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Life After MI

Introduction

A heart attack is a scary thought. But did you know a lot of people are able to recover from their first heart attack and resume their regular lives, enjoying many more years of productive activity? It goes without saying that a heart attack necessitates adjusting some aspects of your life. Depending on the extent of the damage to your heart, your doctor will advise drugs and lifestyle adjustments. 
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Following a heart attack, you&#39;ll be required to stay at the hospital for 2-7 days. This period will be prolonged if you experience difficulties in recovery or if you&#39;ve undergone other complicated surgeries, including bypass surgery. 
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Depending on your health, doctors initially recommend bed rest but at times, they might also allow few activities. For example, you could be well on your way to recovery within a few weeks, or you may need 2-3 months before you can resume all of your regular activities, including employment. 
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In the United States, about 865,000 people experience a<a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/myocardial-infarction"> myocardial infarction</a> or heart attack annually. The projected total cost of heart disease, including direct as well as indirect costs, in 2007 was $277.1 billion. Cardiac rehabilitation, a crucial part of post-heart attack recovery therapy, promotes healthy lifestyles, lowers the risk of mortality and disability, and encourages heart attack sufferers to lead active lives<a href="#accordion">[1]</a>. 
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If you or a loved one has suffered a heart attack, heart failure, or any heart condition that warranted surgery or medical attention, cardiac rehabilitation is crucial.&nbsp; This is a monitored program which consists of the following: 
&nbsp;

<ul>
	<li>Physical exercise, such as cycling that improves your cardiovascular and muscular fitness</li>
	<li>Education with respect to living a healthy lifestyle, eating well, taking medications as directed, and not smoking</li>
	<li>Support in terms of counseling the patient and familiarizing them with methods of stress reduction and mental health enhancement 
	&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

You might receive assistance from a group of people during cardiac rehabilitation, including your medical team, fitness experts, nutritionists, physiotherapists, and counselors. 
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Understanding the Life after Myocardial Infarction(MI)

There are numerous short and long-term health advantages of cardiac rehabilitation, including: 
&nbsp;

<ul>
	<li>Recovering from a heart attack by fortifying your body and heart</li>
	<li>Alleviating heart disease symptoms, such as chest pain</li>
	<li>Forming better habits, such as increasing your level of exercise, giving up smoking, and adopting a heart-healthy diet&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Having a nutritionist or dietician monitor your intake of foods &ndash; fewer items with bad fats and more items that are rich in fiber, vitamins, and minerals</li>
	<li>Lowering stress and anxiety&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Coping with depression&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Increasing your strength and energy making everyday tasks easier, such as carrying groceries and climbing stairs</li>
	<li>Motivating you to take your prescribed medications in order to reduce your risk of developing future heart issues</li>
	<li>Reducing the risk of heart disease-related sickness and mortality&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Studies have shown that cardiac rehabilitation reduces your risk of dying by roughly 35% in 5 years following a heart attack or bypass surgery 
	&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

<h5> 
1.&nbsp;Make Prevention Your First Concern</h5>

While recovery from a first heart attack is possible so much so that you can go on to lead long, fulfilling lives, it&rsquo;s also a fact that 20% of people aged 45 and older have another heart attack within 5 years of their first. So, at the moment, your priority should be to avoid another heart attack. 
&nbsp;

<ul>
	<li>Follow the directions on your prescriptions and do not skip your medications. Some drugs significantly reduce the risk of having another cardiac episode.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Attend your follow-up appointments. Doing so will enable your medical professionals to monitor your condition and recovery. Also, if you take it seriously and actually prepare for your appointment, then you will definitely be able to take full advantage of it.</li>
	<li>Engage in cardiac rehabilitation. Cardiac rehabilitation is a program under the direction of a doctor that helps in your recovery following a heart attack. When you were discharged from the hospital, you should have received a referral to cardiac rehab; if not, talk to your doctor.&nbsp; 
	&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

<h5>2. Get Assistance</h5>

After a heart attack, it&#39;s common to feel insecure, worried, afraid, or puzzled. You can deal with it by seeking assistance from family members or those who have also had a heart attack. You can get in touch with other heart attack survivors and caregivers through different support networks. 
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<h5>3. Control Your Risk Factors</h5>

It&#39;s critical to control risk factors after a heart attack by taking medication, eating a healthy diet, giving up smoking, and exercising. Risk factors, like high blood sugar, high blood pressure, and <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/diabetes-type-1-and-2">diabetes </a>would make you prone to another heart attack. 
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<h5>4. Reduce Your Alcohol Intake</h5>

Alcohol consumption can increase the risk of heart disease, cancer, stroke, and other disorders, as well as raise blood pressure. It can cause irregular heartbeats and elevated triglyceride levels. <a href="http://merisehat.pk/disease/obesity">Obesity</a>, suicide, alcohol addiction, and accidents are all caused by excessive alcohol use. 
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<h5>5. Manage Diabetes&nbsp;</h5>

At least 68% of patients with diabetes mellitus who are over 65 years old pass away from hypertension, whereas 16% die from strokes. The risk of cardiovascular disease for someone with diabetes significantly increases when you consider additional risk factors, such as high blood pressure, smoking, high cholesterol, obesity, and a lack of daily exercise and activity.&nbsp; 
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<h5>6. Exercise Regularly</h5>

A heart-healthy lifestyle and recovering from a heart attack depends heavily on exercise. When participating in cardiac rehab, your progress will be tracked over time. Any symptoms and changes in heart rhythm while exercising will be observed and reported to your doctor.&nbsp; 
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It will also help determine your functional capacity following a heart attack. This refers to your ability to perform daily tasks that call for physical effort. The aim initially will be to raise this effort by 20%. You&#39;ll get on a treadmill, working out for at least 30 minutes a day, most days of the week during your cardiac rehab period, so medical professionals can see your functional capacity<a href="#accordion">[2]</a>.&nbsp;&nbsp; 
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<h5>7. Consume Heart-Healthy Foods</h5>

It is crucial to make dietary adjustments to lower cholesterol and saturated fat intake as well as salt intake. The Mediterranean Diet, which is regarded as the healthiest eating pattern, encourages: 
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<ul>
	<li>Eating primarily fruits, grains, vegetables, olive oil, and nuts&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Limiting red and processed meats while including some fish and chicken</li>
	<li>Limiting dairy and sugar intake 
	&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

<h5>8. Reduce Blood Pressure</h5>

Cardiovascular disease and persistent high blood pressure are strongly related. However, you can lower your blood pressure with weight loss, exercise, less salt intake, and prescription drugs. 
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The stress on the heart and the chance of having a heart attack or stroke in the future can both be decreased by lowering your blood pressure to less than 130/80 mmHg. 
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<h5>9. Acquire A Healthy Weight</h5>

You may be able to shed weight and improve your heart health by eating better and exercising more.

The risk of cardiovascular events may be decreased, and quality of life may be increased with weight loss to a BMI target of &lt; 25 kg/m2. 
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<h5>10. Don&rsquo;t Ignore Mental Health&nbsp;</h5>

Most people don&#39;t realize how much damage a heart attack can inflict on their mental health. Patients and their families face a lot of challenges.

It is especially important to look after your mental health after a heart attack because studies suggest that people with heart disease are more inclined to experience depression than people who don&#39;t have it. 
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Don&#39;t disregard changes in your mood, and keep an eye out for depressive symptoms, like

<ul>
	<li>Sadness</li>
	<li>Weariness and exhaustion</li>
	<li>A drop in enjoyment or enthusiasm for activities</li>
</ul>

Contact your healthcare practitioner to talk about these issues if you have them. 
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<h5>11. Maintain Optimal Blood Cholesterol Levels</h5>

Having fat clogged up in your arteries is a recipe for disaster. In the end, it might result in a heart attack or stroke. Exercise and reduce your consumption of saturated, trans fat, and cholesterol.&nbsp; 
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Medication may be the solution if diet and exercise by themselves are insufficient to lower those values. Take it precisely as your doctor has instructed. The breakdown of where those numbers should be is as follows: 
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Overall Cholesterol

Your total cholesterol score= HDL + LDL + 20% of your triglyceride level 
&nbsp;

<ul>
	<li>Low-Density Lipoprotein (LDL)</li>
</ul>

This type of cholesterol is known as the &quot;bad&quot; cholesterol. Your heart health benefits if you have low LDL cholesterol levels.&nbsp;

However, the American Heart Association&#39;s most recent recommendations state that your LDL cholesterol level should no longer be the primary determinant of treatment to avoid heart attack and stroke. 
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The recommendations state that people using statins are no longer required to lower their LDL cholesterol levels to a predetermined target level. LDL cholesterol might increase due to lifestyle factors, such as a diet heavy in trans and saturated fats. 
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<ul>
	<li>High-Density Lipoprotein (HDL)</li>
</ul>

HDL cholesterol is described as &quot;good&quot; cholesterol and, generally, higher levels are preferred for this type. The likelihood of developing heart disease is increased if you have low HDL cholesterol.&nbsp; 
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A reduced HDL cholesterol level is typically present in people with high blood triglycerides. Lower HDL cholesterol can be caused by genetic factors, type 2 diabetes, smoking, being overweight, and inactivity. 
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<ul>
	<li>Triglycerides</li>
</ul>

The most prevalent form of fat in the body is triglyceride. Age and sex affect normal triglyceride levels differently. Atherosclerosis, which increases the risk for heart attack and stroke due to the formation of fatty deposits in artery walls, is related to high triglyceride levels in combination with low HDL cholesterol or high LDL cholesterol. 
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<h5>12. Relieve Stress&nbsp;</h5>

You will learn stress-reduction tactics in cardiac rehab to boost your mental and emotional health as well as lower your risk of having another heart attack.&nbsp;

You&#39;ll discover methods for altering your behavior, such as how to breathe and how to control your stress and anger. Multiple studies demonstrate that those who participate in cardiac rehab recover from a heart attack more quickly than those who do not. 
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<h5>13. Quit Smoking</h5>

The truth is that it&#39;s imperative to stop smoking following a heart attack. If you need assistance quitting the habit, go to your doctor.

Smokers have a fourfold increased risk of dying from heart disease compared to non-smokers, and studies have shown that those who pick up the habit again after having a heart attack have a threefold increased risk of passing away. 
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<h5>14. Know When To Seek Medical Attention&nbsp;</h5>

Your first heart attack means you might get another one in future. Therefore, it&rsquo;s your responsibility to take care of your body and report any heart attack symptoms as soon as they manifest, no matter how insignificant they seem.&nbsp; 
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If you have any of the following symptoms, get emergency medical help right away:

<ul>
	<li>Any episode of sudden, severe tiredness</li>
	<li>Chest discomfort&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Pain in one arm or both arms</li>
	<li>Abnormally fast or erratic heartbeat</li>
	<li>Sweating without exertion&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Queasy feeling</li>
	<li>Swelling in one or both legs&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Breathing difficulties 
	&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

Conclusion

Your doctor probably gave you a lot of information and recommendations after your heart attack therapy. You might attempt to make sense of what transpired after some time has passed. At times, the path to recovery would seem challenging. There would be doubts, worries, and even panic routinely. Amidst all this, you should remember that a heart attack should not be taken as a warning to abandon life. Rather, the event signifies that you should prioritize your physical and mental health.

[1] Receipt of outpatient cardiac rehabilitation among heart attack survivors--United  States, 2005. MMWR Morb Mortal Wkly Rep. 2008 Feb;57(4):89–94.

[2] Arena R, Cahalin LP, Borghi-Silva A, Phillips SA. Improving functional capacity in heart failure: the need for a multifaceted  approach. Curr Opin Cardiol. 2014 Sep;29(5):467–74.

Neelam Asad

How To Practice Safe Sex

Overview

We all think about it, talk about it, partake in it, see it everywhere but not always in the right ways. What makes sex pleasurable is not the next wildly creative idea but perhaps the most basic aspect of being made to feel safe. 
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Practice Safe Sex

Originally, the term was coined to indicate using contraceptive methods or devices in order to reduce the risk of transmitting diseases. It has now been expanded to include practices that prevent pregnancy as well. We call it safer sex or protected sex to highlight the fact that practicing these methods also doesn&rsquo;t completely eradicate the risks that come with this act.&nbsp; 
 
This term first came to light during the <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/hiv-61">HIV/AIDs</a> epidemic and is now a crucial part of sex education where the very real risk of sexually transmitted diseases (STD or STI) is a major topic of discussion. Strategies for preventing STIs such as gonorrhea or syphilis had existed long before this too. Locally we don&rsquo;t have much formal education or discussion available on these topics. 
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Abstinence, monogamy, polyfidelity, low-risk sexual behavior, limiting the number of sexual partners, avoiding substances that lead to high-risk behavior, being aware of your partner&rsquo;s sexual history, phone sex/cyber-sex, non-penetrative sex are all valid and useful practices that lead to a reduction of risks associated with sex.&nbsp; 
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Other methods

Some other, more commonly used methods are:

STDs can be passed by exchanging sexual fluids and from skin-to-skin contact as well. This is why barrier methods are so effective. These include condoms, internal condoms (female condoms), dental dams for orals sex and latex or nitrile gloves.&nbsp;

<ul>
	<li>Condoms: This is the most accessible and easy to use option. These are made out of latex. For those with latex allergies there are synthetic non-latex condoms available as well, although they are more prone to breakage. There are female condoms (internal condoms) as well which can be inserted into the vagina or anus to practice safe sex. These come in different styles (ribbed, ultra-thin etc) and flavors as well.&nbsp; 
	 
	It&rsquo;s important to remember that oil-based lubricants degrade the latex material and lead to breakage. This also happens with double gloving which causes friction and tears. Water based or silicone-based lubricants work much better with latex condoms. Remember using lube also makes sex safer as there are fewer chances of getting tears due to too much friction, for example, with anal sex. The effectivity of condoms is no more than 95 percent in preventing STI transmission.&nbsp; 
	&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

<ul>
	<li>Birth Control Pills: Thee are of two types 
	&nbsp;</li>
</ul>

1. Combined Oral Contraceptive (COCP): This has two hormones in it &mdash; oestrogen and progestin. These come in different formulations hence different doses can be prescribed according to personal needs and preferences. For instance, there are pills that give you your period every month as well as pills that can stop your period for 3 months on end. 
 
These work by suppressing ovulation, making the endometrium unsuitable for implantation and thickening cervical mucous which hinders sperm mobility. With typical use, COCPs can be 93-95 percent effective, while with perfect use they are up to 99 percent effective. By perfect use we mean taking it every single day at the exact same time. There is a margin of human error in this hence the lower numbers of effectivity as compared to other methods. 
 
Nausea, breast tenderness, mood swings, bloating, headaches, irregular bleeding are just some of the side effects one experiences on combined hormonal pill. If you still have severe side effects for three months in a row, it means that you need a dose adjustment, but feeling a little nauseous in the first couple months is completely normal. Some non-contraceptive benefits of this are reduced risk of uterine and ovarian cancer, helps manage PCOS, helps with acne and treats endometriosis-related pain, painful periods, menstrual migraines and PMS. 
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&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;2. Progestin-only pill (POP): There are two kinds of progestin-only pills. One is Norethindrone, in which you take a pill pack that is continuous&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;(28 days). And the other is Drospirenone, in which you get hormone free intervals (24 active tablets and 4 inactive tablets) 
&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;This works by two methods; it thickens cervical mucous which makes it harder for sperm to travel and stops ovulation. It&rsquo;s 92-95 percent&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; effective with perfect use and you have to take it at the same time every single day. You get some protective effects such as decreased risk of&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp; uterine cancer. Some adverse effects include irregular bleeding, acne, moodiness, weight gain, and increase in follicular ovarian cysts. 
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<ul>
	<li>Depo Provera Shot: This is another form of Progestin-only birth control in which you get injected every three months. Its effectiveness profile is 93-95 percent. You can get unscheduled bleeding with this that might last for more than seven days and is usually the reason why most people don&rsquo;t prefer it. It has a similar side effect profile as the progestin-only pill.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Nexplanon: This is a tiny (4cm) plastic rod that gets placed between your bicep and triceps muscles. It can stay in for three years and is another progestin-only form of birth control. The biggest reason people don&rsquo;t like it is unscheduled bleeding, along with all of the side effects normally associated with hormonal contraception.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Hormonal IUD: This also contains progestin and is an intra-uterine device which means it sits inside your uterus. The foreign body effect causes inflammation that is toxic to the sperm while the progestin performs its usual functions. These can be inserted from three to five and up to seven years and come in different doses as well. Its 99 percent effective, rapidly reversible, helps manage heavy painful periods, anaemia and endometriosis-related pain. With this form of IUD, you can either experience prolonged bleeding or your period may stop completely. There is some risk of spotting or unscheduled bleeding as well along with the usual hormonal effects. Device expulsion and IUD perforation (very rare, around 1 in 1,000) may happen.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Non-Hormonal IUD: Paragard IUD is another intra-uterine contraceptive method which can stay in for up to 10 years and contains no hormones. This may make your periods heavier and longer with worsened cramps but it has a 99 percent effectivity rate. The best part about this option is that you can pull it out anytime if it doesn&rsquo;t suit you.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Birth Control Ring: This can be inserted into the vagina and kept there for three weeks, once it is removed on week four you can get your period. It has the same benefits as the birth control pill except you don&rsquo;t have to remember taking it every single day. It&rsquo;s 93-96 percent effective and with perfect use, this goes up to 99 percent. Since it contains oestrogen and progestin, it works by similar mechanism as the COCP and has the same benefits and side effects. You might notice an increase in discharge or vaginal infections with this option but it&rsquo;s not very common.&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Birth Control Patch: This falls in the same category as the pill and the ring and contains oestrogen and progestin. It works by similar method as the COCP and is 93-96 percent effective with typical use. Perfect use can raise this number up to 98 percent. It can help with painful periods as well as endometriosis related pain while also decreasing risk of endometrial cancer.</li>
</ul>

It&rsquo;s important to note that it can&rsquo;t be given to patients with a BMI of 30 or more and people with increased risk of blood clots since the amount of oestrogen your body is exposed to by this method is fairly high. Common side effects include irregular bleeding, nausea, moodiness, breast tenderness and skin irritation at the site of application.&nbsp; 
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Ensure safety

Some other ways you can ensure safety of both you and your partners:

Immunization

Making sure you are vaccinated against STIs such as HPV and Hepatitis B is of prime importance. These are more effective when done before the onset of sexual activity. The CDC recommends getting the HPV vaccine for all pre-teens (ages 11 or 12) and people below 26 years of age. It’s not recommended after 26 as most people have been exposed to the virus by then, however, for people 27-45 years of age you can consult your doctor and proceed according to their instructions.&nbsp;

Get tested

If you are someone who regularly engages in sexual activity, make sure you’re also getting regularly tested for STDs. This applies even if you are 100 percent safe every single time.

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Mid-Life Crisis In Men: What Does It Look Like Now?

Middle-aged individuals tend to go through a period where their identity and self-confidence suffer greatly. This is usually between the ages of 30 to 65 years, when these individuals start having to face their growing age as new physical ailments start popping up.&nbsp;

Some feel they have wasted their life so far and it&rsquo;s &lsquo;too late&rsquo; now. There can be a lot of <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/anxiety">anxiety</a>, remorse and sadness associated with it which tends to manifest in drastic decisions that don&rsquo;t really make sense for the kind of person they are.&nbsp;

This phenomenon is termed as midlife crisis. It was first coined in 1965 by Elliot Jacques. It tends to last between three to 10 years in men and two to five years in women. But it can even last only a few months in some individuals.&nbsp; 
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Even though it&rsquo;s mainly associated with ageing, there can be many precipitating factors along with ageing, such as a divorce, work troubles, children maturing and leaving the house, a death of a loved one etc.&nbsp;

This, however, is not a clinical diagnosis and is even thought to be a cultural phenomenon limited to western society. Studies have shown that it might not be as common as it was previously thought to be while there is also little evidence of it in other cultures, such as in Indian and Japanese cultures.&nbsp;

Men tend to go through their midlife crisis at the age of 40 and it is usually preceded by a feeling of inadequacy, being unaccomplished or having to face a crisis such as a parent&rsquo;s or a peer&rsquo;s death. It is also very abundantly portrayed in pop-culture where men are seen to pursue younger women, buying expensive things and being in denial about their receding hairline.&nbsp;

In real life, these clues might not always (mostly never) present.&nbsp; 
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Mid-life Crisis

<ul><li>They tend to turn into mopey individuals with more frequent bouts of sadness requiring alone time to process feelings of loss of control, disappointment and self-pity. Other markers of chronic sadness may also be there such as disturbed sleep, over eating or lack of motivation.&nbsp; </li><li>Other than sadness they might have turbulent moods where one minute they are down and next they are ready to party. These rapidly changing moods are usually the first time you will observe these men on an emotional roller-coaster.&nbsp; </li><li>They tend to become complainers who find fault with everything and have a largely pessimistic view of the world. They will nag everyone around them about the tiniest of things and nothing can ever make them happy. At the root of all this is a lack of satisfaction they tend to feel with their own life and self.&nbsp; </li><li>These men also tend to display poor judgement and might make impulsive decisions or purchases. This can be affected by their turbulent moods as well.&nbsp; </li><li>Some men will inevitably end up using substances to cope and deal with the crisis. This can lead to other poor choices such as gambling.&nbsp; </li><li>These men are also highly irritable in all areas of life. You can find them throwing a tantrum at the office and at home and it’s increasingly obvious that everything tends to frustrate them now.&nbsp; </li><li>Some men might also become withdrawn and give up on their relationships and goals. They stop doing the activities they usually keep themselves busy with and go into hermit mode. There is a sense of boredom with the life they have created for themselves so far and want to run away from it. &nbsp; </li><li>An acute and heightened sense of awareness and self-consciousness about their marital, work, health or economic and social status.&nbsp; </li></ul>These midlife crises usually have a peak after which they end and most people come out on the other side better and changed individuals. They tend to become more comfortable with the new normal and make their peace with it. There will be a re prioritising and refocusing of their perspective but they are ready for the challenge and the next phase of life.&nbsp; So how do these lucky ones navigate something so precarious?&nbsp;

How to Cope

<ul><li>Acknowledge that you have these feelings and they tend to be overwhelming enough to lead you into a crisis.&nbsp; </li><li>Let your partner, colleagues and friends know and reach out for help. Chances are they are also feeling the same way and might have some groundbreaking insight. If nothing, you will at least realise you're not alone in this.&nbsp; </li><li>Accept that it’s completely normal to feel this way and it’s the natural progression of life. It’s just another stage in your growth and it too shall pass.&nbsp; </li><li>Try not to make any big decisions by making sure you consult either your partner or a trusted friend/mentor beforehand. This reduces your chances of making any impulsive decisions you might come to regret later.&nbsp; </li><li>Invest in your physical and mental wellbeing. Join a gym or pick up one physical activity that you enjoy doing and stick with it. Being active also makes you feel better emotionally. Meditation and yoga can also help calm down those recurrent feelings of anxiety.&nbsp; </li><li>Embrace the oncoming changes and appreciate the effect of time on circumstance. Recognise that ageing might not be the worst thing in the world and you can still continue to enjoy life in your older age.&nbsp; </li></ul>

The process of ageing can be daunting and life can seem quite overwhelming at any point in time. Some people tend to suffer through these crises earlier in life, which is happening more and more lately thanks to social media and the impending threat of climate change, food and water shortages and the general upheaval in society.&nbsp;People feel they are not only stuck behind while their peers have progressed and achieved so much more in life, but they also think any effort is futile since the world is ending anyway. This is what we call a ‘quarter life crisis’ which looks almost the same as having a mid-life crisis but in your 20s and 30s.&nbsp;In either scenario, taking a step back and looking at the whole forest instead of the trees might help and calm you down. It’s never too late to make any changes or achieve anything.&nbsp; However, if none of these things work it is likely that you're depressed and can benefit from seeking professional help. Although a midlife crisis is not the same as depression, it can still precipitate it.Recognising that with each stage of life there needs to be a readjustment and you’re more than capable of it can be a huge task. You don’t have to accomplish it alone.&nbsp;Another interesting concept to acknowledge here is that some renowned psychologists have deemed a midlife crisis as the process that leads to self-actualisation, the last need on Maslow’s hierarchy. Integrating all your knowledge, intuition, thoughts and feelings into a newer version of you can be daunting and can rightfully lead to a state of crisis. However, there is hope on the other side of it where your identity achieves a much more solid footing.&nbsp;

Myth Buster: Women Have Higher Sex Drives Than Men

You&rsquo;ve probably heard things like this: Men get turned on at the slightest provocation and are ready to have sex anytime, anywhere, while women tend to want sex less often and have to be &ldquo;in the mood.&rdquo; For years, that&rsquo;s been the widespread belief: Men just have higher sex drives than women.

Research has often been cited to back up the idea that, perhaps because of their higher <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/navigating-testosterones-impact-on-heart-health-and-manopause">testosterone</a> levels, men think more about sex, seek it more actively, and get turned on more easily. Men&rsquo;s sexuality is like an on-off switch, while women&rsquo;s sexuality is a complicated network of connections. Right?

Actually, no! 
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Other research &ndash; along with an evolving understanding of sexuality, gender, and desire &ndash; are telling us that sex drive doesn&rsquo;t fit neatly into columns labeled &ldquo;male&rdquo; and &quot;female.&rdquo;

&ldquo;Not only is the idea that men have higher sex drives an oversimplified notion, but it&rsquo;s really just not true,&rdquo; says Sarah Hunter Murray, PhD, a marriage and family therapist and the author of Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex, and Relationships. 
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Many Influences

&ldquo;Our social norms and the ways we&rsquo;re raised to either lean into our sexuality or repress it have a huge impact on how we experience our sexuality and how we report it in studies,&rdquo; Hunter Murray says. &ldquo;People raised as men in our society have been typically given more permission to speak openly about wanting sex, while young women have often been told not to express their sexuality.&rdquo;

Justin Garcia, PhD, executive director of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University, agrees.

&ldquo;Our sexual interest is driven by many factors, including not only biology, age, and use of medications, but also by situation &ndash; for both men and women,&rdquo; he says. &ldquo;Sexual attitudes are affected significantly by societal and religious attitudes. If you&rsquo;ve been told that expressing your sexuality is bad, over time that will impact your sense of whether you should be doing it or not.&rdquo;

And those messages may have influenced the research that has been telling us men want sex more than women. 
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Desire Disparities

It&rsquo;s hard to gauge whether men really want sex more than women when you&rsquo;re interviewing either men or women in isolation for research. If a man says he wants sex more than his female partner does, how do you know she&rsquo;d see things the same way?

The few studies that have looked at sexual desire in a &ldquo;dyadic&rdquo; relationship &ndash; that is, they interviewed opposite-sex couples in a relationship with each other &ndash; have pretty consistently found that men are no more or less likely to be the partner who wants more sex, more often.

One of the first studies to find this pattern was done more than 20 years ago. Among a group of 72 college-age, heterosexual couples, about half reported that they had similar levels of sexual desire. Among the couples who differed in their desire, about half of those said it was the male partner who wanted sex less often. 
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More recently, Hunter Murray published a similar study of college-age couples that had much the same results. About half of the couples had similar levels of desire. And among those who did not, men were just as likely as women to be the partner with lower sex drive.

&ldquo;Multiple studies show that men&rsquo;s and women&rsquo;s sexual desire levels are more similar than different,&rdquo; Hunter Murray says. There has not been much research on levels of desire in transgender and nonbinary people.

&ldquo;Gender norms about sex drive are outdated in a lot of ways,&rdquo; she says. &ldquo;If there&rsquo;s something about the way you experience desire that falls in line with a stereotype, that&rsquo;s fine, but so many of us fall outside of these limited boxes. There are men whose interest in sex ranges from low to none, to very high, and it&rsquo;s the same for women. As humans, we vary, and as long as your sexual expression is in a healthy way that feels good and right for you [and your partner(s)], chances are your experience is normal.&rdquo;

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Rukhsana Rizwan

How Sexual Intimacy With Their Partner Keeps Women Young

Staying intimate with your partner even later in life has many health benefits. Scientists have long-observed that married women have a much later age of natural <a href="https://merisehat.pk/disease/menopause">menopause</a> than single or divorced women, but there was no known reason why. 

One of the hypotheses was that sexual frequency behaved as a bio-behavioural mediator between delayed menopause and marital status. Studies have shown that married people engage in intercourse more frequently than those who are not. 
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Regular Sex Delays Menopause: According to a study published in the Royal Society Open Science, researchers tracked the sex lives nearly 3,000 American women for a decade, starting when they were, at average, around 45 years of age. What they found was that those women who engaged in less sex were more likely to reach menopause at an earlier age. 

More specifically, those who engaged in sexual activity on a weekly basis were 28 percent less likely to experience menopause compared with those who engaged in sexual activity less than on a monthly basis. Those that engaged in sexual activity on a monthly basis were 19 percent less likely to experience menopause than those who engaged in sexual activity less than on a monthly basis. 

Please note that researchers defined sexual activity as intercourse, touching, oral sex and self-stimulation. 
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Use It Or Lose It: This is because women&rsquo;s bodies may be reacting to less sexual activity on a &ldquo;use it or lose it&rdquo; basis. If you&rsquo;re not having sex, the chances of pregnancy are dramatically lowered, and so your body decides to&hellip; &lsquo;retire&rsquo;. 

&ldquo;The findings of our study suggest that if a woman is not having sex, and there is no chance of pregnancy, then the body &lsquo;chooses&rsquo; not to invest in ovulation, as it would be pointless,&rdquo;&nbsp;Megan Arnot, the first author of the study and a PhD candidate at University College London said in a statement released with the study. She added that, &ldquo;Ovulation is a costly process both in terms of energy and due to the fact, it worsens immune function.&rdquo; 

&ldquo;When approaching midlife, there may be a trade-off between continued ovulation and the likelihood of becoming pregnant, with sexual frequency serving as the cue of possible pregnancy,&rdquo; stated Megan Arnot. &ldquo;Mechanistically, it is likely something to do with oestrogen, but we don&rsquo;t know the exact pathway.&rdquo;

She contended that there may be a biological trade-off between investing energy into ovulation and elsewhere, such as the body using that same energy to keep the woman active so she may look after her grandchildren. This is also known as the grandmother hypothesis. 
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The &lsquo;Grandmother Hypothesis&rsquo;: The body&rsquo;s natural choice to discontinue fertility to invest more time in family is known as the &ldquo;grandmother hypothesis.&rdquo; Scientists hypothesise that women evolved to have their bodies go through menopause to reduce reproductive conflict between different generations of women in one family. This was to allow for the older generation to instead focus on investing their energy into taking care of their grandchildren instead of having more of their own. 
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Sexual Frequently Is Just One Possible Link: Women who are generally in poorer health also tend to be less sexually active. There is evidence to show that healthy sexual activity is important for overall health and quality of life. And while increased sexual activity may be linked to delayed menopause, more research is needed to uncover a causal pathway. 

Researchers do not want women who women who struggle with premature menopause or other reproductive issues to think that having more sex could have preserved their fertility. There are other factors that affect fertility, such as smoking, bad health etc. 
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The study simply shows that there is an association between frequency of sexual activity and delayed menopause. Having a healthy sex life is good for our health and making changes to improve it may benefit our quality of life and overall health. But will it guarantee later menopause? No, it will not. 
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Why You Should Go To A Sex Therapist

They say you should never judge a book by its cover. But can we judge a profession by its title? Maybe, but we also need to understand that there is more than what meets the eye and aspects that go beyond the what the title indicates.

Sex therapy is one of the most misunderstood professions out there. There is a stigma with it that it is only for those people or couples who have psychological trouble related to intercourse. If you think about it, that seems too simple and basic to be turned into a complete profession. 

So, what is it that sex therapists really do? Read on to find out. 
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Sex Therapist

A sex therapist is a mental health professional who specialises in the treatment of sexual issues and concerns. These professionals typically have advanced training and education in human sexuality and may hold a degree in <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/a-guide-to-couples-counselling-what-is-it-and-when-should-you-seek-help">counselling</a>, psychology, social work, or a related field. They may also be certified or licensed by a professional organisation. 
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Sex therapists use a variety of therapeutic techniques, such as talk therapy, behavioural therapy, and education about human sexuality, to help clients overcome sexual difficulties and improve their sexual well-being. They may also provide clients with tools and techniques to improve their sexual function, underlying behaviour that is subconsciously related to sex and may even improve your relationship with your partner.

It&rsquo;s important to note that sex therapists are different from sexologists, who are researchers and academics who study human sexuality and from sex workers, who provide sexual services to clients. 
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Sex therapy is very similar to couples&rsquo; therapy except for it offers a lot more value than that. Much like couples&rsquo; counselling, sex therapy addresses the underlying issues in your relationship and allows you to develop healthier behavioural outcomes based on that. 
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In simple words, sex therapy is an amalgam of your usual therapy, couples&rsquo; therapy with an added bonus of sex-related counselling to. The target is to find the underlying psychological connections between your behaviour and its impact on your partner and how it translates into your daily life functioning as well as into your sex life and love life. 
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To become a sex therapist, you typically need to have a master&rsquo;s or doctoral degree in counselling, psychology, social work or a related field. Some sex therapists also hold a degree in nursing, medicine or other healthcare-related fields. 
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In addition to formal education, most sex therapists complete supervised clinical training. This includes working with clients under the supervision of a licensed therapist or counsellor. They also need to complete a certain amount of continuing education hours to maintain their license.

To become a licensed sex therapist, you typically must pass a certification exam from a professional organisation, such as the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counsellors and Therapists (AASECT) or the International Society for the Study of Women&rsquo;s Sexual Health (ISSWSH). 
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It is also important for sex therapists to have good communication skills, empathy, and an understanding of human sexuality. They should also be comfortable discussing sensitive topics and have a non-judgmental attitude.

It&rsquo;s worth noting that requirements for licensure and certification vary by state and country, so it&#39;s important to check with your local regulatory boards for specific requirements. 
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Umna Salah

Embracing Sex Positivity: What It Truly Means

Sex positivity is a powerful and transformative concept that has gained momentum in recent years. It encourages individuals to celebrate their sexual identities, desires, and experiences without shame or judgment. In this article, we&#39;ll delve into the meaning of sex positivity, its relevance in today&#39;s society, and how it can contribute to a more liberated and fulfilling sexual life. 
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Embracing Sex Positivity

<ul>
	<li>Breaking Free From Taboos: Sex positivity is about challenging societal taboos and stigmas surrounding sexuality. It emphasizes that there is no inherently &quot;right&quot; or &quot;wrong&quot; way to express one&#39;s sexuality, as long as it is consensual and respectful. 
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	<li>Embracing Diversity: It celebrates the diversity of sexual orientations, genders, and preferences. Sex positivity recognizes that every individual&#39;s experience is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all approach to sexuality. 
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	<li>Consent And Respect: A core tenet of sex positivity is enthusiastic and informed consent. It emphasizes that all sexual activities should be consensual, free from coercion, and based on mutual respect and communication. 
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<ul>
	<li>Empowerment And Self-Acceptance: Embracing sex positivity can empower individuals to accept and love themselves for who they are, including their sexual desires and preferences. It encourages a positive self-image and fosters self-confidence. 
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	<li>Fostering Healthy Relationships: Sex-positive attitudes can improve communication and intimacy in relationships. It promotes open and honest discussions about desires and boundaries, leading to more fulfilling and satisfying connections. 
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	<li>Reducing Shame And Guilt: Many people carry<a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/the-shame-that-men-carry"> shame </a>and guilt surrounding their sexual experiences. Sex positivity aims to eradicate these negative feelings, allowing individuals to explore their desires free from emotional baggage. 
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<ul>
	<li>Not About Promiscuity: Contrary to some misconceptions, sex positivity is not an endorsement of promiscuity. It&#39;s about making informed choices, respecting boundaries, and embracing consensual sexual experiences. 
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	<li>Not Anti-Abstinence: Sex positivity doesn&#39;t negate the choice of abstinence or celibacy. It acknowledges that different individuals have different needs and desires, and all choices should be respected. 
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<ul>
	<li>Education And Awareness: Educate yourself about sexuality, consent, and communication. Knowledge is a powerful tool in fostering a healthy and positive relationship with your own sexuality. 
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	<li>Open Communication: Practice open and honest communication with your partners about desires, boundaries, and expectations. This can lead to more fulfilling and satisfying sexual experiences. 
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	<li>Challenge Stereotypes: Be mindful of societal stereotypes and stigmas about sex. Challenge them when you encounter them, and promote a more inclusive and accepting attitude towards sexuality. 
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Bottom Line

Sex positivity is not just a trendy concept; it&#39;s a philosophy that can empower individuals to embrace their authentic selves and create healthier, more fulfilling sexual lives. By breaking free from taboos, celebrating diversity, and promoting consent and respect, we can create a more open and accepting society where everyone feels free to explore their own unique sexual journey without fear or shame. Embrace sex positivity, and discover the liberation it can bring to your life.

Demystifying Sex Addiction: Understanding The Compulsion

Sex addiction, also known as compulsive sexual behavior disorder, is a condition that has gained recognition in recent years. Yet, it remains shrouded in misconceptions. In this article, we will delve into what sex addiction truly entails, exploring its definition, characteristics, and the avenues for seeking help and support. 
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Demystifying Sex Addiction

<ul>
	<li>A Pattern Of Compulsive Behavior: Sex addiction is characterized by a persistent pattern of engaging in sexual activities despite negative consequences. Individuals with this condition often find it challenging to control their sexual impulses, leading to a sense of powerlessness. 
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	<li>Escalation And Preoccupation: Those with sex addiction may experience an escalation in their sexual behaviors and preoccupation with sexual thoughts. This can disrupt daily life and lead to distress. 
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	<li>Impact On Relationships: Sex addiction often takes a toll on personal relationships, as individuals may prioritize their sexual behaviors over their loved ones&#39; well-being, causing conflict and emotional turmoil. 
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<ul>
	<li>Excessive Pornography Consumption: Frequent and compulsive consumption of <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/how-pornography-impacts-sexual-wellness">pornography</a> can be a sign of sex addiction. Individuals may spend significant time viewing explicit material, even to the detriment of their work or personal life. 
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	<li>Multiple Sexual Partners: Engaging in sexual activities with multiple partners, often without regard for their own safety or the safety of others, is a common manifestation of sex addiction. 
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	<li>Unsafe Sexual Practices: Sex addicts may engage in unsafe sexual practices, such as unprotected sex or risky sexual encounters, increasing the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). 
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	<li>Loss Of Control: An inability to control sexual behaviors despite a sincere desire to stop or cut back is a hallmark of sex addiction. This lack of control can lead to feelings of shame and guilt. 
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<ul>
	<li>Biological Factors: Some research suggests that brain chemistry and genetics may play a role in the development of sex addiction. Differences in neurotransmitter levels and reward pathways could contribute to compulsive behavior. 
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	<li>Psychological Factors: Underlying psychological issues, such as trauma, depression, anxiety, or low self-esteem, can contribute to the development of sex addiction as individuals use sex as a coping mechanism. 
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	<li>Environmental Factors: Early exposure to explicit material or experiencing a permissive attitude toward sexual behavior within the family or peer group can influence the development of sex addiction. 
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<ul>
	<li>Therapy And Counseling: Individual and group therapy, as well as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), can be effective in helping individuals understand and manage their compulsive sexual behavior. 
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	<li>Support Groups: Joining support groups like Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) or seeking the help of a sponsor can provide valuable peer support and accountability. 
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	<li>Medication: In some cases, medication may be prescribed to address underlying issues such as depression or anxiety that contribute to sex addiction. 
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	<li>Lifestyle Changes: Learning healthy coping mechanisms, managing stress, and adopting a balanced lifestyle can also aid in recovery from sex addiction. 
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Sex addiction is a complex condition that can have a profound impact on an individual&#39;s life and relationships. Understanding its signs and causes is the first step toward seeking help and embarking on a journey of healing and recovery. With the right support and treatment, individuals can regain control over their lives and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

How To Find Meaning And Purpose In Life

In his book Love&rsquo;s Executioner, Irvin D. Yalom suggests that life is inherently meaningless, and the search for meaning must be conducted obliquely. This means that meaning arises from meaningful activity rather than actively searching for it. Here&#39;s how to cultivate a sense of purpose in your life. 
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<h5>Connect With Yourself</h5>

To find a sense of purpose, it&#39;s important to connect with yourself. Start by connecting with your values and defining what brings you joy. These can be your <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/the-role-of-hobbies-and-interests-in-maintaining-a-fulfilling-retirement">hobbies</a>, passions, or ways of connecting with the world. Become aware of your own talents and skills, and identify what areas of life you excel in.

Journaling and meditation can be powerful tools for elevating this practice. Writing can be a way of having a conversation with yourself and keeping a record. Exercises like this can bring your awareness to aspects of yourself you may not have been consciously aware of. 
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<h5>Ask For Feedback</h5>

Ask the people around you for feedback to get an honest picture of where your talents lie and what areas you could work on better. You can also use this feedback to cultivate a growth mindset and aim to do a little better today than you did yesterday. 
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<h5>Foster Community</h5>

Foster a relationship with your community by surrounding yourself with people who inspire you, people you can learn from, and those who are driven by purpose. Being around these individuals may help you discover new avenues to explore your own purpose. 
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<h5>Cultivate Altruism</h5>

Cultivate a sense of altruism by exploring different ways to make the world easier to live in for those around you and people who are less privileged than you. Volunteer at an animal shelter, raise funds for charity organizations, or offer your professional services pro bono. Diversify the ways in which you practice altruism to find at least one cause you&#39;re passionate about and can contribute to. 
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Remember that your purpose is not a destination or an end-goal to work towards. Having a sense of purpose is about living your life with intention, an intention that will shift and grow as you do and help you choose how you want to live your life.

By actively engaging in meaningful actions and interactions, we can give our lives a sense of purpose and create a meaningful life for ourselves. Cultivating a sense of purpose can contribute to our mental and physical well-being, and even help us live longer. However, it&#39;s important to remember that our purpose is not necessarily a divinely ordained destiny but rather a shifting and evolving intention that is rooted in our unique personalities, experiences, and inherited characteristics.

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To discover our purpose, we can start by connecting with ourselves, exploring our values, passions, and talents. Journaling, meditating, and seeking feedback from friends and family can all be effective ways to gain insight into ourselves. Additionally, fostering relationships with those who inspire us, diversifying our altruistic efforts, and surrounding ourselves with a supportive community can help us discover new avenues to explore our own purpose.

Ultimately, finding a sense of purpose is about living our lives with intention, a purpose that will evolve and shift as we grow and change. By focusing on the journey rather than a specific destination, we can create a life of meaning and purpose that is uniquely our own. 
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Ayesha Binte Rashid

The Risks Of Rushing Into Romance: The Dangers Of Frequently Falling In Love

The idea of falling in love has been a source of fascination for human beings for centuries. From Shakespearean sonnets to modern-day rom-coms and most of Taylor Swift songs, love is often portrayed as a magical, all-encompassing force that can not only sway you in any direction but also conquer all obstacles. However, as fascinating and life-changing love can be, it can also be a source of danger when entered into too hastily, too often and without much thought going into the process.&nbsp; 
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Rushing into Romance

What does it actually mean to &lsquo;rush into romance&rsquo; you ask? This refers to the act of quickly entering into a romantic relationship with someone without taking the time to really get to know them. This can happen for a variety of reasons - perhaps you have been quite lonely or desperate for companionship, or maybe others around you have all achieved the regular milestones of finding their one true love and settling down with them so now you must play catch-up. Whatever may be your reason for rushing into romance, it can have serious consequences. Including these: 
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<ul>
	<li>One of the biggest risks of rushing into romance is that you may <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/slowly-fading-away-what-is-quiet-quitting-a-relationship">end up in a relationship</a> with someone who is not right for you. When you don&#39;t take the time to get to know someone before committing to a relationship, you may miss important warning signs or red flags that indicate that the person is not a good match for you. In the beginning of every relationship, we all tend to put our best foot forward. But as soon as we are sure that the other has fallen for our charm, hook, line and sinker, we tend to default back to our natural ways of being. This isn&rsquo;t because we&rsquo;re bad people, it&rsquo;s just because we&rsquo;re human. This is why we call the initial stages of a relationship &lsquo;the honeymoon phase&rsquo;. Our mutual infatuation and appreciation of one another keeps us comfortably clueless of the reality of one another as well. This can lead to a lot of pain and heartache down the line when the relationship inevitably falls apart as real life starts to creep in.</li>
	<li>Another danger of frequently falling in love is that it can become addictive. Just like any other addiction, the rush of falling in love can be intoxicating and can lead to a cycle of constantly seeking out new relationships in order to feel that rush again. This is the same as being a dopamine junkie. The rush of finding someone so perfect and having them like you back, there is surely nothing like it in the whole wide world for some of us. This can lead to a lot of emotional turmoil and instability, as well as a sense of dissatisfaction with any long-term relationships that may come along. This is because in long-term relationships, you rarely experience great highs and lows. They naturally have a more peaceful and calming effect instead of the usual butterflies. Imagine having to exist on the verge of a panic attack your whole life. Who would want that?&nbsp;&nbsp;</li>
	<li>Additionally, rushing into romance can lead to a lack of self-care and self-awareness. When you are constantly jumping from one relationship to the next, you may not take the time to really figure out who you are as a person and what you actually want out of life. This can lead to a lack of personal growth and development as well as a sense of emptiness and purposelessness. This feeds into the cycle of you choosing the wrong person over and over again until you&rsquo;re utterly disenchanted by the whole process and incapable of experiencing anything real or authentic.&nbsp;</li>
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Protect Yourself

So, how can you protect yourself from rushing into romance? The key is to take things slow and really get to know the person you are considering entering into a relationship with. This means taking the time to have meaningful conversations and to ask important questions about each other&#39;s values, goals and interests. It also means being honest and transparent about your own feelings and expectations. It&#39;s also important to take care of yourself and to prioritize your own well-being. This means making time for self-care activities like exercise, meditation, or hobbies that you enjoy. It also means being willing to walk away from a relationship that is not right for you, even if it means being single for a while. Its only when you&rsquo;re sufficient in yourself that you can actually become a healthy partner for others and attract healthy partners as well. 
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While falling in love can be a beautiful and transformative experience, it&#39;s important to approach romance with caution and mindfulness. We as a society collectively need to squash the idea that love is an uncontrollable force and we must follow wherever it leads us. Most of the time what we tend to call love is just the initial rush and excitement you feel for the novel experiences. A good relationship requires you to actually gauge the person, the situation and how you both will fit together to build something meaningful. Instead of it being the other way around where we make the major decision of falling in love first and thinking of the practicalities later on.&nbsp;

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The emotional landscape of our early years has a profound impact on our adult lives, particularly when it comes to our sexuality. Growing up with a sense of shame can cast a long shadow over one&#39;s sexual experiences and relationships. In this article, we delve into the intricate ways in which childhood shame affects your sex life. 
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Shame Affects On Sex Life

<ul>
	<li>Understanding Childhood Shame: Childhood <a href="https://merisehat.pk/article/shame-the-most-toxic-emotion">shame</a> often arises from various sources, such as strict upbringing, cultural norms, or traumatic experiences. It can manifest as feelings of unworthiness, guilt, or embarrassment. 
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	<li>Impact Of Caregiver Attitudes: The attitudes and behaviors of caregivers can significantly influence a child&#39;s sense of shame. Parents who exhibit judgment, criticism, or withholding of affection may inadvertently contribute to the development of shame. 
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</ul>

Lack Of Education: In many cultures, open and comprehensive sexual education is still lacking. The absence of age-appropriate information can lead to confusion, misinformation, and a sense of shame about one&#39;s body and desires. 
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Religious And Cultural Beliefs: Religious or cultural teachings that label certain sexual behaviors as sinful or immoral can foster feelings of shame around one&#39;s natural desires. 
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Negative Body Image: Childhood shame can lead to negative body image issues, making individuals feel self-conscious about their appearance, particularly in intimate settings. 
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Sexual Dysfunctions: Shame-related body image issues can contribute to sexual dysfunctions, such as erectile dysfunction or difficulty achieving orgasm, due to heightened anxiety and self-criticism. 
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<ul>
	<li>Fear Of Vulnerability: Shame can instill a fear of vulnerability in intimate relationships, making individuals hesitant to open up emotionally or express their desires and needs. 
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	<li>Inhibition And Avoidance: Those burdened by shame may avoid sexual encounters altogether or engage in sexual activities with a sense of detachment or emotional distance. 
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</ul>

<ul>
	<li>Substance Abuse And Risky Sexual Behavior: Some individuals may resort to substance abuse or engage in risky sexual behaviors as a way to cope with their shame and numb their emotions. 
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	<li>Promiscuity Or Avoidance: Shame can lead to polarized behaviors, with some individuals becoming promiscuous to seek validation and others avoiding sexual encounters altogether. 
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</ul>

<ul>
	<li>Therapy And Counseling: Seeking therapy or counseling can be a powerful step towards healing from childhood shame. Professional guidance can help individuals identify and address the root causes of their shame. 
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	<li>Self-Acceptance And Self-Compassion: Cultivating self-acceptance and self-compassion is essential. Learning to embrace one&#39;s sexuality without judgment or shame is a transformative journey. 
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</ul>

<ul>
	<li>Open Communication: Healthy relationships are built on open and honest communication. Learning to express desires, boundaries, and concerns with a partner can create a safe and supportive environment. 
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	<li>Mindful Intimacy: Practicing mindful intimacy, where partners focus on the present moment and emotional connection, can help individuals overcome the barriers created by childhood shame. 
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Childhood shame can cast a long shadow over one&#39;s sex life, but it&#39;s important to remember that healing and transformation are possible. By addressing the root causes of shame, seeking professional help when needed, and cultivating self-acceptance, individuals can unshackle themselves from the chains of shame and build healthier, more fulfilling sexual lives and relationships.