Madeeha Syed

Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby: How To Talk To Your Partner About Sex

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How To Practice Safe Sex

Overview

We all think about it, talk about it, partake in it, see it everywhere but not always in the right ways. What makes sex pleasurable is not the next wildly creative idea but perhaps the most basic aspect of being made to feel safe. 
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Practice Safe Sex

Originally, the term was coined to indicate using contraceptive methods or devices in order to reduce the risk of transmitting diseases. It has now been expanded to include practices that prevent pregnancy as well. We call it safer sex or protected sex to highlight the fact that practicing these methods also doesn&rsquo;t completely eradicate the risks that come with this act.&nbsp; 
 
This term first came to light during the <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/hiv-61">HIV/AIDs</a> epidemic and is now a crucial part of sex education where the very real risk of sexually transmitted diseases (STD or STI) is a major topic of discussion. Strategies for preventing STIs such as gonorrhea or syphilis had existed long before this too. Locally we don&rsquo;t have much formal education or discussion available on these topics. 
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Abstinence, monogamy, polyfidelity, low-risk sexual behavior, limiting the number of sexual partners, avoiding substances that lead to high-risk behavior, being aware of your partner&rsquo;s sexual history, phone sex/cyber-sex, non-penetrative sex are all valid and useful practices that lead to a reduction of risks associated with sex.&nbsp; 
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Other methods

Some other, more commonly used methods are:

STDs can be passed by exchanging sexual fluids and from skin-to-skin contact as well. This is why barrier methods are so effective. These include condoms, internal condoms (female condoms), dental dams for orals sex and latex or nitrile gloves.&nbsp;

<ul>
	<li>Condoms: This is the most accessible and easy to use option. These are made out of latex. For those with latex allergies there are synthetic non-latex condoms available as well, although they are more prone to breakage. There are female condoms (internal condoms) as well which can be inserted into the vagina or anus to practice safe sex. These come in different styles (ribbed, ultra-thin etc) and flavors as well.&nbsp; 
	 
	It&rsquo;s important to remember that oil-based lubricants degrade the latex material and lead to breakage. This also happens with double gloving which causes friction and tears. Water based or silicone-based lubricants work much better with latex condoms. Remember using lube also makes sex safer as there are fewer chances of getting tears due to too much friction, for example, with anal sex. The effectivity of condoms is no more than 95 percent in preventing STI transmission.&nbsp; 
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<ul>
	<li>Birth Control Pills: Thee are of two types 
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1. Combined Oral Contraceptive (COCP): This has two hormones in it &mdash; oestrogen and progestin. These come in different formulations hence different doses can be prescribed according to personal needs and preferences. For instance, there are pills that give you your period every month as well as pills that can stop your period for 3 months on end. 
 
These work by suppressing ovulation, making the endometrium unsuitable for implantation and thickening cervical mucous which hinders sperm mobility. With typical use, COCPs can be 93-95 percent effective, while with perfect use they are up to 99 percent effective. By perfect use we mean taking it every single day at the exact same time. There is a margin of human error in this hence the lower numbers of effectivity as compared to other methods. 
 
Nausea, breast tenderness, mood swings, bloating, headaches, irregular bleeding are just some of the side effects one experiences on combined hormonal pill. If you still have severe side effects for three months in a row, it means that you need a dose adjustment, but feeling a little nauseous in the first couple months is completely normal. Some non-contraceptive benefits of this are reduced risk of uterine and ovarian cancer, helps manage PCOS, helps with acne and treats endometriosis-related pain, painful periods, menstrual migraines and PMS. 
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&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;2. Progestin-only pill (POP): There are two kinds of progestin-only pills. One is Norethindrone, in which you take a pill pack that is continuous&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;(28 days). And the other is Drospirenone, in which you get hormone free intervals (24 active tablets and 4 inactive tablets) 
&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;This works by two methods; it thickens cervical mucous which makes it harder for sperm to travel and stops ovulation. It&rsquo;s 92-95 percent&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; effective with perfect use and you have to take it at the same time every single day. You get some protective effects such as decreased risk of&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; uterine cancer. Some adverse effects include irregular bleeding, acne, moodiness, weight gain, and increase in follicular ovarian cysts. 
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<ul>
	<li>Depo Provera Shot: This is another form of Progestin-only birth control in which you get injected every three months. Its effectiveness profile is 93-95 percent. You can get unscheduled bleeding with this that might last for more than seven days and is usually the reason why most people don&rsquo;t prefer it. It has a similar side effect profile as the progestin-only pill.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Nexplanon: This is a tiny (4cm) plastic rod that gets placed between your bicep and triceps muscles. It can stay in for three years and is another progestin-only form of birth control. The biggest reason people don&rsquo;t like it is unscheduled bleeding, along with all of the side effects normally associated with hormonal contraception.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Hormonal IUD: This also contains progestin and is an intra-uterine device which means it sits inside your uterus. The foreign body effect causes inflammation that is toxic to the sperm while the progestin performs its usual functions. These can be inserted from three to five and up to seven years and come in different doses as well. Its 99 percent effective, rapidly reversible, helps manage heavy painful periods, anaemia and endometriosis-related pain. With this form of IUD, you can either experience prolonged bleeding or your period may stop completely. There is some risk of spotting or unscheduled bleeding as well along with the usual hormonal effects. Device expulsion and IUD perforation (very rare, around 1 in 1,000) may happen.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Non-Hormonal IUD: Paragard IUD is another intra-uterine contraceptive method which can stay in for up to 10 years and contains no hormones. This may make your periods heavier and longer with worsened cramps but it has a 99 percent effectivity rate. The best part about this option is that you can pull it out anytime if it doesn&rsquo;t suit you.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Birth Control Ring: This can be inserted into the vagina and kept there for three weeks, once it is removed on week four you can get your period. It has the same benefits as the birth control pill except you don&rsquo;t have to remember taking it every single day. It&rsquo;s 93-96 percent effective and with perfect use, this goes up to 99 percent. Since it contains oestrogen and progestin, it works by similar mechanism as the COCP and has the same benefits and side effects. You might notice an increase in discharge or vaginal infections with this option but it&rsquo;s not very common.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Birth Control Patch: This falls in the same category as the pill and the ring and contains oestrogen and progestin. It works by similar method as the COCP and is 93-96 percent effective with typical use. Perfect use can raise this number up to 98 percent. It can help with painful periods as well as endometriosis related pain while also decreasing risk of endometrial cancer.</li>
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It&rsquo;s important to note that it can&rsquo;t be given to patients with a BMI of 30 or more and people with increased risk of blood clots since the amount of oestrogen your body is exposed to by this method is fairly high. Common side effects include irregular bleeding, nausea, moodiness, breast tenderness and skin irritation at the site of application.&nbsp; 
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Ensure safety

Some other ways you can ensure safety of both you and your partners:

Immunization

Making sure you are vaccinated against STIs such as HPV and Hepatitis B is of prime importance. These are more effective when done before the onset of sexual activity. The CDC recommends getting the HPV vaccine for all pre-teens (ages 11 or 12) and people below 26 years of age. It’s not recommended after 26 as most people have been exposed to the virus by then, however, for people 27-45 years of age you can consult your doctor and proceed according to their instructions.&nbsp;

Get tested

If you are someone who regularly engages in sexual activity, make sure you’re also getting regularly tested for STDs. This applies even if you are 100 percent safe every single time.

Dr. Safia Mehmood

Myth Buster: Women Have Higher Sex Drives Than Men

You&rsquo;ve probably heard things like this: Men get turned on at the slightest provocation and are ready to have sex anytime, anywhere, while women tend to want sex less often and have to be &ldquo;in the mood.&rdquo; For years, that&rsquo;s been the widespread belief: Men just have higher sex drives than women.

Research has often been cited to back up the idea that, perhaps because of their higher testosterone levels, men think more about sex, seek it more actively, and get turned on more easily. Men&rsquo;s sexuality is like an on-off switch, while women&rsquo;s sexuality is a complicated network of connections. Right?

Actually, no! 
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Other research &ndash; along with an evolving understanding of sexuality, gender, and desire &ndash; are telling us that sex drive doesn&rsquo;t fit neatly into columns labeled &ldquo;male&rdquo; and &quot;female.&rdquo;

&ldquo;Not only is the idea that men have higher sex drives an oversimplified notion, but it&rsquo;s really just not true,&rdquo; says Sarah Hunter Murray, PhD, a marriage and family therapist and the author of Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex, and Relationships. 
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Many Influences

&ldquo;Our social norms and the ways we&rsquo;re raised to either lean into our sexuality or repress it have a huge impact on how we experience our sexuality and how we report it in studies,&rdquo; Hunter Murray says. &ldquo;People raised as men in our society have been typically given more permission to speak openly about wanting sex, while young women have often been told not to express their sexuality.&rdquo;

Justin Garcia, PhD, executive director of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, agrees.

&ldquo;Our sexual interest is driven by many factors, including not only biology, age, and use of medications, but also by situation &ndash; for both men and women,&rdquo; he says. &ldquo;Sexual attitudes are affected significantly by societal and religious attitudes. If you&rsquo;ve been told that expressing your sexuality is bad, over time that will impact your sense of whether you should be doing it or not.&rdquo;

And those messages may have influenced the research that has been telling us men want sex more than women. 
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Desire Disparities

It&rsquo;s hard to gauge whether men really want sex more than women when you&rsquo;re interviewing either men or women in isolation for research. If a man says he wants sex more than his female partner does, how do you know she&rsquo;d see things the same way?

The few studies that have looked at sexual desire in a &ldquo;dyadic&rdquo; relationship &ndash; that is, they interviewed opposite-sex couples in a relationship with each other &ndash; have pretty consistently found that men are no more or less likely to be the partner who wants more sex, more often.

One of the first studies to find this pattern was done more than 20 years ago. Among a group of 72 college-age, heterosexual couples, about half reported that they had similar levels of sexual desire. Among the couples who differed in their desire, about half of those said it was the male partner who wanted sex less often. 
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Conclusion

More recently, Hunter Murray published a similar study of college-age couples that had much the same results. About half of the couples had similar levels of desire. And among those who did not, men were just as likely as women to be the partner with lower sex drive.

&ldquo;Multiple studies show that men&rsquo;s and women&rsquo;s sexual desire levels are more similar than different,&rdquo; Hunter Murray says. There has not been much research on levels of desire in transgender and nonbinary people.

&ldquo;Gender norms about sex drive are outdated in a lot of ways,&rdquo; she says. &ldquo;If there&rsquo;s something about the way you experience desire that falls in line with a stereotype, that&rsquo;s fine, but so many of us fall outside of these limited boxes. There are men whose interest in sex ranges from low to none, to very high, and it&rsquo;s the same for women. As humans, we vary, and as long as your sexual expression is in a healthy way that feels good and right for you [and your partner(s)], chances are your experience is normal.&rdquo;

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Rukhsana Rizwan

How Sexual Intimacy With Their Partner Keeps Women Young

Staying intimate with your partner even later in life has many health benefits. Scientists have long-observed that married women have a much later age of natural menopause than single or divorced women, but there was no known reason why. 

One of the hypotheses was that sexual frequency behaved as a bio-behavioural mediator between delayed menopause and marital status. Studies have shown that married people engage in intercourse more frequently than those who are not. 
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menopause and marital status

Regular Sex Delays Menopause: According to a study published in the Royal Society Open Science, researchers tracked the sex lives nearly 3,000 American women for a decade, starting when they were, at average, around 45 years of age. What they found was that those women who engaged in less sex were more likely to reach menopause at an earlier age. 

More specifically, those who engaged in sexual activity on a weekly basis were 28 percent less likely to experience menopause compared with those who engaged in sexual activity less than on a monthly basis. Those that engaged in sexual activity on a monthly basis were 19 percent less likely to experience menopause than those who engaged in sexual activity less than on a monthly basis. 

Please note that researchers defined sexual activity as intercourse, touching, oral sex and self-stimulation. 
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Use It Or Lose It: This is because women&rsquo;s bodies may be reacting to less sexual activity on a &ldquo;use it or lose it&rdquo; basis. If you&rsquo;re not having sex, the chances of pregnancy are dramatically lowered, and so your body decides to&hellip; &lsquo;retire&rsquo;. 

&ldquo;The findings of our study suggest that if a woman is not having sex, and there is no chance of pregnancy, then the body &lsquo;chooses&rsquo; not to invest in ovulation, as it would be pointless,&rdquo;&nbsp;Megan Arnot, the first author of the study and a PhD candidate at University College London said in a statement released with the study. She added that, &ldquo;Ovulation is a costly process both in terms of energy and due to the fact, it worsens immune function.&rdquo; 

&ldquo;When approaching midlife, there may be a trade-off between continued ovulation and the likelihood of becoming pregnant, with sexual frequency serving as the cue of possible pregnancy,&rdquo; stated Megan Arnot. &ldquo;Mechanistically, it is likely something to do with oestrogen, but we don&rsquo;t know the exact pathway.&rdquo;

She contended that there may be a biological trade-off between investing energy into ovulation and elsewhere, such as the body using that same energy to keep the woman active so she may look after her grandchildren. This is also known as the grandmother hypothesis. 
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The &lsquo;Grandmother Hypothesis&rsquo;: The body&rsquo;s natural choice to discontinue fertility to invest more time in family is known as the &ldquo;grandmother hypothesis.&rdquo; Scientists hypothesise that women evolved to have their bodies go through menopause to reduce reproductive conflict between different generations of women in one family. This was to allow for the older generation to instead focus on investing their energy into taking care of their grandchildren instead of having more of their own. 
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Sexual Frequently Is Just One Possible Link: Women who are generally in poorer health also tend to be less sexually active. There is evidence to show that healthy sexual activity is important for overall health and quality of life. And while increased sexual activity may be linked to delayed menopause, more research is needed to uncover a causal pathway. 

Researchers do not want women who women who struggle with premature menopause or other reproductive issues to think that having more sex could have preserved their fertility. There are other factors that affect fertility, such as smoking, bad health etc. 
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The study simply shows that there is an association between frequency of sexual activity and delayed menopause. Having a healthy sex life is good for our health and making changes to improve it may benefit our quality of life and overall health. But will it guarantee later menopause? No, it will not. 
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Why You Should Go To A Sex Therapist

They say you should never judge a book by its cover. But can we judge a profession by its title? Maybe, but we also need to understand that there is more than what meets the eye and aspects that go beyond the what the title indicates.

Sex therapy is one of the most misunderstood professions out there. There is a stigma with it that it is only for those people or couples who have psychological trouble related to intercourse. If you think about it, that seems too simple and basic to be turned into a complete profession. 

So, what is it that sex therapists really do? Read on to find out. 
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Sex Therapist

A sex therapist is a mental health professional who specialises in the treatment of sexual issues and concerns. These professionals typically have advanced training and education in human sexuality and may hold a degree in <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/a-guide-to-couples-counselling-what-is-it-and-when-should-you-seek-help">counselling</a>, psychology, social work, or a related field. They may also be certified or licensed by a professional organisation. 
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Sex therapists use a variety of therapeutic techniques, such as talk therapy, behavioural therapy, and education about human sexuality, to help clients overcome sexual difficulties and improve their sexual well-being. They may also provide clients with tools and techniques to improve their sexual function, underlying behaviour that is subconsciously related to sex and may even improve your relationship with your partner.

It&rsquo;s important to note that sex therapists are different from sexologists, who are researchers and academics who study human sexuality and from sex workers, who provide sexual services to clients. 
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Sex therapy is very similar to couples&rsquo; therapy except for it offers a lot more value than that. Much like couples&rsquo; counselling, sex therapy addresses the underlying issues in your relationship and allows you to develop healthier behavioural outcomes based on that. 
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In simple words, sex therapy is an amalgam of your usual therapy, couples&rsquo; therapy with an added bonus of sex-related counselling to. The target is to find the underlying psychological connections between your behaviour and its impact on your partner and how it translates into your daily life functioning as well as into your sex life and love life. 
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To become a sex therapist, you typically need to have a master&rsquo;s or doctoral degree in counselling, psychology, social work or a related field. Some sex therapists also hold a degree in nursing, medicine or other healthcare-related fields. 
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In addition to formal education, most sex therapists complete supervised clinical training. This includes working with clients under the supervision of a licensed therapist or counsellor. They also need to complete a certain amount of continuing education hours to maintain their license.

To become a licensed sex therapist, you typically must pass a certification exam from a professional organisation, such as the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors and Therapists (AASECT) or the International Society for the Study of Women&rsquo;s Sexual Health (ISSWSH). 
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It is also important for sex therapists to have good communication skills, empathy, and an understanding of human sexuality. They should also be comfortable discussing sensitive topics and have a non-judgmental attitude.

It&rsquo;s worth noting that requirements for licensure and certification vary by state and country, so it&#39;s important to check with your local regulatory boards for specific requirements. 
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Umna Salah

Embracing Sex Positivity: What It Truly Means

Sex positivity is a powerful and transformative concept that has gained momentum in recent years. It encourages individuals to celebrate their sexual identities, desires, and experiences without shame or judgment. In this article, we&#39;ll delve into the meaning of sex positivity, its relevance in today&#39;s society, and how it can contribute to a more liberated and fulfilling sexual life. 
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Embracing Sex Positivity

<ul>
	<li>Breaking Free From Taboos: Sex positivity is about challenging societal taboos and stigmas surrounding sexuality. It emphasizes that there is no inherently &quot;right&quot; or &quot;wrong&quot; way to express one&#39;s sexuality, as long as it is consensual and respectful. 
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	<li>Embracing Diversity: It celebrates the diversity of sexual orientations, genders, and preferences. Sex positivity recognizes that every individual&#39;s experience is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to sexuality. 
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	<li>Consent And Respect: A core tenet of sex positivity is enthusiastic and informed consent. It emphasizes that all sexual activities should be consensual, free from coercion, and based on mutual respect and communication. 
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<ul>
	<li>Empowerment And Self-Acceptance: Embracing sex positivity can empower individuals to accept and love themselves for who they are, including their sexual desires and preferences. It encourages a positive self-image and fosters self-confidence. 
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	<li>Fostering Healthy Relationships: Sex-positive attitudes can improve communication and intimacy in relationships. It promotes open and honest discussions about desires and boundaries, leading to more fulfilling and satisfying connections. 
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	<li>Reducing Shame And Guilt: Many people carry shame and guilt surrounding their sexual experiences. Sex positivity aims to eradicate these negative feelings, allowing individuals to explore their desires free from emotional baggage. 
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<ul>
	<li>Not About Promiscuity: Contrary to some misconceptions, sex positivity is not an endorsement of promiscuity. It&#39;s about making informed choices, respecting boundaries, and embracing consensual sexual experiences. 
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	<li>Not Anti-Abstinence: Sex positivity doesn&#39;t negate the choice of abstinence or celibacy. It acknowledges that different individuals have different needs and desires, and all choices should be respected. 
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	<li>Education And Awareness: Educate yourself about sexuality, consent, and communication. Knowledge is a powerful tool in fostering a healthy and positive relationship with your own sexuality. 
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	<li>Open Communication: Practice open and honest communication with your partners about desires, boundaries, and expectations. This can lead to more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experiences. 
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	<li>Challenge Stereotypes: Be mindful of societal stereotypes and stigmas about sex. Challenge them when you encounter them, and promote a more inclusive and accepting attitude towards sexuality. 
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Bottom Line

Sex positivity is not just a trendy concept; it&#39;s a philosophy that can empower individuals to embrace their authentic selves and create healthier, more fulfilling sexual lives. By breaking free from taboos, celebrating diversity, and promoting consent and respect, we can create a more open and accepting society where everyone feels free to explore their own unique sexual journey without fear or shame. Embrace sex positivity, and discover the liberation it can bring to your life.

Demystifying Sex Addiction: Understanding The Compulsion

Sex addiction, also known as compulsive sexual behavior disorder, is a condition that has gained recognition in recent years. Yet, it remains shrouded in misconceptions. In this article, we will delve into what sex addiction truly entails, exploring its definition, characteristics, and the avenues for seeking help and support. 
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Demystifying Sex Addiction

<ul>
	<li>A Pattern Of Compulsive Behavior: Sex addiction is characterized by a persistent pattern of engaging in sexual activities despite negative consequences. Individuals with this condition often find it challenging to control their sexual impulses, leading to a sense of powerlessness. 
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	<li>Escalation And Preoccupation: Those with sex addiction may experience an escalation in their sexual behaviors and preoccupation with sexual thoughts. This can disrupt daily life and lead to distress. 
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	<li>Impact On Relationships: Sex addiction often takes a toll on personal relationships, as individuals may prioritize their sexual behaviors over their loved ones&#39; well-being, causing conflict and emotional turmoil. 
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<ul>
	<li>Excessive Pornography Consumption: Frequent and compulsive consumption of pornography can be a sign of sex addiction. Individuals may spend significant time viewing explicit material, even to the detriment of their work or personal life. 
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	<li>Multiple Sexual Partners: Engaging in sexual activities with multiple partners, often without regard for their own safety or the safety of others, is a common manifestation of sex addiction. 
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	<li>Unsafe Sexual Practices: Sex addicts may engage in unsafe sexual practices, such as unprotected sex or risky sexual encounters, increasing the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). 
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	<li>Loss Of Control: An inability to control sexual behaviors despite a sincere desire to stop or cut back is a hallmark of sex addiction. This lack of control can lead to feelings of shame and guilt. 
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<ul>
	<li>Biological Factors: Some research suggests that brain chemistry and genetics may play a role in the development of sex addiction. Differences in neurotransmitter levels and reward pathways could contribute to compulsive behavior. 
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	<li>Psychological Factors: Underlying psychological issues, such as trauma, depression, anxiety, or low self-esteem, can contribute to the development of sex addiction as individuals use sex as a coping mechanism. 
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	<li>Environmental Factors: Early exposure to explicit material or experiencing a permissive attitude toward sexual behavior within the family or peer group can influence the development of sex addiction. 
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<ul>
	<li>Therapy And Counseling: Individual and group therapy, as well as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can be effective in helping individuals understand and manage their compulsive sexual behavior. 
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	<li>Support Groups: Joining support groups like Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) or seeking the help of a sponsor can provide valuable peer support and accountability. 
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	<li>Medication: In some cases, medication may be prescribed to address underlying issues such as depression or anxiety that contribute to sex addiction. 
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	<li>Lifestyle Changes: Learning healthy coping mechanisms, managing stress, and adopting a balanced lifestyle can also aid in recovery from sex addiction. 
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Sex addiction is a complex condition that can have a profound impact on an individual&#39;s life and relationships. Understanding its signs and causes is the first step toward seeking help and embarking on a journey of healing and recovery. With the right support and treatment, individuals can regain control over their lives and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Unveiling The Impact: How Growing Up With 'Shame' Affects Your Sex Life

The emotional landscape of our early years has a profound impact on our adult lives, particularly when it comes to our sexuality. Growing up with a sense of shame can cast a long shadow over one&#39;s sexual experiences and relationships. In this article, we delve into the intricate ways in which childhood shame affects your sex life. 
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Shame Affects On Sex Life

<ul>
	<li>Understanding Childhood Shame: Childhood shame often arises from various sources, such as strict upbringing, cultural norms, or traumatic experiences. It can manifest as feelings of unworthiness, guilt, or embarrassment. 
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	<li>Impact Of Caregiver Attitudes: The attitudes and behaviors of caregivers can significantly influence a child&#39;s sense of shame. Parents who exhibit judgment, criticism, or withholding of affection may inadvertently contribute to the development of shame. 
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Lack Of Education: In many cultures, open and comprehensive sexual education is still lacking. The absence of age-appropriate information can lead to confusion, misinformation, and a sense of shame about one&#39;s body and desires. 
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Religious And Cultural Beliefs: Religious or cultural teachings that label certain sexual behaviors as sinful or immoral can foster feelings of shame around one&#39;s natural desires. 
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Negative Body Image: Childhood shame can lead to negative body image issues, making individuals feel self-conscious about their appearance, particularly in intimate settings. 
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Sexual Dysfunctions: Shame-related body image issues can contribute to sexual dysfunctions, such as erectile dysfunction or difficulty achieving orgasm, due to heightened anxiety and self-criticism. 
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<ul>
	<li>Fear Of Vulnerability: Shame can instill a fear of vulnerability in intimate relationships, making individuals hesitant to open up emotionally or express their desires and needs. 
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	<li>Inhibition And Avoidance: Those burdened by shame may avoid sexual encounters altogether or engage in sexual activities with a sense of detachment or emotional distance. 
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<ul>
	<li>Substance Abuse And Risky Sexual Behavior: Some individuals may resort to substance abuse or engage in risky sexual behaviors as a way to cope with their shame and numb their emotions. 
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	<li>Promiscuity Or Avoidance: Shame can lead to polarized behaviors, with some individuals becoming promiscuous to seek validation and others avoiding sexual encounters altogether. 
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<ul>
	<li>Therapy And Counseling: Seeking therapy or counseling can be a powerful step towards healing from childhood shame. Professional guidance can help individuals identify and address the root causes of their shame. 
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	<li>Self-Acceptance And Self-Compassion: Cultivating self-acceptance and self-compassion is essential. Learning to embrace one&#39;s sexuality without judgment or shame is a transformative journey. 
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<ul>
	<li>Open Communication: Healthy relationships are built on open and honest communication. Learning to express desires, boundaries, and concerns with a partner can create a safe and supportive environment. 
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	<li>Mindful Intimacy: Practicing mindful intimacy, where partners focus on the present moment and emotional connection, can help individuals overcome the barriers created by childhood shame. 
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</ul>

Childhood shame can cast a long shadow over one&#39;s sex life, but it&#39;s important to remember that healing and transformation are possible. By addressing the root causes of shame, seeking professional help when needed, and cultivating self-acceptance, individuals can unshackle themselves from the chains of shame and build healthier, more fulfilling sexual lives and relationships.

The Health Benefits Of Having Sex

Frequent romping in the haystack in a committed relationship has known to relieve stress, improve immunity and even preserve and promote cognitive function later in life.

As human beings, we are naturally wired for both love and sexual intercourse. We are hardwired to bond with one another and we thrive with healthy relationships. Similarly, studies have shown that having a healthy sex life is also beneficial for the mental and physical wellbeing of people as well.

Studies have shown that most happily married, sexually active couples have sex at least once a week. One of the studies involved over 30,000 American couples between 1989 and 2012. They found that having sex once a week in a committed relationship was enough to guarantee happiness and satisfaction. 
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The same cannot entirely be said for those that engaged in casual sexual encounters with the same frequency. Perhaps because the parameters surrounding casual encounters are different and are usually shrouded in uncertainty. In a study that involved over 7,500 university students in the United States, researchers found that those engaged in casual hookups had comparatively lower levels of self esteem and happiness and higher levels of <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/anxiety">anxiety</a> and <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/depression">depression</a>.

This is not to say that those engaged in good casual encounters do not gain any benefits at all. Each causal encounter is different. They do, the results are just not as consistent or high as those people who are married or coupled.

Engaging in regularly frequent intercourse within a healthy relationship has shown to have the following benefits: 
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Benefits of Having Sex

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	<h5>Stress Relief</h5>
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&nbsp;Having sex is a great way to relieve stress. I&rsquo;m sure the last thing most people want to do when they&rsquo;re stressed out is to have sex but the act itself reduces cortisol &mdash; the stress hormone &mdash; and floods the brain with feel-good chemicals.

What are these feel-good chemicals? They contain endorphins (responsible for reducing pain and stress), dopamine (activates the brian&rsquo;s pleasure centers) and activates oxytocin (the &lsquo;cuddle&rsquo; hormone). 

The highest levels of these feel-good chemicals are released after orgasm. 
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	<h5>Boosts Mood </h5>
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With sex releasing feel-good hormones in your body, you&rsquo;re bound to feel happier or get an emotional lift. Some studies have shown that it helps ward off depression. All studies point to how couples that have regular intercourse with one another report experiencing better mental health. 
But what&rsquo;s more, it&rsquo;s not just sex that releases feelings of well-being and satisfaction. Older couples have reported finding holding hands, hugging, kissing and touching their partners also contributes to greater intimacy and joy. 
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	<h5>Improves Sleep</h5>
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Ever notice how you sleep better after having sex? There&rsquo;s a reason for it. Having sex also releases prolactin, a hormone that helps relax your body. Add prolactin to the cocktail of feel-good hormones your body has released and that&rsquo;s why most people are able to sleep well after having sex. 
The highest amounts of prolactin are released right after orgasming. The same does not hold true for masturbation or self-pleasure. The level of prolactin produced in your body after orgasm is 400 percent higher than when a person masturbates.

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	<h5>Boosts Immunity </h5>
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&nbsp; Frequent sex is linked to a stronger immunity. Studies have shown that those who engage in frequent intercourse have 30 percent higher levels of Immunoglobulin A &mdash; one of the most common antibodies found in our system and our bodies first line of defense against warding off diseases. 
Frequent sex has also been known to decrease the probability of developing prostate cancer in men. 
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	<h5>Improves Heart Health </h5>
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&nbsp;A 17-year study by the New England Research Institute found that men who engage in intimate coitus at least twice a week are over 45 percent less likely to have heart disease when compared to men who only had sex once a month.

The benefits extend to women as well. A study conducted in 2016 found that women who had regular, satisfying intercourse had a much lower risk of hypertension.&nbsp; According to author and American relationship therapist Dr Laura Berman, &ldquo;It&rsquo;s not so much the number of orgasms or how vigorous the sexual experience that predicts a woman&rsquo;s sexual satisfaction. It&rsquo;s how close she feels to the person she is having sex with, through kissing and cuddling as well as orgasms. That is the key to her emotional and physical well-being, which benefits her health and her heart and everything else.&rdquo;

Men, be good to your wives in and out of bed. It benefits both of your lives. 
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	<h5>Enhances Intimacy </h5>
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Increased sex leads to more affection with your partner which in turn enhances a person&rsquo;s sense of wellbeing. Studies conducted on couples in the United States and Europe have shown that more sex created more affection. This happened not just after intercourse, but continued on for hours later. This held true for all couples &mdash; whether early in their marriage or those in their more mature, golden years. 
 
Dr Anik Debrot, a clinical psychologist at the University of Lausanne, Switzerland, who led the study stated: &ldquo;The more overall sex they had, the more affection; the less sex they had, the less positive affection.&rdquo; 
What&rsquo;s surprising is that you didn&rsquo;t need to have sex to boost intimacy. According to Debrot: &ldquo;Moments that were experienced as erotic or sexually arousing were just as predictive of positive emotions.&rdquo;

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	<h5>Boosts Cognition </h5>
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British researchers analysing data from the English Longitudinal Study of Ageing, found that adults who engaged in regular sexual intercourse between the ages of 50 and 89 years of age had increased brain function, number sequencing and word recall. Those that had regular sex performed better on the tests than did those that did not. 
The same researchers have also found that increased sex, to that golden frequency of once-a-week, resulted in highly improved verbal fluency and cognitive function among older adults. 
 
In short: having regular sex into your old age actually improves and protects your brain&rsquo;s functioning. 
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	<h5>Acts as a Pain Reliever </h5>
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&nbsp;Have a headache that won&rsquo;t go away no matter what you do? Have sex. Studies have repeatedly shown how sexual intercourse helps reduce chronic back and leg pain, eases menstrual cramps and helps relieve migraines. 
How is this possible? Scientists point to the feel-good hormones released during intercourse. Add to that, orgasm researcher Barry Komisaruk (Rutgers University) found that &ldquo;the sensory input produced by vaginal stimulation produces a powerful analgesic effect.&rdquo; Komisaurk, along with sex researcher Beverly Whipple, found that, &ldquo;the pressure of pleasurable vaginal stimulation increased pain tolerance by 40 percent. When the women came to orgasm, their pain tolerance increased by nearly 75 percent.&rdquo; 
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Having frequent sex in a healthy committed relationship is great for your mental and physical health, not just when you&rsquo;re young but also if you continue making love to your partner later in life as well. Sex just keeps you young.

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How Sleep Is Connected To Sex

Sleep and sex are two essential components of a healthy lifestyle, and they are closely connected. Research has shown that getting enough sleep can improve sexual function, and sexual activity can <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/are-you-sleeping-on-your-sleep-cycle">improve sleep quality</a>. Understanding the connection between sleep and sex can help individuals improve both their sexual and sleep health.

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Sleep and Sexual Function

First, let&#39;s examine the impact of sleep on sexual function. Studies have shown that sleep deprivation can have a negative impact on sexual desire and performance. One study found that men who were sleep-deprived reported lower levels of sexual desire and arousal, as well as decreased sexual satisfaction. Another study found that sleep-deprived women reported decreased lubrication and sexual desire.

The reason for this connection is that sleep is essential for regulating hormones that impact sexual function. When we sleep, our bodies release hormones like testosterone and estrogen, which are essential for sexual desire and function. Lack of sleep can disrupt the normal hormone production, leading to a decrease in sexual desire and function. 
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In addition to hormone regulation, sleep also plays a role in physical and emotional well-being. Lack of sleep can lead to increased stress levels, which can negatively impact sexual desire and performance. Additionally, sleep deprivation can lead to physical exhaustion, which can make sexual activity more difficult and less enjoyable.

On the other hand, getting enough sleep can have a positive impact on sexual function. One study found that men who reported getting seven to eight hours of sleep per night had higher levels of testosterone and reported better sexual function than men who slept less than seven hours per night. Another study found that women who got more sleep reported higher levels of sexual desire and function. 
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Now, let&#39;s examine the impact of sex on sleep. Sexual activity can have a positive impact on sleep quality. Studies have shown that sexual activity can help individuals fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer. This is due to the release of hormones like oxytocin and endorphins during sexual activity, which promote relaxation and feelings of well-being.

Additionally, sexual activity can help reduce stress levels, which can improve sleep quality. One study found that sexual activity was associated with lower levels of stress and better sleep quality in both men and women. Another study found that individuals who engaged in sexual activity reported better sleep quality, regardless of age or relationship status. 
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It&#39;s important to note that the positive impact of sex on sleep is not limited to partnered sexual activity. Masturbation can also have a positive impact on sleep quality. One study found that individuals who masturbated before bed reported better sleep quality and fell asleep faster than those who did not masturbate.

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Improving Sleep and Sexual Health

So, how can individuals improve their sleep and sexual health? The key is to prioritize both sleep and sexual activity. This means setting aside time for both activities and making them a priority in daily life. Here are some tips for improving both sleep and sexual health: 
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	<li>Create a sleep-friendly environment. Make sure your bedroom is cool, dark, and quiet. Avoid screens before bed and establish a relaxing bedtime routine.</li>
	<li>Prioritize sleep. Aim for seven to eight hours of sleep per night, and make sleep a priority in your daily routine.</li>
	<li>Exercise regularly. Regular exercise can help improve both sleep and sexual function.</li>
	<li>Communicate with your partner. Open and honest communication is key for a healthy sex life. Talk to your partner about your sexual desires and any concerns you may have.</li>
	<li>Make time for sexual activity. Schedule time for sexual activity, whether that means scheduling a date night or setting aside time for solo sexual activity.</li>
	<li>Experiment with different sexual activities. Trying new sexual activities can help improve sexual function and increase desire.</li>
	<li>Seek help if needed. If you are experiencing sleep or sexual issues, don&#39;t be afraid to seek help from a healthcare provider or therapist. 
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In conclusion, sleep and sex are closely connected, and both are essential components of a healthy, functioning life. 
 
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Why Are An Increasing Number Of Men Around The World Single And Sexless?

In recent years, there has been a growing concern about the number of young men who are single and sexless. While some argue that this trend is simply a reflection of changing social norms, research suggests that there may be deeper psychological and social factors at play.&nbsp; 
In this article, we will explore some of the reasons why so many men are single nowadays. 
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Reasons

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	<li>The Rise Of Hookup Culture: One of the primary factors contributing to the rise of single, sexless men is the emergence of hookup culture. Hookup culture is characterized by casual sexual encounters that are not emotionally committed or long-term. While hookup culture has been a part of college campuses for decades, it has recently spread to other social spheres, including online dating apps. 
	Research has shown that hookup culture can be particularly challenging for men. Men are often expected to take the lead in initiating sexual encounters, and are judged more harshly for expressing emotions or vulnerability. Additionally, men are more likely to be criticized for not conforming to traditional gender norms around sexual behavior. 
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	<li>The Impact Of Technology: Another factor that has contributed to the rise of single, sexless men is the impact of technology on social interactions. With the rise of social media and online dating apps, many men report feeling overwhelmed and disconnected from the dating scene. The increased emphasis on physical appearance and superficial qualities can be particularly challenging for men who may not fit the traditional standards of masculinity. 
	Research has also shown that social media can contribute to feelings of <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/the-signs-that-your-relationship-is-based-on-loneliness-not-love">social isolation and loneliness</a>. Men who spend excessive amounts of time on social media may feel disconnected from their peers and struggle to form meaningful relationships. 
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	<li>The Changing Role Of Men In Society: The changing role of men in society is another factor that has contributed to the rise of single, sexless men. Historically, men have been socialized to prioritize career success and financial stability over emotional intimacy and social connection. However, this traditional model of masculinity is increasingly being challenged, as more men seek fulfilling personal relationships and meaningful connections. 
	Research has shown that men who prioritize their careers over their personal lives are more likely to experience depression, anxiety, and loneliness. Men who struggle to form meaningful relationships may also be more likely to engage in risky behaviors, such as substance abuse and high-risk sexual behavior. 
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	<li>The Impact Of Porn Addiction: Finally, porn addiction is another factor that may contribute to the rise of single, sexless men. Pornography has become more accessible and accepted in mainstream culture, and many men report struggling with compulsive use of pornographic material. Porn addiction can be particularly challenging for men who may feel shame or embarrassment around their use of pornography. 
	Research has shown that porn addiction can lead to a number of negative consequences, including decreased sexual satisfaction, relationship problems, and mental health issues. Men who struggle with porn addiction may be more likely to withdraw from social interactions and experience feelings of shame or guilt.</li>
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Adressing the Issue

The rise of single, sexless men is a complex issue that requires a multifaceted approach. Here are a few strategies that can help address the issue: 
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	<li>Encourage Healthy Relationship Behaviors: One strategy for addressing the issue is to encourage healthy relationship behaviors, such as open communication, emotional vulnerability, and mutual respect. Men who struggle with traditional gender norms around sexual behavior may benefit from education around healthy sexual practices and communication. 
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	<li>Address Porn Addiction: Addressing porn addiction is another strategy for helping men overcome the negative consequences of compulsive porn use. Men who struggle with porn addiction may benefit from therapy or support groups that address the underlying psychological and social factors contributing to their addiction. 
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	<li>Promote Social Connection: Promoting social connection and meaningful relationships is another strategy for helping men overcome feelings of loneliness and disconnection. This can involve community-based programs, such as mentoring and volunteering, that provide opportunities for men to form meaningful relationships with others.&nbsp;</li>
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While the increasing use of technology and changing social structures may be leading more and more men to become isolated, they can adopt strategies that help them develop better relationships with others.&nbsp; 
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When you are living in a relatively conservative areas where anything that is related to intercourse or your genitals is on its own considered a taboo, talking about it openly almost feels like a dream. However, you can always take on the conversation slowly and build up to the main event.

The importance of having these conversations is not very commonly talked about. Regardless of your country, sex in general has always been a taboo to talk about even in the most developed nations. A lot of it is because of a man&rsquo;s ego. Women often struggle to bring things up that they are doing wrong because men always have the strong belief of fully satisfying their partner.

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some steps to take help

The root of the problem is much deeper than we can possibly imagine and requires decades of unlearning. However, for now, you want your sex life to be like that deserving a chef&rsquo;s kiss. To make that happen and to ensure that you are not faking it anymore, you need to have &lsquo;the talk&rsquo;.&nbsp;

Creating an open dialogue with a partner about intercourse can be an important part of a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship.

Here are some steps you can take to help facilitate an open and honest conversation: 
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	<li>Start with an open mind and a non-judgmental attitude. Both partners should approach the conversation with a willingness to listen and understand each other&rsquo;s perspectives and needs. 
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	<li>Set aside enough time to have an in-depth conversation. This might mean setting aside a specific time and place to talk, without distractions or interruptions. 
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	<li>Start by asking your partner about their thoughts and feelings about intercourse. Encourage them to be honest and to share their concerns and desires. 
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	<li>Share your own thoughts and feelings about intercourse. This can help build trust and understanding between partners and can help lay the foundation for a more fulfilling sexual relationship. 
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	<li>Be patient and listen to your partner&rsquo;s responses. Avoid getting defensive or making assumptions about what they&rsquo;re saying. 
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	<li>Encourage open and honest communication throughout the conversation. This can mean asking questions, clarifying misunderstandings, and taking time to reflect on what your partner has said. 
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	<li>Be flexible and open to compromise. Intercourse is an important aspect of many relationships, but it&#39;s also important to respect each other&#39;s needs and boundaries. 
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	<li>Consider seeking professional help, if necessary. If you&rsquo;re having trouble communicating with your partner about intercourse, you may find it helpful to work with a therapist or counselor who specializes in sexual health. 
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Having an open and honest conversation with your partner about intercourse can be a valuable opportunity to build trust and intimacy in your relationship. By approaching the conversation with a non-judgmental attitude, being patient and flexible, and being willing to compromise, you can help create a sexual relationship that meets the needs and desires of both partners.

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