is crucial for accurate diagnosis, treatment, and ongoing support.

When you are living in a relatively conservative areas where anything that is related to intercourse or your genitals is on its own considered a taboo, talking about it openly almost feels like a dream. However, you can always take on the conversation slowly and build up to the main event.

The importance of having these conversations is not very commonly talked about. Regardless of your country, sex in general has always been a taboo to talk about even in the most developed nations. A lot of it is because of a man&rsquo;s ego. Women often struggle to bring things up that they are doing wrong because men always have the strong belief of fully satisfying their partner.

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some steps to take help

The root of the problem is much deeper than we can possibly imagine and requires decades of unlearning. However, for now, you want your sex life to be like that deserving a chef&rsquo;s kiss. To make that happen and to ensure that you are not faking it anymore, you need to have &lsquo;the talk&rsquo;.&nbsp;

Creating an open dialogue with a partner about intercourse can be an important part of a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship.

Here are some steps you can take to help facilitate an open and honest conversation: 
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	<li>Start with an open mind and a non-judgmental attitude. Both partners should approach the conversation with a willingness to listen and understand each other&rsquo;s perspectives and needs. 
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	<li>Set aside enough time to have an in-depth conversation. This might mean setting aside a specific time and place to talk, without distractions or interruptions. 
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	<li>Start by asking your partner about their thoughts and feelings about intercourse. Encourage them to be honest and to share their concerns and desires. 
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	<li>Share your own thoughts and feelings about intercourse. This can help build trust and understanding between partners and can help lay the foundation for a more fulfilling sexual relationship. 
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	<li>Be patient and listen to your partner&rsquo;s responses. Avoid getting defensive or making assumptions about what they&rsquo;re saying. 
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	<li>Encourage open and honest communication throughout the conversation. This can mean asking questions, clarifying misunderstandings, and taking time to reflect on what your partner has said. 
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	<li>Be flexible and open to compromise. Intercourse is an important aspect of many relationships, but it&#39;s also important to respect each other&#39;s needs and boundaries. 
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	<li>Consider seeking professional help, if necessary. If you&rsquo;re having trouble communicating with your partner about intercourse, you may find it helpful to work with a<a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/why-you-should-go-to-a-sex-therapist"> therapist</a> or counselor who specializes in sexual health. 
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Having an open and honest conversation with your partner about intercourse can be a valuable opportunity to build trust and intimacy in your relationship. By approaching the conversation with a non-judgmental attitude, being patient and flexible, and being willing to compromise, you can help create a sexual relationship that meets the needs and desires of both partners.

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